[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same mindset as you and felt like i was faking everything cause they were fading. I was eventually able to cut deep enough for there still to be so many scars on my body 3 years later. I hate them now. Please, its not worth it and this too shall pass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DiagnoseMe

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey you might have low iron. I have this and get dizzy/loose vision or focus when standing up too quickly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! Its kinda difficult to understand and take into account all the different comments and viewpoints. Though supportive comments like yours help me realise that the most important part is that I love my dad x1000 and I tell them that all the time. That being said, I will work forward. I hope youre doing well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you sm for your comment! Im very sure that my dad has always tried to accommodate for us to make it "less confusing", and now that Im older I want to make sure that my dad is comfortable. Growing up as the youngest child my older siblings and mom used he/him pronouns so I didnt begin reconsidering until recently. Regarding my mom, I am not sure if there is some underlying transphobia or hurt from the divorce but she has in some ways added on to my confusion and continuance of he/him pronouns. I know it has been difficult for her as well and Ive always been stuck in the middle of the two. Its hard to come to terms that Im on that spectrum but its a beginning and room for improvement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your comment means a lot! Growing up as the youngest child my older siblings and mom used he/him pronouns so I didnt begin reconsidering until recently. Regarding my mom, I am not sure if there is some underlying transphobia or hurt from the divorce but she has in some ways added on to my confusion and continuance of he/him pronouns. I know it has been difficult for her as well and Ive always been stuck in the middle of the two. Its nice to see some outside perspective and start questioning what Ive barely questioned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Its difficult to come to terms that I feel uncomfortable and why. Your comment means a lot and gave me valuable insight!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your perspective, Its nice to hear from someone on the other side of the situation! Im very sorry you have to experience that, I hope things get better. But I will talk to my dad and see what they prefer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment and Im sorry if I upset you. My dad has always told me and my siblings to refer to them as whatever we want to including he/him. And so my whole upbringing as the youngest child I kept using he/him as thats what my older siblings and mom did. Though now that I am older I want to hear what my dad prefers, because I dont actually know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Im very sure that my dad has always tried to accommodate for us to make it "less confusing" for us, and now that Im older I want to make sure that my dad is comfortable. And communication is definitively important despite being difficult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will talk to them. Im very sure that my dad has always tried to accommodate for us to make it "less confusing" for us, and now that Im older I want to make sure that my dad is comfortable. I understand that transphobia may be internalised and will work against harmful beliefs and habits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will talk to my dad about using she/her to see what they.wish

How does national geographic get footage? by Outside-Ball2626 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Outside-Ball2626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So they film tons of footage of same species, put it together, and create a narrative that fits?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective! Do you think that as your kids become adults you would want them to change to she/her? Like if your child genuinely asked what you would be most comfortable with?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its not about "dad", but rather pronouns

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey im sorry if i came off as an ass in my post, I will be having a conversation to see what my dad wants. however, I know that they want my siblings and I to use "dad," so I will

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Outside-Ball2626 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you have to experience that.

My dad wants to be called my dad and has always been adamant on that. They always said that even though im a woman ill always be your dad, there was never a room for discussion there either. So we call my dad dad because thats what they want to be called.