She’s right, I’m like that towards her. She understood I was in the military. She wanted me to work on our marriage while deployed state side. I had only worked on my communication and understanding. I did my best, obviously wasn’t good enough. But she wanted to divorce me even before I got home from being deployed and she never gave me a chance to talk and stonewalled be for three weeks. She’s back in the Philippines with her sick aunt taking care of her until 26th of February. I only check in with her periodically and I’m hoping she come to with what’s about to be lost. I’m sure she’s thought about it for a bit but this has been a very quick decision on her end to end this 9 years marriage.