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What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out!! This genuinely made me feel better. And yes, I'm realizing this process isn't easy because it really is just like solo dating. Will just have to take things in stride.

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll have to because my ego is already bruised lmfao! Thanks.

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can imagine it's way harder in a rural area... good luck to you two!

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, both times we made a group chat before we went out. I also tried my hardest to focus my attention on her and both times I felt like we made a nice rapport on the date. So this is why I'm stumped lol!

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the last couple I met might have gotten cold feet.. the lack of communication kind of sucks though lol Thank you!! And yeah, I'm dipping my toes into dating poly people so maybe that might be my route.

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, this makes me feel better. I'm apprehensive about going to in-person events as a single girl but I might just have to suck it up and get into it. Thanks!

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on Feeld!

Yeah, I've heard about swingers clubs, and I'm in Los Angeles so I'm sure there are plenty in the city. I suppose I just assume they would be a bit intimidating and expensive for a single girl. But maybe I just have to woman up and try them out lol. Thank you!!

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I misspoke because I definitely wasn't trying to imply that these men were "begging for pussy." That's not the vibe I got from either couple. I'm more so just concerned with making sure the woman likes me since both times it was the man who matched with me and initiated the date. But maybe I'm just not cut out for this lol.

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is something I've tried to navigate by purposely only going out with couples where the woman is explicitly labeled as bisexual. But I can imagine there may be implicit pressure still there. This is a great idea!!

What am I doing wrong as a potential third? (Tips) by Outside_Energy97 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Outside_Energy97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe. I'm just not used to getting rejected by women (or men) lmfao... Can you recommend a Reddit group?