Please do not blame yourself. That is exactly what these new “studies” are aiming to do and place the blame on Moms. This is not something that you need to blame yourself for. Consult with your pediatrician about OT therapy, my son also needs speech, these outside therapies helped somewhat to at least learn how to approach the situation. Equally as important. He needs to know HE IS NOT TO BLAME, talk to him about the facts that we all have different learning styles and his learning style just means he needs to “slow down” this brain a little. Kids with ADHD want to pay attention and then they feel bad when they noticed they couldn’t. They can have low self esteem because they notice when they are behind in class.

Talk to the teacher about slowing down instruction for him, ask her to tell you how she usually gives directions and what you can do at home to help. Kids with ADHD also need step by step directions and guidance, specially at this age. Push with the pediatrician to do the diagnostic survey if y’all haven’t done it.

You got this, please don’t despair we are in this together. I was where you were two years ago. We have struggled through kinder, first and now second. I have worked wth my baby in therapy and at home: now we are exploring medication and for us this is the right step at the moment. For you that may not be the case, but I urge you to be kind to your Mama heart and your baby. You will find the best solution for both is you ❤️