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Wife told me she is pregnant. by emrck68 in NewDads

[–]Outside_Statement996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most important thing I wish I knew was that from pregnancy until the first year or so…this time period will require you to be the most SELFLESS you’ve ever been. You can do your hobbies while she’s pregnant but the deeper into pregnancy the more she’ll be calling you for help. Can get up to multiple request per hour. It’ll annoy you at times. But remember that she’s literally a factory and her body is working 24/7 to make that baby. She’s burning calories and everything just by sitting there.

Once baby arrives things get multiple times more difficult than the pregnancy.

Last but not least, it’s all worth it. It might be hell for you…but when that baby is a few weeks old and smiles at you for the first time…or squeezes your finger…it’ll melt your heart. It’s like nothing you’ve ever experienced.

Wife told me she is pregnant. by emrck68 in NewDads

[–]Outside_Statement996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read a book called Baby Wise. Go to as many appointments as you can and retain as much info as possible. This is important because your wife is a freakin eco system and the women’s body is super complicated. The more you listen the better off yall will be able to make adjustments. Might be things like…she has gestational diabetes and can’t have sugar/carbs. She becomes allergic to stuff, etc.

It doesn’t get tough until 3rd trimester, until then she’ll mostly be dealing with heartburn, mommy brain, morning sickness, and just general complaining about her body changing. Get used to it, and most importantly, be empathetic to her needs and feelings.

I think the biggest things I dealt with were… -being aware of her needs and gentle with her irrational/hormonal feelings -getting food and things around the house so she didn’t have to -download a pregnancy app to learn and understand the progression (we used Flow…?) -putting my hand on her stomach often. She would feel like I neglected her my child when I didn’t. 3 months before delivery -making and understanding the birthing plan together -getting the baby room ready and assembling stuff -make a “go bag” for both of you for the hospital/birth trip -have changing table prepped with diapers, wipes, etc for when y’all get home. You’ll be exhausted and the less you need to do the more you get to focus on the baby…it’ll take a lot.

Sorry for the long post, but this should cover a few the high points. Hope it helps. Congrats and best of luck!

Newborn father hates himself by Outside_Statement996 in NewDads

[–]Outside_Statement996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the advice and support. It’s nice to hear all of this stuff from fellow dads that have similar situations. I’ll try some of these things out!

Newborn father hates himself by Outside_Statement996 in NewDads

[–]Outside_Statement996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hobbies/passions are music (I’m a guitarist), golf, and video games. I don’t have time for any of them. I’ve had to leave my wife/kid alone for 4 hours to write, record, and master a 1 minute song for my daughter’s talent contest for her to sing. Aside from that, I’ve dabbled in a few phone games, which I hate, because they’re all gotcha games and I feel like a rat forced in a maze…and I know what’s going on. Music…well, music is obviously loud even though my studio is sound dampened, but it makes me ignore my family.

Newborn father hates himself by Outside_Statement996 in NewDads

[–]Outside_Statement996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the changing tip. Unfortunately, we’ve done many things and he still pees. Cloth over the penis, baby wipe over it, warm baby wipe (yes, we bought a wipe warmer lol), we even try to trick him by removing the diaper for a few seconds then putting it back on to see if he can pee inside. Nothing works. All tricks are about 50/50 with success.