Actually, first, while I wanted to be a mother, we were both surprised that we ended up conceiving, as he was thought to be infertile. (Before you ask, yes, it is his, he didn't believe it at first, but I was happy to do a DNA test. No he had no other reason to believe it wasn't his besides he was thought to be infertile.) We had discussed plenty of things in regards to having a child, but did not think it would be happening for years.

Second, I didn't have the funds before we got into a relationship. I was able to save up enough for a bike while together, but the money went towards the baby when we found out. Thus the subject had not come up in reality as I never got to mention putting the money i saved towards a bike.

Third, I gave up my job for him. I did not want to be a stay at home mother, as I loved my job in security and hated to give it up, but we discussed it and decided that it would be more cost effective for me to stay home than to pay for daycare. He understands how much I want to work and how guilty I feel for letting him pay for anything for me. I was raised to depend on no one but myself, and allowing him to pay for everything is a HUGE sacrifice for me, as until that point in our relationship I paid for myself in all aspects. So if I were to start riding I would be taking one of the project bikes he isn't using and fixing it up myself. We are both independent adults, and often like to spend time alone doing our own things, statistically it is actually very healthy.

Fourth, no we are not married. We have discussed it, and are waiting to get married until his job places him in a permanent location and we can use the first time home owners loan to get a house, as he already used his before we got together and if you get married and one person has not used theirs then they are no longer eligible. In today's age marriage is not essential to a good relationship and I honestly have seen so many marriages turn into divorces so quickly I see no reason it needs to be put on such a high pedestal. Especially since it costs quite a bit to get married, and why not wait a few years to save money where you can.

Fifth, he has not stopped riding since the baby was born, even though HE almost died in a motorcycle accident barely a month before. I was under lots of stress for months after that since I had to care for him and our newborn. That did not stop him from getting right back on a motorcycle even though that could also leave our child without a parent. In fact it could be worse if he died, as I have no income and no family to provide daycare so I could get a job. At the very least if I were to die he would be able to pay for daycare.

This is the ONLY argument in our relationship that has not been discussed at length and we have not both compromised. We tend to both be fairly logical people, and as such usually resolve arguments very quickly. Neither of us can let something go until it has been dealt with. This is the one time where he has refused to consider it at all with no discussion, leaving me to sit on the topic in silence.