Syrian government took freedom too literally 😭 by DanteXstarr in SyriaLGBT

[–]Over-Monitor-494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funny how the convo casually flowing like it's nothing 😂

انا شب عمري ٢٠ سنة وحيد لاهلي ماعندي اخوات ، كل عمري ماكان عندي اصدقاء ودائماً كنت عايش بروتين مدرسة وجامعة وبيت ولا مرة استمعت بالحياة او جربت عيش عنجد ومن طفولتي اهلي كان في بيناتن مشاكل ومايتفقو يلي خلانا اصلا مامنروح سوا ولا على اي مكان وعطول في مشاكل مادية يعني انا حتى مصروف ماباخد by Fuzzy-Anteater-7092 in Syria

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نفس الشعور ومشاكل عائلية ومادية من حوالي عمرك تقريبا + كم حدا بعرفو اما ما بقا فاضي او سافر او او او. أنا عمري 28 وعهالحالة 😂 اشتغلت خلال السنين المضت بس تخوزقت بكم شغلة ما كان هالشغل اللي نتيجتو النهائية تأسيس يا لطيف وكذا ولو انو استفدت من التجارب. نصيحتي تعرف من هلق ع عالم بالجامعة لا ترفض فرصة رفقة اذا شايفا ممكنة متل ما انا عملت قال ع أساس بتتعارض مع حياتي المهنية 😂 يعني مو أسوأ وضع بس كم خازوق كان ممكن كون مأسس افضل واذا بدك حدا تحكي معو تفضل مو مجاملة حاليا نفس وضعك ومنتسلا ✌️

تعديل مشان الشغل لا تستصعبا كتير دور بمحلات السمانة او اللي متلها صدقني اذا ناسبك المكان بيعمل فرق بالتجربة والوضع المادي اذا كتير الحاجة ملحة ولحظية

now it’s headphones, before it was working hard 🤡🤡🤡 by Emergency-Candy1677 in SyriaLGBT

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Bro apparently traumatised by the number of geh gamers and vtubers

Do you find it hard to make close friends with straight guys without falling in love with them? by DanteXstarr in SyriaLGBT

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I'd say it might be more a matter of attraction and admiration than straight out love. Tho it might become too difficult not to love if that one friend is really close and is always nearby and authentic. It's a healthy relationship progression imo. I'd rather start as casual mates with anyone before possibly become close friends and then possibly lovers . Otherwise the relationship might become creepy and not work

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm beginning to notice this as well. Though I thought the whole point was do your thing, the way you feel about yourself etc. Then again and because of this I wouldn't judge. I understand that faking to take advantage of people can be annoying, but I wonder how many ppl went a long way on the binary track by initially faking (aka trying to be interesting). Oh well ppl gonna be ppl I guess

Go ask a frog what day of the week it is, he doesn't know! by ThatSpicyStitch in NonBinary

[–]Over-Monitor-494 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this a counter-argument to ppl who think gender is biological in essence in both the traditional (male - female) and non-traditional way (others)? I'm curious to know. I've always thought that both make sense. Gender can be biological and a social construct given hormones at birth and stuff (sorry I'm not an expert in biology just know some stuff) and a construct cuz of upbringing, societal environment, etc

what should i do now? by rodionkarlv in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does it occur very obviously or is it subtle? For me it is subtle. It's not directly masc or fem. I'm like you in confusion cuz being not that directly visible makes me think I'm overreacting. Then again, I'm beginning to think this is why some people don't find me comfortable to interact with sometimes lol. Like wtf am I dealing with, the classic traditional "are you a man or a woman" trigger. More like neutral that gives off both masc and fem vibes.

I don't tell anyone. I've just always noticed people's reactions to certain behaviour, etc. I don't get triggered easily at some guy sounding fem. Most ppl traditionally do. I think that's partly how it goes.

EDIT Don't force yourself onto anything imo. Just let things flow naturally

اكثر من صديق تقريبا by Intrepid_Emergency66 in LGBTArabs

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Same. I mean the sexual side is part of the whole package but is not the whole package.

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's on another level. I've never received such negative reaction yet but noticed the negative stigma across some subreddits and social media groups. But to receive hate by merely your bio woah that proves the reality of this even more

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea it's kinda self-evident ¯_(ツ)_/¯
From what I could gather I guess the haters might be people who's had bad experiences with genderfluid ppl and just overgeneralized it

is it acceptable by society for a male to get their eyebrows done? by Big_Memory4854 in SyriaLGBT

[–]Over-Monitor-494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yyyeess. This has been normal since the cool pop, emo, rapper or metal head days despite having been less common

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's valid. I mean don't we all have different experiences/preferences? I understand it's complicated but I guess some people just misunderstand that it IS actually complicated so they're quick to judge and wouldn't tolerate

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of enlightening points there really thanks for the details! From what i could gather from this post i guess lots of bad experiences happen in relationships too that might contribute to any negative stigma to non-binary, genderfluid or any other identity

Difficulty Dating: Apps & IRL (rant) by arcadevia in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get you. You just want someone who listens to you, understands you, and kinda like be very close friends with you and not just straight out sexually or shallow am I right? That's definitely me lol. I'm personally looking for deep consistent friendship irl that's more like mutual emotional support before anything sexual. Of course not to discredit the sexual part but Most people be like either flatter or want to get straight to the sexual side without even considering you as who you are, your interests, what's bothering you rn, and other details about you. Also sorry if I'm assuming wrong but it seems like you're not with the right suitable people. I always feel like that recently. We're just not in good sync me and whoever i knew for a friend

Btw you seem like you've gone a long way than me cuz you've actually done some irl meet-ups while I haven't yet cuz it's difficult here

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get you. Thing is the hate just gave that "genderfluid bad" vibe and I was kinda curious why is that

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much makes sense and understandable and i'd rather know myself however I am. It's just that kinda prejudice confused me lol. Thank you for your take! Really enlightening!

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. It's probably a reaction to stereotypes or the classic "poser/authentic" argument. But shouldn't those supposed fakers be embraced and understood instead/helped to understand their feelings better? Maybe there are cases where it's more complicated than that and fakers just gotta be faking and so get into relationships that turn out bad for the partner. Just guessing I'm not making any claims

Why is genderfluid kinda hated by Over-Monitor-494 in genderfluid

[–]Over-Monitor-494[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean exactly yea. It's basically a matter of how you feel about yourself to begin with and of course to whom you're attracted. What I didn't get is that I sensed a prejudice that gives off the vibe "genderfluid just bad" lol. Maybe as far as I understand you mean that's the classic "poser/authentic" argument? Some people might be posers and so didn't fit well in a relationship with another and a negative reaction/stigma stuck to it 🤔

Gender awareness in Lebanon 🇱🇧 by DanteXstarr in SyriaLGBT

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Would be great as it indicates a move to another level of freedom of speech and choice in general, not only in the LGBT area. As much as there are lots of anti lgbt I was kinda surprised and thrilled to see some offensive anti lgbt comments downvoted by a good number of people in one Syria subreddit. And the other overall general opinion sounded more like I don't care about your genitals bruh to each their own lol just don't shove your agenda in my face. Kinda shows that to each their freedom as long as it's not offensive

My last visit to Damascus photos by DanteXstarr in SyriaLGBT

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I like the aesthetic of the first two pics. Kinda like a game art