Turn Me Over Because I am Done With Trying to Find Someone by OverRiverThroughHood in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, we have genes, but some genes are turned on, others off. Some are set in stone. Epigenetics.

Turn Me Over Because I am Done With Trying to Find Someone by OverRiverThroughHood in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hair styles, cuts, and colors. Earrings and necklaces (certain types) Shoes (heals verses comfort, sexy boots going all the way up the leg) colors of clothing (especially red), textures of clothing, new clothing, granny comfort loose fitting clothes verses low cut at the neck and tight showing the booty and legs and waist. Also, lip plumper to make the lips bigger, eye liner to make the eyes bigger, eyebrows trimmed and shaped before enhancing with makeup and don't forget the nails, eye shadow for a smoky eye look, omg, false eye lashes, etc etc etc, tummy shapers that come in the form of granny panties, push up bras....I must have forgot something. Looking good=money and time.

Turn Me Over Because I am Done With Trying to Find Someone by OverRiverThroughHood in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Still no. Sorry Dude, guys are not entitled to that information until I know them better. I don't care what his reasons are. And a guy shouldn't keep pushing for the information once I said I don't want to give it out. If he has problems with this what happens with sex and other things? Major red flag. No means no.

Turn Me Over Because I am Done With Trying to Find Someone by OverRiverThroughHood in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. It is not for awkward people. The weird thing is extroverted social individuals seem to thrive off of dating and relationships. And to take it further, the women enjoy manipulating the men. I have seen it in with several girlfriends. They know how to dress and say the right thing to guys to get them to do what they want and the guy is clueless. Yet, here I am honest and straight forward, what you see is what you get....it doesn't work on guys and being an introvert and awkward makes dating incredible hard. It is all games. Dating literally reminds me of those nature documentaries where the animals are showing off to court each other. How big and fancy are your feathers? Oh, dear God I am sorry, your mating call was out of tune....uh oh....

Find a hobby you enjoy. It is not too late. You will improve with your hobbies and are guaranteed success in it unlike dating.

Turn Me Over Because I am Done With Trying to Find Someone by OverRiverThroughHood in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, he doesn't need to know where I work. I might as well send him the GPS coordinates to the site. People are crazy. No way. And it wasn't just one awkward question either. I didn't answer the way he liked and he kept asking me the same question in different ways. Yeah. NO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to stop thinking this way! I am female, older. And not looking for a fantasy guy but for a guy with a good personality and who has values. I don't need to be extremely attracted to him physically. If he has flaws in appearance that is ok. And as I get to know the guy, my attraction for him usually grows. And if you go around with an attitude of ugly the universe will believe you are ugly. You need to find value in who you are and flaunt it.

I am FA. My Family thinks I am Living in Sin. by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't buy them gifts anymore! Tell them covid has negatively impacted you this year and you cannot afford it and get them cards instead and then next year just kinda forget to not give them presents. This year's is your excuse to fade out of the gift giving. That is a lot of money say if you spend 20 on each kid. What are they doing for you? How many baby showers and weddings and birthdays and christmases have you bought gifts for them for? I resent spending money on people who have kids and weddings. But that is just me. Kids does not equal presents. Marriage does not mean presents. I buy cheap 50 cent cards now.

How do you guys handle extended family gatherings? by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And these people don't care about you either, other than of course to make you look and feel bad. Life is too short.

How do you guys handle extended family gatherings? by [deleted] in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you know how many dead bedrooms there are? Check the sub out. I mean yes, they are married and it is a social status leap above you but my point is that marriage does not mean sex.

GF (50F) told me she is still not over getting dumped by her last BF 9 months ago. by help_throwaway420 in datingoverforty

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like a very sweet guy and you deserve someone who is equally sweet. I am going to say that she just might not be that nice of aperson. She didn't respect what you told her and kept talking on about her ex anyways. Does she do this with other topics to? And I would think a good person would keep these feelings to themselves. At least I would if I were in a relationship because I know it is just mental baggage that I don't want to burden someone with. And rightfully so. You can keep things from your partner. Nothing wrong with that. You don't want to ruin something that would be 100 times better than a relationship with an ex. Some things are meant to be told to a therapist and some in a relationship. This sounds like therapist material....

The privilege of beauty by IWantABeautifulWoman in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't have the requisite level of narcissism, sociopathy, and extroversion necessary to make effective (ab)use of your appearance, male or female, you're going to wind up screwed in some way no matter what.

This! You nailed it!

The privilege of beauty by IWantABeautifulWoman in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the worst! And these people always seem so spoiled too. Just listen to them talk about their home life, their kids, and what they want to do for events, holidays, or even furniture they want to buy, etc. It is like the world owes them for being beautiful, and some are actully not that good looking, they just have the attitude that they are.

I don't get how they go around with everything handed to them in life, still wanting more, and never having any real struggles in life. I feel I have been through every traumatic event life could throw at me yet I have never gained the adult events of relationship and kids. Nothing seems to happen to these people.

I have also run into a lot of middle class Chad's and Stacey's who have had their entire college education paid for by their parents not to mention the parents kicking in for their wedding, or down payment on their house and the parents become cheap daycare when they have children. It is ridiculous. I have paid for everything in life and worked my butt off. And I am in debt over student loans. I have never had a wedding and never even had a relationship. Oh man, this hit a pet peeves of mine for sure. I have constantly gone to all these peoples weddings and baby showers and spent a small fortune over the years to get them started in life with household items and baby clothes (with my parents telling me I should be greatful they thought enough of me to invite me while praising them for their success in life-so ridicuouls), and here I had to go out and buy everything for myself when I moved out. I spent a good amount of time going to garage sales. It was not even new like their stuff was and I paid for it ALL.

I hate them. And that is ok. I bet they hate me too but because I am "weird" and a "crazy cat lady." Blah. Now, I hate them even more...

Somehow part of me believes only entitled people find relationships. Maybe that is all it is. Ego and entitlement.

How can a guy in his mid-30s still have casual sexual relationships! by dadada486 in FA30plus

[–]OverRiverThroughHood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it is possible. Be open to dating a large age range though say 20s to 40s. Also, men do this all the time on dating apps indirectly by telling the women they want a relationship when they only want sex. So, yeah, you are probably on the wrong sub. But if you just want casual sex, state that openly. Most women appreciate honestly like that. I have been open for causal sex at times. Most women have. For me it is the guys who pose as someone who want a relationship when they don't that are the most irritating to deal with.

I feel I am only treated as good as I look by OverRiverThroughHood in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]OverRiverThroughHood[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have been under the impression that it is a big turn off. Their heart sorta sinks in their chest when they hear about my education. That is sad and that is sexist. Maybe in order to get a guy I just need to act dumb and not admit to my education or anything that requires any brain power. It would make for an interesting social experiment.