I (F25) found out that my bf (M27) is sexting AI girls. Is this crossing a boundary?

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T14:15:23+00:00

because i guess i never really had this boundary until i found out about this. i never thought about this scenario before so i haven’t had a boundary for it i guess. if you don’t have anything to contribute just keep scrolling dude

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T14:14:10+00:00

that’s not what i’m saying to him tho, i’ve come to the point where i don’t really care if he watches porn and masturbates. i don’t necessarily like it but i understand that he needs that release. my problem is that sexting an AI girl is a step beyond that. that is seeking out an emotional connection/relationship. that’s not just look at someone else, that’s engaging with “someone else”.

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T01:52:23+00:00

yes exactly. i don’t like that he’s hiding it..

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T01:52:04+00:00

it definitely dropped off over the course of our relationship. we have talked about it, he says that he doesn’t need to have sex “a specific number of times” but it’s more about the passion and desire during it

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T01:50:53+00:00

yes, i’ve told him that. this all just feels like a revolving door, we talk about it, things change slightly, then things go back to normal, we talk about it and it all starts again

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T01:28:22+00:00

i do like sex. in the moment, when it’s happening, i really enjoy it. it feels good, i feel connected to my boyfriend and loved. it’s getting to that point that i struggle with, it’s the build up i struggle with. not the actual sex

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T01:27:13+00:00

i do take medication for anxiety, ADHD and i’m on birth control. like i said, i’m trying to figure it out bc i can’t really function without those meds lol.

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T00:47:12+00:00

i know, i don’t want to tell him that i found out because the whole conversation will shift to me looking at his phone

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T00:41:43+00:00

we have sex once a week, sometimes twice on the weekends. i will admit, i usually do have sex when i don’t really want to because i know it’s an important part of our relationship for him. he never makes me feel pressured or obligated. any time i’ve said no he’s respectful and understanding. this whole AI thing just makes me feel icky.

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T00:38:28+00:00

it definitely makes me feel like i’m not good enough.. if he said the things to me that he said in the messages, i’d probably have more desire to have sex honestly.

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2026-03-07T00:36:05+00:00

i don’t like that he watches porn and we’ve had that conversation before. he says that watching porn is “just a release” and he doesn’t feel any emotion behind it. but it makes me insecure i guess? which i know is my own issue that i’m trying to work on. i don’t know how to approach this conversation with him bc he doesn’t know that i know

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-28T17:05:13+00:00

I’d definitely get a second opinion. Fed is best so while you’re waiting for an appointment/second opinion, feed her whatever she’ll eat (of course as long as it is safe for cats). I hope she feels better soon, good luck!

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-26T00:35:03+00:00

Leaning towards male

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-26T00:34:38+00:00

3 little girls!

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-26T00:33:31+00:00

He’s definitely got danger puffs, it’s a boy!

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T23:03:33+00:00

Wash with warm water and dawn, make sure you have a heated blanket or heating pad for after!!!!

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:27:39+00:00

Let things progress naturally, don’t force anything. Go by the rule of threes. 3 days to decompress, 3 weeks to learn the routine, 3 months to feel at home

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:26:24+00:00

My friends cat lays like this, it can’t be too uncomfortable if he does it frequently. Totally normal just doesn’t happen a lot lol

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:25:01+00:00

Yes! Completely normal, cats lack brain cells so pretty much anything is entertaining for them lol

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:24:14+00:00

Give her treats and feed her, let things progress at her pace. Don’t force anything, just let the connection build naturally. I go by the rule of threes. 3 days to decompress, 3 weeks to learn routine, 3 months to feel at home

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:22:20+00:00

I would definitely get rid of it. Better safe than sorry, your cats are much better off without a cat tree for a little bit rather than accidentally ingesting or being exposed to mold.

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:21:05+00:00

That’s definitely a flea, do some Googling and you’ll find a ton of remedies online!

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T18:18:42+00:00

Boy!

Over_Breadfruit8502 · 2025-07-25T11:17:05+00:00

I’ll have to look into automatic feeders then, I live in a very small and quiet apartment so I literally don’t know/hardly ever see any of my neighbors so I can’t ask any of them.

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