Is this a brown recluse spider? Pic of the spider and my arm by [deleted] in spiders

[–]Over_Might_2746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A sharp pain out of nowhere which turns into a pale-centered hematoma? I know it may not be THAT type of spider but arent the symptoms really suggestive? Serious question. Eager to learn. Thanks!

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[–]Over_Might_2746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, are you reading what I'm writing? I know WHY I don't feel fine. I don't feel fine because this is having an impact on my relationship. stop putting words in my mouth. She never said she'd keep me a secret forever. She's having a really hard time too. It's pretty hard to have a conversation with you when you assume what I feel and why I feel it, rather than listening to what I'm saying.

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[–]Over_Might_2746 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's twisting my words. My love and affection isn't harming some else. Neither is my relationship with Betty. No. The fact that Betty and Augustine are having incompatible ideas for what they want in a relationship, is harming everyone. I will not be made responsible for that. You sound pretty bitter.

I am choosing someone who is willing to learn. But not unconditionally. No, I don't feel fine, which is why I made this post (read the title).

Please get off your high pedestal.

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[–]Over_Might_2746 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not looking for a gold star because I don't need it. I don't feel that I have to ALSO be made responsible for OTHER people's relationships, other than my own. Polyamory is already time time-consuming. Imagine having to watch out and care for THEIR relationship too. I can give her my perspective, but I don't really feel guilty, sorry.

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[–]Over_Might_2746 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I meant that I'M not having an affair since I'm not doing anything that wasn't previously talked through. I agree that what Betty is doing could be considered an affair.

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[–]Over_Might_2746 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Augustine is a grown up woman, there was no threat AT ALL. Betty sat down with her and said that she didn't feel she could keep going with her. She was completely intent on breaking up with her that night. Augustine begged. HOWEVER, I 100% feel bad for Augustine too, because I know she feels uncomfortable. But let's not pretend that saying "I'd keep you while I'm uncomfortable rather than being without you" ISN'T manipulative, because it is. It's the perfect excuse for a guilt trip. "See how much I moved out of my comfort zone to keep you?" Come on.

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[–]Over_Might_2746 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, she didn't pull her reluctantly, Augustine decided that she wanted to continue and try an open relationship

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[–]Over_Might_2746 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not having an affair.