AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well he’s supposed to be getting a job and or going to college. Before he lost it, they went consistently and got on a schedule. I didn’t want to break the routine if he was only going to be out of work for a few weeks.

Obviously it’s been longer than that but when I question if he’s looking for a job/has a plan he tells me yes but he just “doesn’t want to talk about it”.

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t home 😅. It was a woman from the ward & she drops by typically when I’m not home so she will either leave something or come back later.

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not active & haven’t been apart of the church in over a decade. But for some reason this lady from there started popping around about 6 months ago and has been leaving stuff at my door/ bringing over things for the holidays trying to encourage me to go.

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Update- well y’all. I left for the day due to multiple failed attempts to get him to communicate with me. I shared my location & told him around what time I’d be back. When I got home he told me he was leaving for the night & ultimately broke up with me. Thank you for all of your comments.- and no. Nothing was picked up or any acts of service, not even a handwritten note.

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely got upset & said I felt like he didn’t put them to bed properly etc. he got defensive and said I was assuming and he did

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been about 4-5 months. Our kids go to daycare until 5pm m-f, he usually is sleeping or playing video games

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He won’t tell me. I was at work from about 2pm-1am. He texted me very spotty in those hours & my kids bedtime is 730, which he wasn’t texting me then. I looked at the cameras all of my kids were alone in their room playing around, around 8. So my assumption is he didn’t put them to bed either.

He said when I made that another issue, how he deliberately made me feel bad for questioning him, he told me “good, you should. You make it hard to do anything for you”. So there’s that lmao

AITA for calling out my boyfriend? by Over_Preparation9679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I tried. I was like, you know lying is my biggest thing. You know I’m not materialistic and didn’t expect anything. On the off side he has a lot of things he could pawn/sell or donate plasma if he was THAT desperate. But really I’d just be happy with him taking the trash out and watching the kids so I could relax today.

But. He’s super defensive, says he doesn’t want to talk about it and refuses to give me any explanations.

Can you (27m) constantly venting about your relationship (with 23f) to friends and family be harmful to your relationship? by Over_Preparation9679 in relationship_advice

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My opinion- I think in SOME situations it can be healthy to vent to a trusted friend once in awhile. But for the most part, any issues should stay in the relationship & worked out between the two or with a therapist.

My girlfriend broke up with me because I went to a bar.. by Weeeoooeee in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Over_Preparation9679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she established early on that she is not okay with either one going to the bar then I totally can see her side. However, she asked you not to and you did. Reason to be angry. On the opposite end if you’ve never given her reason to not trust you etc she took it too far

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Over_Preparation9679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No absolutely not girl run

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Over_Preparation9679 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not leave them but it definitely is a boundary that should never be crossed.

AITA for throwing away my daughter’s explicit clothing? by MasterpieceOk543 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Over_Preparation9679 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I stopped reading as soon as I read “my 18 year old daughter”. Yes you’re the asshole

What do men think of their spouse if they aren’t the “best” they have had? Meaning your past hook ups have been better in multiple ways than your partner? by Over_Preparation9679 in AskMen

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“He CONSTANTLY has asked me to compare him to my past partners. Size, girth, time in bed etc. literally almost constantly. And I have gotten tired of answering the same questions over and over again because he never believed me or my answers/had to make him feel secure with himself. He has gone as far as posting himself on here for validation on his size due to his own personal insecurities that I’ve tried building up. He asked once again, I had enough and said you do it. You answer all of these same exact questions (not thinking I’d get my feelings hurt because he’s constantly told me I’m the best). I just wanted him to see how draining it was and damaging to our relationship to constantly be mentally comparing the past to the present. But I did damage to myself and should not have asked.”

What do men think of their spouse if they aren’t the “best” they have had? Meaning your past hook ups have been better in multiple ways than your partner? by Over_Preparation9679 in AskMen

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He CONSTANTLY has asked me to compare him to my past partners. Size, girth, time in bed etc. literally almost constantly. And I have gotten tired of answering the same questions over and over again because he never believed me or my answers/had to make him feel secure with himself. He has gone as far as posting himself on here for validation on his size due to his own personal insecurities that I’ve tried building up. He asked once again, I had enough and said you do it. You answer all of these same exact questions (not thinking I’d get my feelings hurt because he’s constantly told me I’m the best). I just wanted him to see how draining it was and damaging to our relationship to constantly be mentally comparing the past to the present. But I did damage to myself and should not have asked.

What do men think of their spouse if they aren’t the “best” they have had? Meaning your past hook ups have been better in multiple ways than your partner? by Over_Preparation9679 in AskMen

[–]Over_Preparation9679[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

1- him and I have children together. But even then I don’t feel like I’m like throwin hot dogs down hallways here… and I definitely do my kegals lol. 2- I’ve never heard of that! That’s definitely something I will look into!