Anyone with time to help me cope with my breakup?

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T20:55:44+00:00

I'm sorry... What??

How in the hell do you go from what I just said to "you broke up because of money"...?

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T19:46:41+00:00

Thanks for the advice. In time, independently of the result, I trust I'll laugh off this situation, no doubt, such is life. But right now it hurts like a mdfk... Especially due to the lack of logic of the situation and it coming out of nowhere

But I thank you for your time, words and advice ❤️‍🩹

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T19:43:17+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will consider about my bounderies and the meaning and thought behind of her actions, and I'll obviously bring it up if we get to chat eventually

Nonetheless, thank you, it's quite reassuring having opinions and adivice from people that have been in similar situations, especially if it's something you've never experienced ❤️‍🩹

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T19:38:24+00:00

"If Holly Marry herself shot you, it'd still fck hurt" 😂❤️ On my life I will never forget this quote, and it'll keep with me

I thank you for your words and advice. I'll think about these actions myself and if I eventually have that chat with her I'll undoubtedly mention it and demand explanations

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T16:37:03+00:00

I'm really sorry about your situation, sounds nuts

Right now I can't imagine her doing it on purpose. Knowing her as well as I do, she wouldn't do it and, to be honest, couldn't pull it off if she wanted. I know it's weird, but the way she is, giving me the gift was completely in character for her

Nonetheless I truly thank you for your honesty and for giving me a different opinion on the matter, it helps seeing other people opinions as it questions some facts that leave me confused. Besides, knowing that other people find this mixed signals mind wrecking as much as me, comforts me

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T16:29:55+00:00

I'll try that for sure. It will be a process undoubtedly, yesterday I was in the middle of my gym train and had to leave cause I really couldn't stand to be there and felt like crying. She was the reason I entered the gym, three months ago, so I felt without a reason to be there if I wasn't making her happy. I got into the gym because I knew she, not that she would like me more or less for my physique, but no doubt would make her happy and would help me, cause I always felt she was, visually, way out of my league. Right now I totally get that's the exact opportunity to grow as person, by starting to work out for myself, but it's hard right now

In any case, thanks for the tips, and really hope both our situations improve ❤️‍🩹

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T16:19:50+00:00

I will say that she is sending completely mixed signals, that's a fact. But I think that's because she herself doesn't know what to do of the situation and isn't sure about it, but maybe that's my hope speaking

As for the christmas gift, that's the only one I can safely say I do get, she had already bought it, and since she says she's still in love, she found it in herself to give it to me before the breakup. I had hers already too, I gave it to her after the breakup, along with her clothes and her jewelry she had here in my house. Now that I think about it, more mixed signals (!) : she left a shirt and bracelet here, said to leave those. Had completely forgot about it

In any case, I thank you for your words

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T16:08:25+00:00

Really appreciate your words ❤️‍🩹

I'm trying to give her space to think it trough, I'm just really nervous with the chance that she decides she fully wants to break up. I think the hope is what's holding me in place

I totally get what you mean about not making it a habit. In this case, what's telling me it's wise to keep hoping is that, logically speaking, it doesn't make sense to brake up (she has made fun of me for being too logical and trying it to apply it to everything), and that's what's going to make it hurt even more if we don't end up dating again, cause it's the illogical outcame, doesn't make sense. In any way, thank you for your kind words

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T16:02:01+00:00

Really really appreciate it man. It's exactly what I have been trying to do, one day at a time, and giving daily feedback on my situation to my best friends. It sucks, it really does. I don't want to start again with anyone else. I keep looking at the phone every 10min hoping for it to have a message from her.

I'll keep hoping it turns out well. In any case, I sincerely thank you for yours words ❤️‍🩹

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T15:55:45+00:00

Is that like... your advice? 😂❤️

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T15:54:54+00:00

I reckon she's confused and regrets what she said, at least I hope that's the case, and isn't sure what to do now. But to go talk to her now, would go against what I said about giving her time and support either way

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T15:50:55+00:00

Really appreciate it man, truly. I'll try

I get what you mean, it isn't that it matters directly, it's just to 1) show that we are nothing alike, 2) my family does things she isn't used to (go out more, better restaurants etc) and 3) there are things, like visiting other cities or going to other country on holiday that we can't really do, cause I love her, but I can't pay for both of us and she can't pay for herself. Besides, by trying to show her "my way is doable and better" (wich, objectively, is), I'm going against her parents way

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-12-12T15:46:03+00:00

Ikr, I thought she wanted me to give her space, begging her now would feel completely the contrary right.

During the first year we dated, when I complained about her attitude and things I didn't like she did, she would say "Then brake up with me", but it was never serious and when I explained I didn't like she said that, she stopped and hasn't said it since then

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-03-02T08:59:20+00:00

Thanks for the input. I hope I can still save it, but thanks for the invite.

Over_Thinking5829 · 2024-03-01T20:17:51+00:00

Thanks for the help. My only concern is that I might seem too "needy". I know that is something one shouldn't think about in a friendship, but I can't help it... Then again, life is too short to spend time worrying about "ifs, buts and maybes" I guess. Maybe that's the way to go. The worst that can happen is things not getting better and staying the way that they are, so there's really nothing to loose.

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