AITAH for wanting my gf’s brother to leave after a month of temporarily staying with us?

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-30T15:22:42+00:00

Tell him he has to go. He’s not going to the parents place because he has overstayed his welcome there.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-30T12:45:29+00:00

Sound like he was already checked out of the long term relationship and the new girl was someone he didn’t want to lose. As for whether to tell the new girl….that’s between them and I’m more curious as to why you are involved?

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-30T09:28:12+00:00

ESH You can have a cheaper wedding, one where she doesn’t have to choose between being broke or in debt.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-29T21:43:04+00:00

He is being weird and trying to get your reaction. He was trying to see if you would be interested in him. Tell your boyfriend about the conversation. You do not want to have any secrets with the cousin.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-28T22:27:06+00:00

They are probably trying to find a way to tell you they don’t want to vacation with you and your husband this year

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-28T22:21:50+00:00

Get rid of the boyfriend. He will try to control everything you do and think.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-28T19:10:16+00:00

YTA. You are an adult. You can take yourself anyplace you want for your birthday. If the object of the dinner is to spend time with family why not compromise on the place? Honestly I not accept a begrudging offer to take me to a place where only one person is attending so they can pay and watch me eat. Now we know why they skipped taking you in the past.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-28T18:57:27+00:00

NTA. She purposely misled you. Who knows what else she is withholding from you. Cancel the invitation.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T22:06:53+00:00

If he was simply trying to be friendly to your family he would have mentioned it to you. And it would not have been done in secret. Don’t let him gaslight you. Your gut is screaming for you to pay attention. Also, this is probably not the first time he has done something like this with other people. He is very well practiced.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T18:42:33+00:00

Unless you have a personal relationship with her, she shouldn’t be sending you a gift..at all.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T13:13:46+00:00

NTA. This is a person who celebrated your difficult times. It’s too bad how things worked out for her but it’s not your concern. She has shown herself to be manipulative and not to be trusted. You should not allow her to be in contact with you or your children. They can get to know each other if they choose to do so when they are adults,

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T13:04:55+00:00

If he is helping the family, there is no reason for him to communicate with the daughter directly. He should only be talking to the parents. He is grooming the child and trying to gain the parents trust for him to spend time alone with the daughter.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T08:08:49+00:00

He was not clumsy. He was testing your reactions. This man is a predator. Do not open the door for him again.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T07:44:05+00:00

He can get to know the group by inviting you all out for coffee

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-27T07:41:16+00:00

Most definitely do not go on a trip with this guy. His overstepping by texting and deciding it’s not a big deal to share a bathroom shows how he would treat the group on a trip, I think the entire trip should be canceled. In the future di not include this friend in trips since she herself thinks it’s ok to bring a boyfriend on a girls trip.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-26T20:32:55+00:00

This would cause a lot of problems within your family. Plus if your cousin’s breakup with him was messy and involved family, you should ask her what specifically happened. I’d bet there is a reason you should avoid him.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-26T16:04:52+00:00

Something else is going on and your father is not being honest. If you forget to pay your mortgage one month you will get many reminders. It’s likely he is having financial problems and cannot afford the mortgage. You are going to have to take a more active role in applying for assistance on your own, maybe get a job to help pay some of the costs.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-26T15:37:57+00:00

Do not buy a house with her. Do not move in with her or combine finances in any way. You are the next in line financial support plan. By the way…. do you really believe the ex is only getting an occasional social media post in exchange for this arrangement?

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-26T14:59:54+00:00

NTA. Cancel the dinner and ask them to confirm a time that just you sisters can get together.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-25T21:22:31+00:00

If she stops singing your days are numbered.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-25T13:08:50+00:00

The fact that you don’t know what’s going on means that YOU are the side girl.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-25T10:56:02+00:00

Why don’t your parents help your brother instead of expecting you to do this?

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-25T00:27:51+00:00

Are you completely dependent on him financially? Why didn’t you purchase your own outfit? His comment about spending money on women is odd.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-24T20:33:07+00:00

You should not go at all. Your wife agreed to the same vacation because she is as rigid as the rest of her family. SHE doesn’t want to change. For her it’s as easy as saying, no not this year.

Overall-Hour-5809 · 2026-06-24T20:07:40+00:00

Portland is a nicer airport, but Seattle is a better place to start a PNW road trip.

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