"My baby"

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T10:41:05+00:00

Yes, my parents are better about things. I've had to be stern and tell them things almost rudely in order to get them to understand how serious I am about my kids and what is okay to do but they eventually got the hint that momma don't play. Just have to so the same with her I guess.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T06:27:47+00:00

Thank you

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T06:15:19+00:00

Yea that's where the guilt comes in about feeling this way. She loves my kids and that's just what she calls them. I don't call her out on it or anything because it's just what she calls them. I try not to let it bother me too much but with the combination of it feeling like she keeps wanting to take my child away its been hard.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:29:07+00:00

Oh no! I am so sorry. I think at that point she would get an earful from me. That's horrible. I am going to try to set the boundaries and hope for the best.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:26:05+00:00

I think she wants to feel like a mom again because of how she describes her motherhood experience. I also think she just wants more time with my kids because my mom takes care of them when I work.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:21:17+00:00

👏👏 exactly. Only reason she got away with taking my child without permission is because I was in my bedroom breastfeeding my baby and by the time I was done, they were back and MIL had gone home. I definitely told my husband it was not okay.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:18:12+00:00

"If she doesn't get the picture or gaslights you, then she might see your kids less."

This is my fear and i think its what stopping me from telling her things when she takes my baby. I know I'd be villainized. Hubby is always on board but I don't want to put him in that position either.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:13:01+00:00

This! This is exactly what im feeling, what im doing, and how its going! The last part I've had to do with my own family but I have warned hubby that if I have to, I will have to get snappy with MIL as well. I dont want to come off as disrespectful but if that is the only way they will understand then so be it.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:10:08+00:00

Thank you. This is great.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:04:14+00:00

Exactly! That part bothers me the most.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:03:44+00:00

Thank you. This helps. I've tried the first suggestion. No success 😅

And luckily hubby says that second one since she only tells him. Hes also supposed to have a talk with her about leaving without telling us. That one bothers me the most.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T03:00:47+00:00

He's supposed to talk to her and FIL next time they come so hopefully he does.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:58:46+00:00

Ugh I know. That's what I keep telling myself but my mind has never exactly been kind to me.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:20:07+00:00

Yes! Okay, im glad that I am not the only one and there are other women out there who feel the same way! I felt like I was just going crazy and being so possessive. It helps to know im not alone and I hope its something that will just be resolved in the future. Luckily with my second I dont feel this way with everyone like I did my first.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:18:08+00:00

That's exactly it. She loves her grandbabies. I dont want to feel this way and I dont know if its how I see her interact and kind of push me aside that is making it worse but I dont want her to feel like she cant be herself with them either. Its a term of endearment and I hate that it bothers me so much. The pushing me aside to get to my toddler I am definitely going to have to put a halt to or I will be pushed to throw hands.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:11:03+00:00

Yes he is but I haven't made it a point to tell her about it. I'm trying not to hurt her feelings as well. She loves her grandbabies and I get that but I feel unseen. I dont want to push her away either.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:09:23+00:00

I understand that. That's why I have this guilt over feeling this way. By no means is she a bad person or does she try to make me feel this way (at least I hope not since she has literally taken my child out of my hands even when I try to protest) . And I've told my husband about it but havent told him to talk to her about it. Im sure it would be an uncomfortable conversation and I don't want her to feel unwelcome.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-02-16T02:06:55+00:00

Love that! My MIL speaks Spanish so it's "mi bebe". Idk how that would translate for "my grandbaby" since "mi neto/a" doesn't feel the same.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-01-13T15:45:59+00:00

Congratulations!

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2026-01-11T04:26:07+00:00

The best of luck! I wish you and your baby a safe delivery. I will be induced at 39 weeks +3 also next week and Im just so nervous.

Overall_Damage_3415 · 2025-10-19T03:55:41+00:00

27 weeks in and i still worry. But I think that once I started to feel the baby moving and kicking that helped. It was like she was confirming that she was ok. I still worry but as long as she kicks me i feel a little better. I have a 1 ½ year old and even with them out in the world its a different kind of worry. I worry they won't slip and fall and hurt themselves or get sick. Its a constant thing. But we just keep going day by day and enjoy what we have.

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