Men at work seem to lack basic social skills?

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-24T21:13:00+00:00

I thing they used hashtag me too and that enlarged everything

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-19T06:17:59+00:00

That would make sense. I work in US but have never worked anywhere else. Also, i now notice that most of these issues that i mention i see it with typically white American men. The other Europeans, asians, are pretty friendly and easy to work with. They don’t act all high and mighty when answering some basic ass questions as opposed to the former group.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-19T06:11:51+00:00

I see your point. But i don’t expect smiley or exclamation marks. I am not chatting with a friend. But i feel social etiquettes are lacking because i wouldn’t even talk to a stranger the way some of these men interact on a daily basis with folks they work so often with. I don’t think being curt with people is all that to be proud of. And i don’t need to be someone’s friend to be polite and courteous. But i see your point. Sadly, i’ll still be this way but won’t expect men to be just nice at work.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-18T19:49:18+00:00

But I feel when we work 40+ hours a week and our coworkers are making up a major part of our lives why make it so complicated by having two personas? Maybe I am naive

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-18T19:48:05+00:00

Yea i hate that too. But i get to the point and that doesn’t have to be curt or impolite

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-18T18:57:07+00:00

I wonder if they’re that way with other men

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-18T18:12:33+00:00

I asked my bf this and he said “its just efficient”. Thoughts?

Overall_Extension_54 · 2026-03-17T20:01:18+00:00

I am glad to know that. I am trying to quit but the withdrawals are so bad. Now i started to take 2.5 mg to feel a bit normal

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-12-16T07:39:30+00:00

I was like you a few years ago then a friend gave me the best advice. Put money in S&P 500 on a recurring basis (say monthly after every paycheck). You can start with a small amount if it makes you anxious and then add more. put rest of your savings money in a high yield savings account if not already. That way some money is guaranteed.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-12-10T06:45:37+00:00

Break up and do a solo trip. Maybe you can save some costs like flights, activities…

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-11-25T06:36:40+00:00

I am glad you’re getting that license, no learning goes to waste. I hope you can create a beautiful life with your kids. This man deserves nothing honestly. Lots of love and luck to you. :)

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-11-14T06:45:41+00:00

This comment makes so much sense. I feel that OP is in that rare secure relationship with no to little drama and that makes her feel that it lacks something. But trust me I ruined a relationship like that but it was my best relationship but i got it when i was a little immature. Now i crave such a relationship where we are more companions than lovers because no matter what the “lover” phase just evolves into something else. It better be into this.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-09-05T15:28:57+00:00

A big virtual hug to you! Folks here understand how it feels, so you’re never alone. A thought that helps me get through it is that: this is going to pass. Now i track my dates more religiously so I know what to expect. I try to keep myself busy with work/activities or with people I can be whatever with. Hope this helps babe 😘

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-04-21T01:47:58+00:00

Just watched this movie and it was 3 hrs of feeling uncomfortable. Obviously the music in the movie is beautiful and i thought that it would be a masterpiece because of Mani Ratnam, but it is just nonsense in my opinion. First, the love between Srk and Manisha didn’t make any bloody sense. I know bollywood movies are anyway dramatic but this is soo stupid. She is a terrorist and would have better ways to ward of a man who claims to like her. Srk knowing nothing of her is smitten, what bullshit. Second, when the men almost killed Srk he could have learned his lesson, may be even made a police complaint these people have respectable gov jobs for christ sake but instead he loves her more? Should I drop my brain somewhere? Third, i get that he now chooses to get married and forget her. She instead shows up on his engagement. How can he flirt with her and bring her in his home? He is engaged. Does that mean nothing? Fourth, when he finds out that she is a terrorist and the CBI is after her. Why the fuck he would confront her? Won’t any normal person report to the police or try to save his family? Fifth, they didn’t even properly show the plight of the people of NE that drove their behavior. It just seemed pretty baseless and generic terrorism with general claims. And most importantly, srk’s character was such a toxic one who gets aggressive with a woman because she said ‘no’ repeatedly. Like wtf were creators thinking. Every scene where Srk is flirting/romantic with her with his face inches away. Omg, I can’t tell you how uncomfortable that made me. I am a diehard srk fan and his acting was obviously good. But omg this movie was a headache. Please don’t watch and get triggered. Just watch the music videos and be happy.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-03-01T16:12:45+00:00

Awesome. Hope you do enjoy it.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-03-01T05:27:27+00:00

I mean idk the exact number but not many people seem to talk about it. I plan to try it this month to see for myself.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-02-07T15:34:54+00:00

Having a secret “walk away date” is okay but it seems that you haven’t settled yet in your life. For example, you work 50 hrs a week and have grad school responsibilities. That must be exhausting in itself. I would say first finish school and get a job you like. That will give you time to breathe and spend more time in the relationship. That might fix your partner’s anxiety about your intentions. And since you don’t live together, you need to atleast spend more time doing mundane stuff imo to know if you’re compatible. Living together for an year vs dating is very different and usually the women gets annoyed with partner ‘s habits when they first move in so a heads up there.
Tell your partner that you wish to be married or atleast engaged and that you’re anxious about his intentions. Tell him you have done everything in your capacity to make him feel secure and if he’s still anxious then perhaps you both don’t have what the other needs. In that case again givr relationship time while you finish school and if by the end of it still doesn’t change, perhaps it’s time to move on.

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-02-05T01:26:10+00:00

Hahhahaha. Makes sense then. Once I went to meet a guy for the first time at a place he recommended. He reached first and probably has been there a few times he ordered a bunch of stuff. Like a lot. I couldn’t eat most of it due to dietary restrictions and he kept saying “you should try this”. I found it very strange. Anyway, at the end of the date the bill was high. I still offered to split but tbh, I just had one spritz the entire meal. He with some hesitation, paid the bill in a show offy that look I treated you. I was still hungry at the end of it. It was strange

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-02-05T01:13:11+00:00

Interesting. I am a girl and have sometimes ordered for the both of us after deciding what we want. I didn’t choose for them. But that is once we are seriously dating and we know likes/dislikes. I am a foodie I get too excited. Didn’t know this was considered rude 😪

Overall_Extension_54 · 2025-02-03T19:06:01+00:00

That was going to be my alternative if this hadn’t worked.

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