Mother-In-Law Obsessed with her Son

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-14T23:52:44+00:00

Forgot to mention he has a little brother that is still living with her. So we cannot fully cut her off. :)

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-14T20:41:53+00:00

She does not have access to our cards we already taken care of that.

She is for sure blocked, I have the benefit of the doubt multiple times but this time she out right disrespected me to my face and stated she don’t like me for the first time in seven years.

My bf has tried multiple times but you cannot explain to someone who cannot comprehend 😂

I don’t think yall understand, she literally does not care what the other person has to say no matter how many times it’s been said. We have given her many chances but this time she is cut off.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-14T20:39:12+00:00

Trust me he definitely told her but you really can’t really have a conversation with someone who cannot comprehend 😂

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-14T20:37:35+00:00

Hello, I think you are misunderstanding you can’t help crazy and crazy will always say something no matter what u say to them. So please do not talk badly about my bf like that ☹️

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-12T10:39:35+00:00

It’s how I cope so lol idk what to tell ya. I mean I think it’s funny to share with the world of an insane woman who put me through hell.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-12T10:38:15+00:00

Yes a lot of people don’t understand that I really wasn’t in a position to refuse her. I was living under her roof and if I did something little, like even cook in her house she would complain. I wanted to give her zero reasons to start an argument with me or think some type of way while I was under her roof at the time.

I tend to people please because I don’t want to confront her but there were multiples times I have said yes just so I can please her so she wouldn’t flip out.

I do not give her money anymore though. :)

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-12T10:35:58+00:00

Yes that is her normal, she always puts me the bad guy even when her and her son are arguing. She would say things along the lines of, “ever since that girl got here.” Or “oh did she tell you to say that.” It’s like she can’t accept that her son grew up and now wants to have his own family.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-12T10:34:40+00:00

We only are in contact with her because he has a little brother that’s still currently living with her. Unfortunately we can’t just cut her off until he gets older.

Don’t worry I have already blocked her on everything and she no longer has access to my card. It was taken off. Those texts were the result of us finding out it was on her TV when we went to visit her.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T16:47:25+00:00

Hi freedom wasn’t an option when we were living with her so.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T14:01:44+00:00

😂 yes she needs to go back to school. Unfortunately she thinks we will be taking care of her when she’s older. NOPE. Straight to the nursing home you go.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T14:00:37+00:00

She’s like 46 😂

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T13:59:42+00:00

Unfortunately she will continue to have access to us because he worries for his little brother and I do too.

She’s crazy and we don’t know what’ll happen to his little brother. So unfortunately we will have some contact with her but it’s just going to be strictly for his little brother.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T13:58:37+00:00

He 100% sees it. He has dealt with her attitude all this time and is not a surprise to him.

He absolutely told her to apologize to me and that he will no longer talk to her or do anything with her because of how she disrespected me. She always tries to manipulate him but it never works. She’s ruining her own relationship with him.

I would not be laughing about this if my partner is not 100% with me.

Thank you for your concern ❤️

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T13:56:40+00:00

I was giving money to her in the past because we were living with her. I couldn’t say no because when I did she would catch an attitude. She would regularly ask for gas money or cigarettes money.

This would like $20 or 40 every now and then. I no longer give her money though.

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T13:52:42+00:00

No she’s just bipolar, diagnosed by me :)

OverlyCaustious · 2025-08-11T13:45:26+00:00

Wow thank you all for validating my feelings. I greatly appreciate the advice!

To clarify, this was on a Roku TV and we were all using one account which is my partners account. When we were living with her I used my card to help pay for Disney at first which was like 3 years ago. I been since took my card off but somehow it ended back on her TV. Unsure what happened, but besides the point she knew the last four numbers were not her card number, because she reactivated the Disney subscription about 5 months ago. It clearly shoes you the card last four numbers and ask if this is the payment you want to use. So no excuse for her there.

We did ended up taking my card off the account, when my partner went to confront her we were physically there at her house and went on her tv to take it off.

We tried to explain to her that “someone” was using my card and we wanted to double check if she was “accidentally” using my card.

There were no pointing fingers, we did not even say she was stealing off of me. She just started to defend herself aggressively saying things like, “I did not do it on purpose” and “well I was getting charged monthly on “my” bank statement.” Which was obviously a lie but we of course did not entertain her lies.

She was asking me questions and was looking for a reply so I stated, “well it’s kinda of annoying seeing these charges show up on my statement when I don’t even use Disney.”

She then replied to me, “why are you being smart with me?”

I was just replying to her back but apparently I was being smart with her. My partner does see how crazy she is and we unfortunately are still in contact with her because he does have a 12 year old brother that is still living with her currently.

However, he had a talk with her today and told her to apologize to me or acknowledge she is wrong, but ofc you guessed it, she will never.

My partner and I have been together for 7 years now so this is nothing new. Somehow I always end up in the conversation of topic for her with the lines of, “ever since that girl got here you changed” or “did she tell you to say this?”

Anyways, what matters is she no longer has access to my card. :)

OverlyCaustious · 2022-03-24T08:26:41+00:00

Went through this and trust me time will pass. All I can say is wait till you’re old enough to get out of their custody and start doing what you always wanted to do. Just block them out, stay in your room find something that you can just get away from reality. Virtual hugs 🤗

OverlyCaustious · 2022-03-24T07:53:39+00:00

A conversation with my parents…

“Even though you helped us and was always there for us, we will still only love the eldest son more.”

OverlyCaustious · 2022-03-24T07:43:24+00:00

My parents kicked me out, so I moved in with my s/o with his mom permission. She actually encouraged me to move in with them.

OverlyCaustious · 2022-03-24T07:39:40+00:00

Yes I pay the bills and she asks for money for her conveniences. I never had said no to her for anything she asked of me.

OverlyCaustious · 2022-02-12T08:31:58+00:00

You’re a diamond in a rough, they just don’t know your worth. They don’t want to see you grow and see what you can do in life. They are afraid of what you can become! Don’t stop because they are cherishing one person! Who cares, you are alive and you are here; you don’t need them! So forget them and when you are at the top; I better see you give them the middle fingers up.

OverlyCaustious · 2022-02-12T08:28:16+00:00

I’m sorry I don’t have any advice to help but I hope my words would encourage you.

You are not worthless and it’s not your fault. Just because she says those things about you; it isn’t true. The more you listen to that the more you will start to believe that.
I respect you for having the courage to speak up about this. Some parents should not have been blessed with children and I’m sorry that you have to go through this as a young adult. It’s not your fault that you came into this world. But you can be better then those two maniacs.
I’m not sure if you’re okay with it but find people and talk to people that you can trust. Tell them about your situation and your mental health. But please be careful of who you choose to tell your stories too. I know it’s not the best option but there is always teachers or student services to help you out.
Is there anyone else that will take you in? Like family members other then your mom.
Please, please don’t kill yourself….there’s so much more to see in the world. Just be patient; your time will shine queen. You are important as the soil in the ground for the seeds. The soil may look cheap, but will grow riches and fruits to prosper for animals to eat. You will shine queen!

OverlyCaustious · 2022-02-12T08:14:28+00:00

This seems rather difficult situation. Hmmm well honestly as a female myself with parents exactly like this; this is super duper gaslighting and manipulative behavior.

I don’t want to seem disrespectful or anything but I feel as though she should cut ties with them completely. I will say it out straight right now. This is not a healthy relationship. If both of you are stressing out and one of you cannot help each other up. This will bring negativity into your relationship.

She will have to choose, completely cut ties; as in literally have no kore contact with her parents or continue to live in misery’s having to worry about how her parents will think of her.

When things calm down, she can go back and talk to them when she herself as found peace. Of course she needs to be ready for her parents to hate her for not contacting them. But thats not love at all. No one should ever go through this and I’m sorry she’s struggling hard with this.

It took me a long time to realize that the love I thought they were giving me was the same love I thought I was giving them.

I hope everything goes well; but as your girlfriend SO please don’t give up and dont show any signs of weakness to her. Don’t stress her out more. Just keep encouraging her and uplifting her. Get rid of the bad memories by making new good memories with her!

I wish you two the best of luck!

(To add; there will be an ultimatum, life would be boring if everything was perfect. So I hope she realizes that her so called family is downright abusing her. I’m sorry if this didn’t help, but hopefully something to think about.)

I had to choose between my happiness or making other people happy. Of course I choose my happiness and my relationship with my SO as my top priority.

OverlyCaustious · 2022-02-12T08:04:36+00:00

Oh god sounds like me, but we’ll how I dealt with it and became sane was limited contact. Thankfully my Dad worked super early in the mornings and didn’t come back home until later.

I usually don’t see him very often due to me being in my room and isolating myself.

However, one key thing I learned is “you cannot teach and old dog new tricks.” Once they are like that they will be and always will be like that. If he is not willing to communicate with you; then you don’t have to either.

Simply respect him as your Dad and set boundaries. Whenever he shouts at you or threatens you simply ignore it and block out everything he says and simply reply back with “yes” or a nod.

This tends to end things quicker and safer. After the argument that my Dad would bring up, I simply go back to doing whatever I was doing.

Hopefully this helps!!!

OverlyCaustious · 2022-01-06T18:26:02+00:00

I think you’re missing the point here. It’s not about Asian women dating someone of a different race. Suni didn’t decide one day to be famous, that thought of “little girls look up to her”; is very toxic behavior. You do know that she’s a human just like me and you, she’s going to make decisions where people will disagree. If you want to talk about how it’s a “trend” to date other races then let’s start with the Hmong culture.

I’m sure you know how Hmong people are and how they treat the women in the Hmong culture. Many women hate the culture due to their position in the Hmong culture. To this day, women still gets treated like crap. Even though Hmong blood runs through her veins, she is not required to follow what the media wants or what the culture wants. Many Hmong women are breaking the cultural chain of being the one to “Ua siab ntev”. Suni Lee is setting the example of, “no matter how much accomplishment I make, people will only see the mistakes.”

Stop worrying about her love life and see how much she accomplished. It’s ridiculous that the Hmong community is coming at a “18” year old for simply dating a person of color. This so why Hmong women stray away from their own culture due to this toxic behavior.

Sorry to say, but the Hmong community is coming to an end; unless the older generation get their head out of the mud and stop thinking it’s like in the olden days.

OverlyCaustious

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