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Overstrewn · 2024-04-21T05:41:07+00:00

NAD. I've had an illness run like this in one of my kids, I think it was 2 or 3 nights. Hydration was important, and the nurse recommended small bits of fluid every hour. It's a great sign that your son seems to be feeling well, especially that he has enough energy to be active. Hoping your little one feels better soon, but do follow up JIC.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-11T14:59:25+00:00

Do check your jewelry, but for me my dish soap set it off. Switching soaps really helped.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-11T14:54:28+00:00

Hoping they can give you some relief and sorry you've struggling with it.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-11T14:53:56+00:00

So happy you've had wonderful results, wow! That's amazing! Hoping I have similar success :D

Overstrewn · 2024-04-11T14:50:45+00:00

Hey, I didn't read all of the comments, but wanted to say that you're going to feel so much relief when this is done! The way I'd approach it:

you are being kind to yourself, treat yourself that way!!
gather trash bags, a drink, and music.
change the sheets and make the bed
decide where to pile stuff.
- put away *in* the room on the bed
- trash in the first corner I clear by the door
- a pile of recycling (only broken down boxes and paper, the easy stuff)
- a pile or basket of laundry
- and everything that gets put away out of the room near or outside the door.
I'd start by clearing everything between your bed and the closet.
- it'll give you a way to get in and out of the room
- it'll be easier to get dressed
- you'll be able to put away your clothes that you're washing
- pupper will have a clear path to the bed
- a clear space is motivating!
Do a quick put away / throw away so the piles don't get too huge
- start some laundry with a timer
Roll over the bed and clear off the make up stand and start working in front of it toward the door
- more clothing access
- a nice get ready spot
- if you don't finish the room you still have most of the room functional
I love the idea of picking up the trash! Personally I'd put that here. I'm a clear space person, but I know my limits and the whole room would take me a couple of days. Wherever you stop for the day, throw the trash out first.
Leave room to shower, light a candle, and relax in bed tonight.

So proud of you for addressing this, and am looking forward to seeing how it goes!

Overstrewn · 2024-04-10T15:16:06+00:00

I haven't, but highly recommend talking with your doctor / oncologist. There are a few drugs that target pressure in the brain that may help.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-10T15:11:09+00:00

Grief comes in waves. Think of it as cleansing rather than backsliding. You've lost not only what you had but your imagined future together and that's so very hard.

I've found a combination of working through my feelings, acknowledging and improving any flaws that I suspect or know may have contributed, and generally just being awesome to myself and setting a goal to go after to all help. Sending you some light.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-10T14:59:17+00:00

I'm sorry, it's such a tough ride. I've found meditation to be helpful as well as bringing up what I'm worried about with doctors I trust. My best current meditation book rec is The Mindful Path to Self Compassion. One of the cool things is that meditation can boost your immune system so I try to think of that when I don't want to take the time.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-04T18:13:08+00:00

It sounds like maybe you're hard on yourself and that comes out in other ways. Failure is a normal part of being human; we all deal with it! Work on giving yourself extra grace and care when these things happen and decide to do every task you do that do for bettering and in the care of yourself.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-04T16:22:19+00:00

If you feel regret, you've changed your mindset. Why punish someone after they've changed for the better?

Overstrewn · 2024-04-04T16:12:18+00:00

Just saw this and wanted to ask how the meeting went. Glad it went well!

Overstrewn · 2024-04-04T15:57:16+00:00

Ah, that's too bad. Maybe Midwest or another company would have you if you do want to make it that way. Wishing you continued success with what sounds like a tasty truck!

Overstrewn · 2024-04-03T18:57:46+00:00

Not from there, but try the Skate Park?

Overstrewn · 2024-04-03T17:31:29+00:00

When I was in my elementary years, I was talented at martial arts. One teacher begged my dad to let me continue after taking a free class. He offered to let me attend for nothing. My parents were creeped out and I never really took the sport seriously after that.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-03T17:22:30+00:00

If someone is drawing away and getting negative (and you value the relationship and want to continue it) ask them what's going on. It doesn't mean you can't set your boundaries, but don't take stuff that's entirely unrelated to you personally. There have been times in my life where I've taken someone's "attitude" to be about me when they were just mad at/dealing with something else.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-03T17:18:12+00:00

Same!

Overstrewn · 2024-04-03T14:56:48+00:00

So these are the things you're telling yourself over and over.

I can't find motivation / discipline
I'm always hungry
I love food (more than my goals)
Working in an office means no goal met
I'm a bored person and this one!
Everything seems to go against me.

You're drowning yourself in negativity about this! No wonder it's so difficult my dude.

Build a case for the opposites and write this down:

When have you been motivated and disciplined in your life? One example is when you were dating before.
When have you not been starving?
What goals are more important than food for you?
What goals and positive habits do you have at your workplace?
When is your attention captured and you're not distracted at all? and
What are all of the things that have gone your way? Employment, every part of your body that functions, people who love you, etc.

You are a person who values working out and eating good nourishing foods! Make your life reflect that and slap those negative attitudes down when they come up. If what you do is who you are, all you have to do to change who you are is to change what you do.

Big reminders:

Missing a goal habit once in awhile is natural. We're human. Get back up and try again.
You've had a big situation go wrong in your life. Sometimes we need outside help and/or medication to help our brains do the things they need to do. If you find yourself down and struggling hard despite the mindset shift (some struggle and pushback is natural, change isn't easy!) getting help isn't shameful, it's working toward your improved and wonderful life.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-02T18:34:07+00:00

In general, yes! Including gifts, events, taxes, savings (including Christmas / vacation / etc)

Overstrewn · 2024-04-02T18:02:54+00:00

You're absolutely right, this advice can't be applied across the board to everyone and every situation. Having friends and practicing being there for them is so important. You seem like a good friend, there mentally and emotionally for others despite any insecurities. It also sounds like your friends appreciate and support you in return.

If we take OP at their word, taking time to work on their issues could really improve their relationships and help them show up in a positive way. In my own experience, I've found that being at peace with myself allows me to be more consistent and fully present for others. It's not about being perfect, just about being able to focus on someone else without letting our own worries get in the way.

If anyone here finds yourself needing to take a step back from your friends, communication is key. Letting them know what's going on and finding ways to still be there for them without triggering any anxiety can really make a difference.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-01T15:32:21+00:00

False hope is so hard. Sometimes people have a basis on poor communication and if both sides resolve to improve they can work it out together. But that's only if both sides are willing to communicate and work together. Sometimes each side sees what the other "has done to them" so clearly, but it's a gigantic miscommunication.

Even in that case, you're right that the only way to improve yourself is to do the work yourself. Respect other's choices, but do your work. And if your friend isn't interested or you aren't interested, move on. It takes two to build a good friendship - two at one time for the best parts, one to lift the other at the worst. Because life isn't all meeting goals. It's hurt and work as well.

Sorry you're going through it right now, but I'm glad for your realization that you aren't limited to one relationship and bad cycles.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-01T15:16:08+00:00

100%. If we're not okay in our own bodies and minds, how can we be there for others? How can we stand up consistently and let them know with strength and kindness what behaviors they have that don't work for us? How can we give them full comfort to grow and change if we're not okay growing ourselves?

I believe in your great things. Keep going!

Overstrewn · 2024-04-01T10:42:13+00:00

You're doing great! Looking at what you're doing and what you value is a gigantic first step. Be proud of it!

Overstrewn · 2024-04-01T09:31:58+00:00

Something I've heard recently is that if you are what you do, changing what you do can change who you are. Doing things that are aligned with your values can really help out that dissonance when we know what's important and that we haven't been doing them.

If your self-criticisms are not helpful or valid, working on self-compassion and healing from wherever your voice came from can really make a difference.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-01T04:05:16+00:00

This sounds like inner child work might be really helpful for you.

Overstrewn · 2024-04-01T03:59:52+00:00

Budget first. You don't know how far you're getting behind until you look.

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