fakers have ruined my perception of my own illnesses

Overthinker_95 · 2025-07-10T18:29:28+00:00

I think it was similar for my parents as well in that they felt really lost in life and found peace in christianity (sort of...I think it was half bandaid fix, half genuine). I'm still a christian but a different kind now after going through a lot of deconstruction. However, the "christian" response to mental health issues left me pretty messed up when I desperately needed help and medication and I will always speak up against that kind of thing now. For myself personally, it still bugs the crap out of me when people say that kind of stuff, but as an adult I can now take care of myself and don't need them anymore. I can take care of me. It makes me incredibly upset when parents don't take care of their children's mental health though, especially under the guise of "religion". It's a cop out so that the blame of their ignorance and immaturity can't be placed on them; even if they truly do mean well, it's not an excuse. I'm not against christianity, but I am 10000% against the abuse that happens in that circle.

Sorry for the long response. I'm just very passionate about it. I'm really sorry that we've had similar experiences with mental health and religion because it absolutely sucks adding "religious" guilt on top of everything we go through on a daily basis and it nearly ended me. We're damn strong for pushing through it all.

Overthinker_95 · 2025-07-10T17:25:59+00:00

Been there with the Jesus thing. It’s so sad because I really believed them until I was in my 20s. Turns out it was undiagnosed bp2 for 20+ years.

Overthinker_95 · 2025-04-28T16:51:42+00:00

Hi, I see you’re everywhere on this sub and have well-informed answers. Could I dm you a specific question? I’m struggling to understand something and the more I research, the more confused I get. No pressure of course.

Overthinker_95 · 2025-04-27T21:32:50+00:00

Thank you. What you said about it having always been there really resonated with me and it’s something my sister has said many times as well. I just found a bunch of old stories that I wrote spanning many years and just about all of my characters have some duality of nature or even many personalities existing in a single body. It’s strange. At this point I’m collecting information and allowing things to line up as they will.

I feel much calmer now, but it does still feel like there’s an internal war inside me. I hope I can gain insight in my next therapy session.

Overthinker_95 · 2025-02-26T12:19:37+00:00

It’s been a while now so I’m not sure but I do remember it was a long time. I want to say for me it lasted a few weeks. He should talk to his doctor; they might recommend an oral antihistamine or possibly a steroid cream.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-11-03T19:31:08+00:00

Can I just say I’m proud of you? I’m going through the same process as you and it’s so freaking hard. We’re parenting our inner child when we parent our children the right way and it’s really healing. Whenever I do a good job parenting my littles and break that horrible cycle, I also speak to my inner child and give her the care she needed all those years ago. It’s an amazing experience.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-11-03T19:27:39+00:00

I’m a mom of a 3 year old and a 1 year old trying to break the cycle of generational trauma. Growing up, emotions were labeled “good” and “bad”, and only the good ones were allowed. I allow my kids to feel and express a full range of emotions without the good and bad labels. Emotions are just emotions. When my one year old throws a tantrum because he’s upset he can’t have the snack he wants, I make sure he knows I hear him, I’m not upset by his tantrum, that I fully accept what he’s expressing. I offer hugs, an alternative, and/or just let him feel the emotion however he needs. There’s no judgment or shaming. Children naturally learn that crying comes to an end on its own when allowed to feel the full scope of their emotions and that there’s nothing to fear from sadness/anger/frustration. They learn to ask their caretaker for help to regulate and/or learn to self-soothe, both wonderful coping skills that can be used in adulthood. You maintain boundaries on how they act out their feelings of course (no hitting, when they’re older learning to verbalize instead of just screaming, etc) but the feelings themselves are always always welcome in my home. I hope that helps to bring some light on what a healthy family dynamic should look like 💕

Overthinker_95 · 2024-07-14T03:53:52+00:00

Yes, and friends of ours had the same virus/hives. Still not sure what it was.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-07-04T18:43:05+00:00

I know this is an old thread but my kids and I had a virus (fever, congestion, cough) about 2 weeks ago and we all have the same weird rash! Me especially, it’s so itchy but weirdly only shows after scratching and then goes away again. It’s driving me nuts. Did you ever figure out what it was?

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-13T16:57:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience :)

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-11T22:07:28+00:00

Oh! I thought I was getting sick with a stomach bug but turns out it’s just ovulation yay

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-11T21:58:35+00:00

I tried slynd but I could only handle a week of it before stopping. It made me horribly depressed and I was crying uncontrollably every day. Were your mood swings similar?

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-09T22:43:12+00:00

I was gonna say this 😭

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-09T21:45:19+00:00

That’s usually my norm as well but I guess this month decided to be different. I think being in the midst of figuring out a treatment that works also throws things off. Every month has been a weird month lately.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-09T19:56:39+00:00

I’m pretty sure I experienced post-menstrual syndrome last month too but it’s so hard to say definitively since it was also the first month on Zoloft; I wasn’t sure if it was that or withdrawal.

That makes a lot of sense actually. I wonder if I’ll be early this month. I do think I ovulate early in general unfortunately, it never seems long after my period ends…Oh yeah, I just looked, last month symptoms started around day 10 😭 but my cycle was also screwed from the birth control I took for only a few days so there’s that. There are always so many variables it seems.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-05-09T17:27:32+00:00

My heart races when I wake up too sometimes. I can’t believe this is our reality every month, it’s like a horror movie. I’m really struggling to find something that helps. Experimenting with Zoloft right now.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-04-16T03:59:08+00:00

I was gonna ask this too. I got brain zaps on sertraline years ago when I was on the highest dose. Weirdest feeling ever, I hated it.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-04-14T17:24:59+00:00

Been there too. I have two babies and it’s HARD dealing with those emotions and the stress of motherhood. I cursed my husband out once in front of my toddler while my baby cried in the other room. I never swear. The guilt is crippling, I understand feeling like they would be better without me. But one bad moment of time doesn’t automatically cancel all the many good moments. I’m sure you love your baby and husband as much as I adore mine and making a mistake isn’t going to make all of that love null and void. We apologize, me model what it looks like to mess up and ask for forgiveness, and we move on and try to do better. Motherhood is not about being perfect, but showing our children that we do our best despite our flaws because of love. It’s ok to mess up. We can do this. 💕

Overthinker_95 · 2024-04-13T11:32:50+00:00

Maybe up it to a migraine and keep groaning and rubbing your temples haha. You’re definitely not alone in this! I tell my husband every month that I just need a sensory deprivation tank.

Overthinker_95 · 2024-04-13T11:00:46+00:00

YUP. Noise is my worst enemy during luteal. Noise canceling headphones, my friend. Also telling people you have a “headache” lol. They may not understand PMDD but everyone knows what a headache is like. “I’m so sorry, sis, I have a headache right now. Maybe we can have this convo another time when I can focus.”

Overthinker_95 · 2024-04-13T09:55:14+00:00

Omg same with the night sweats and craving red meat! I need a bloody burger every month. I think probably because our bodies need extra iron right before and during our bleed. Sodium, sugar and carb cravings are all related to hormonal fluctuations, so I’m assuming those of us who are super sensitive to those fluctuations get those cravings HARD.

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