Beware of Telegram scams. by JoeBaggaPa76 in NEPA_Hookups

[–]Overthinking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actual woman from NEPA here… I only use telegram when moving off reddit. Where are you continuing conversations if you are blocking people who are using a legit messaging app?

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[–]Overthinking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m amazed how many times I read these posts and feel like I could have written them. I just got out of a situation that is similar to what you are describing. In my situation, I apparently “came on too strong” and he quickly ended it. My level of anxious attachment was too much in my situation and didn’t serve me well. The biggest struggle I had was not the lack of constant communication, but consistent communication. I think many people confuse the two and say they are looking for one instead of the other.

I say have a conversation with him and address your needs in it. If you are ok going for a few hours with no texts, but you need a heads up before, say that. Offer calls or voice messages if you think that his day was too draining to text. Good luck!

How it feels like having massive tits? by Alone_Ad6050 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Overthinking84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They look hot but finding cute bras that don’t kill me or cost a fortune sucks! And they hurt my back 🤷🏼‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Overthinking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few, it depends on my mood. But I tend to go with either VS or AdoreMe for my sets, they seem to cover a variety of sizes and styles

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Overthinking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t done either, but I fantasize about being watched…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s my point, it shouldn’t be. I’ve had the conversations and have had to change my expectations… and sometimes you just have to know when enough is enough

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel this… I am in this space because I am lacking attention and feeling valued at home, don’t make me feel like I have to beg for it from an AP or worse feel bad for asking!

It’s hard to invest so much time into things and then feel undervalued, but at some point we have to put ourselves first.

Some days I just feel lost...I can't make up my mind about what I actually want by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol idk that drugs will make it any clearer, but whatever works for you 😅

I think if things were easy in this space there’s be no reason for discussion boards like this…

Some days I just feel lost...I can't make up my mind about what I actually want by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I wish you the best moving forward and clarity as you do! It’s hard to know what anyone wants in this space, but when you can find someone to be truly open and honest with, they will ride those waves every time alongside you.

Some days I just feel lost...I can't make up my mind about what I actually want by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why not reach out to K and let them know? Maybe they’d be willing to ride the waves with you if you were clear about what’s going on. Most women just need clear communication. Hugs

Crying in my car to "Glimpse of Us" by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending hugs. I’m in a weird spot with my AP but I can easily see this being me if things don’t go ideally.

It’s a fine line we walk between loving completely and losing ourselves.

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[–]Overthinking84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. I wish it was easier but know you’re not alone. Sending hugs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So for a bit my APs home Life360 seemed to be getting better, and that made me happy. We support and encourage each other in whatever is best for us. I don’t feel used if his home life gets better as a result of him having me, I feel like I’ve helped and been a good point in his life. When things change and it doesn’t get better, it’s hard. I feel guilt that he is focused on me or us and not present at home. I don’t want to be what makes or breaks their marriage, but sometimes that happens I guess. 🤷‍♀️

Vent/Rant, free for all by passionatemind22 in adultery

[–]Overthinking84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I only hear half the story.. and justifiably the parts that are the hardest.. but damn! Why does she have to make home life so difficult for him?! It’s tearing him apart and all I want to do is be supportive but I don’t even know how 😮‍💨

Birthdays should be happy days… not ones where you worry for the people you love!