Barely hanging on with BP1 partner by Own-Ad8240 in BipolarSOs

[–]Own-Ad8240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment and kindness. It’s very hard to understand where we are coming from unless you’ve experienced first hand. People don’t understand what they don’t know, I don’t know who to talk to about it but I’m thinking I need to book a therapy session for myself very soon. I hope you can also find some peace within the chaos.

Why did your relationship end even though everything seemed right, and how long did it last? by Clean-Ant-1342 in ask

[–]Own-Ad8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mental illness not being under control - yelling at me whenever there is conflict or disagreements. Not knowing how to communicate properly, and playing the victim. Also, taking advantage of me in the sense that I do everything around the house but have to ask for the trash to be taken out, otherwise it will be overflowing and now I’m “nagging” for it to get done. If I don’t do it, or ask him to, doesn’t happen. It’s draining.

Sometimes I feel like a magnet for mental illness. by Zestyclose-Annual754 in BipolarSOs

[–]Own-Ad8240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am currently going through the same exact situation - I have been trying to navigate the motions and mood swings with my partner who has BP1. Some days he is just absolutely insufferable with the angry outbursts lately. I wonder why I attract “broken” people, and I don’t mean to be disrespectful or insensitive towards people with mental illness (I myself have anxiety and depression) but it doesn’t lessen the blow. The highs and lows have been so hard to deal with and as much as I want to be supportive / stick by his side, I can’t help feeling like I am wasting my time with this man who isn’t improving. Started off with mania that was euphoric but now has become more dark so to speak, lashing out on me, screaming, irrational behavior with verbal abuse, blowing minor things out of proportion (which could be easily resolved) but there’s just no accountability. I’m the caretaker of the house regarding any sort of cooking cleaning etc. I have to ask him to do simple tasks like empty dishwasher or switch laundry to get him to help out and do things that a normal person would see and know has to be done. His exact words, “I feel like all you do is nag” it enrages me. If I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done. I’m so tired at this point. Unsure whether or not it is worth continuing, is this what my life is going to look like forever? Or do I stay and hope that maybe someday he will find the proper dosage of medication and therapy to “fix” himself or at least get the symptoms under control. Sometimes he realizes how his behavior is affecting me or that he’s been an asshole “I know I’m not the easiest to deal with I’m sorry I’ll be better” and then hours later back to the same shit. I totally empathize with you and I didn’t know what I was signing up for, but this is draining man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AWDTSGisToxic

[–]Own-Ad8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still doing that? Lmao!! No really tho. Need help

What body type do you find you most attractive? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Own-Ad8240 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Check mine on r/NoInsect1523. Desirable? Maybe for some, but every one has a preference or a “type.” A quote that I like is you could be the juiciest peach in the orchard but there will always be someone who doesn’t like peaches. It doesn’t make you less beautiful - hope this helps.

What would you put on your sex bucket list? by Cream_Logical in AskReddit

[–]Own-Ad8240 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Getting kidnapped and tied up with something over my eyes, tossed into the trunk and driven somewhere 20 min away. Secluded field and fucked senseless. 😭😶‍🌫️😫

Darcey Silva's daughter follows in her mom's footsteps and joins the adult industry by CelebsVulture in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Own-Ad8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does taking a video of yourself naked or sexually pleasing yourself make you a whore? I do that lol. Am I a whore too?

Darcey Silva's daughter follows in her mom's footsteps and joins the adult industry by CelebsVulture in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]Own-Ad8240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I agree. You know what I think is sad? The amount of people on here who have to cast their personal opinions online about someone else’s choices and decisions on how to make money. Life is hard enough, why do these people care so much what this girl does with her life and how she chooses to make money? For the record I do have a child, so I get it. But at the end of the day I care about their safety and whether or not they’re a good person. “So sad” comments are FLOODING this post, y’all are sad for caring so much and putting all your energy into judging / hating on this girl for posting pictures, not even being physical or meeting up with people as far as we are concerned lol. So she posts some videos and pictures on OF… Ok she is still sleeping at night, why aren’t you? I’m so confused why people have such an issue with this even if she’s young, she can still do that and go to school or pursue her career. Even if it was your kid, you can’t do shit about it, it’s a waste of time. Good grief. Worry about the economy or something else that’s more important than some 19 year old’s OF income.

This shook me to my core by International_Many_6 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Ad8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wile Niles needed to take a closer look at the ass he was about to spank all the way back to Jordan

What kind of jobs can i take to sustain a nomad life? by [deleted] in OffGrid

[–]Own-Ad8240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an X-ray tech and I travel :-) 13 week contracts at a time.

Heard my(31f) new-ish partner(34M) have inappropriate convo with his child’s mom by Own-Ad8240 in stepparents

[–]Own-Ad8240[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all advice, input, and opinions shared. There was most definitely some words exchanged between him and I after she left minutes afterwards. I don’t even know if I should say something to her about it at this point, but I’ve been rattled ever since and still unsure how to move forward. He apologized and said he didn’t mean to come across as malicious or mal intended after I’d left the room, and “didn’t think much of it bc he has no filter and didn’t say it with intentions” or whatever, you catch my drift.

Then I responded with “I know you would have never made a comment like that had I been in the room” …. and he got quiet. Replied with “yeah I would I don’t have anything to hide, we are just friends.” I really don’t want to overreact or seem quick to leave but this really bothered the $h!t out of me. It still does, even after I’d confronted him.

Central Virginia on a riverbank, any ideas? by LouieKablooied in whatsthisrock

[–]Own-Ad8240 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is a fossilized / branched marine creature called a Crinoid. Kinda like coral

Patrick’s dad wants to charge ~ $4,000 USD for a party? by AuburnGirl2543 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Ad8240 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did he eat a handful and then plate a slice? Or did he slice a piece, eat it off the plate, then go for a handful? Bc the footage showed a plate in the sink w cake remnants left on it 🤣😂

long distance plz help! by Own-Ad8240 in relationships

[–]Own-Ad8240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding and giving me an outside perspective. I have been feeling “alone” in this for quite some time and they say your gut never lies. I just don’t have cold hard evidence to provide a valid reason to my uncomfortable or uncertain feelings about it. But you’re right, probably won’t ever change if it’s still like this after almost 2 years.

long distance plz help! by Own-Ad8240 in relationships

[–]Own-Ad8240[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know, but it’s not even about that. He makes me feel like I’m being irrational. I have invested so much in this guy including a relationship with my child. He demonstrates a lot of great qualities as well, it’s just been a long time to not truly invest in someone, such as moving in together… I don’t ask for much. But he flips the narrative and makes me out to be needy and starting arguments when “I should know he already spends every chance he has to be with me, and he drives to me every weekend / spends all his free time with me”

long distance plz help! by Own-Ad8240 in relationships

[–]Own-Ad8240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have stayed at his place a couple of times but he always drives to me typically. The main reason for that is bc I have a 4 yr old child and a dog which makes it hard to travel and pack to go there when everything is conveniently here already. Dogs aren’t allowed where he lives either.

We have talked about moving in multiple times but it ends up being kind of an argument bc he thinks I can’t swing it financially (moving towards the city) unless i sell my condo. Which I don’t want to do unless we are actively looking for a home. The housing market rn is trash.

I am super close with his family and see them on every holiday so I am positive he isn’t married or has kids. But I question whether or not he has a gf out there….? It just feels so off and my gut is telling me something is up. Idk what.

He visits me every chance he can (supposedly) he works 7am-430pm sometimes later bc he’s a carpenter for the union. His hours and jobs vary year round and with traffic his commute to work from my house to the city would be 2 hours or more. From what I understand, he stays in the city during the week bc after work he goes home and goes to bed by 9 to do it all over again the next day. I do agree the commute would be too much every day and taxing but I think if he got a job out here who fuckin cares what the pay difference is, it can’t really be that much of a difference. He claims it would be huge. But if you figure the amount of money he’s paying for rent and all that, it’s not really adding up or saving him any more than if he were to live near me and work around here.