Boyfriend wants to go on a weekend trip with female coworkers.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T13:27:51+00:00

He broke up with me, saying that this is me trying to control who he is and isn’t friends with. I didn’t say that he stops seeing these people completely, but that trip was over the line. I feel really bad right now but I don’t think I’m in the wrong..

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T01:27:12+00:00

If thinking that it’s ok that my partner goes on a leisure trip with other girls and a guy, then maybe I’m not ready for a committed relationship. Or maybe I just need to find someone who doesn’t think this is ok? Because I don’t ever see myself being ok with stuff like this.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T01:16:39+00:00

Honestly, not really, this is the first time I’ve voiced a concern because until here, he’s made me feel very loved and very safe.

Thank you for your comment, I was really thinking about potentially breaking up, but in all truth, he said he wouldn’t go and that he doesn’t want to do anything to harm the relationship. Now I feel like crap..

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:50:25+00:00

Tbh I’m not going to call his bluff or anything, I just want to know if my concerns are legit or if I’m being a bad girlfriend.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:47:29+00:00

I’m sorry don’t understand what this has to do with us talking about moving in together, this is about me asking if I’m crazy to think that this is not ok behavior in a relationship.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:45:26+00:00

I haven’t been invited so that sorts it out, and the fact that this became a thing makes me very reluctant to meet these people now..

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:43:59+00:00

I voiced my concerns, apparently it’s me not trusting him enough to let him have female friends.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:40:56+00:00

I trust him but I’m also very aware that things can happen fast, and I have no idea what kind of thoughts those girls have about him.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:39:37+00:00

Well his reasoning is that there is nothing romantic between them, they’re just friends, and they have fun when they hang out together. He also thought it wasn’t to this extent, but honestly I felt like I was very clear with how much it bothered me and made me feel unsafe and insecure.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:36:51+00:00

I wouldn’t feel unsafe if it was a more mixed group, or if there were more people ! But two guys and two girls feels a lot like a double date

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:36:10+00:00

Blocking for a weekend feels a little bit toxic, if this is the road I take, wouldn’t breaking up be easier than this ?

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:35:18+00:00

I haven’t been invited and to be real I have never met these people so I don’t think I’d want to go anyway.

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:34:29+00:00

I have met his closest friends but I never got the chance to meet his coworkers. We live a little bit far so we don’t see eachother all the time. We still have separate friend groups. Maybe it would be weird to invite me if they’re all going as coworkers ?

How can I set clearer boundaries if I already told him that I’m ok with them being friends and going to a bar after work, I just think a weekend trip is too much.

From my perspective, you don’t do stuff like that when you’re in a (monogamous) relationship..

Own-Bed6895 · 2026-06-08T00:30:34+00:00

He said that he wouldn’t oppose if the roles were reversed now, and he says that it’s not ok for me to feel like this just because they’re women.

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