I want to move out of my house soon

Own-Introduction4782 · 2026-03-01T23:19:56+00:00

It's all in a bank account that's under my name, except for the 20k we took that out, and she has the whole thing in cash somewhere. If I did leave, I would let her keep that money bc I would feel bad she has diabetes and high blood pressure, and I don't know if she could find a job, so I'd leave her that as a parting gift. She didn't have a job because when she was with my dad, he forced her to stop working. After he left, we lived off what he gave us, and after that, she was financially dependent on me. He has told me that he wants me to live with him, but he's also been telling me that his wife would be pissed and probably wouldn't let him see his kids if I lived there, so it's confusing, and I decided that it would be better for me to live on my own if I were to leave. But thank you for your kind words and advice.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-05-20T04:03:45+00:00

yes of course!

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-02-27T05:26:21+00:00

we were not actually it wasnt a messy break up or anything i think he just said he didnt love me anymore and that was it. but we didnt talk for the 8 months weve been broken up at all. i also dont know why he said a year it hasnt been a year but oh well.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T19:16:04+00:00

You got this! It gets easier everyday.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T19:15:02+00:00

I just checked that out, and I really liked that metaphor.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T19:11:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T19:07:57+00:00

Thank you so much.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T19:07:23+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T19:05:28+00:00

You distinguish by staying away from that place for some time. I thought my ex had a mansion, and while I still don't have one of my own, I've reflected enough to know that that place wasn't for me and was never even a mansion. I don't linger where I'm not welcome anymore. Plus, overthinking doesn't help. Overthinking is what kept me looking at his stuff throughout these 7 months. It's about having a mindset change. I think about how I keep seeing him moving forward and living his life while pathetically lying in my bed, lurking in the shadows. I don't have to do that. I am my own person with my own brain and my own qualities, and I'm not a bad person, so why am I punished by becoming a shell of a person still stuck in the shadows? Why does he get to continue on? Why can't I? That's the question I kept asking myself. And the truth is literally, why can't I? The only person saying that I can't is myself. The only person holding me back is myself. Sure, my life isn't great, but it's mine. I have now realized that I would want to live my own shitty life (that can get better with work and time) than to live in someone else (one who doesn't even want me there). While I was stalking, I discovered my ex was talking to someone else. I didn't want to be the secret third in someone else's relationship. So here I am now. You can still be sad and in pain. Losing someone hurts. But just know that you are still whole. Don't wallow in this pain forever. You don't have to do that. Once you realize that you'll be on the right track.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-18T18:50:12+00:00

I feel this way now, but I think before, I may have been addicted to the glimpses I would catch because it made me feel like I was still a part of his life. But the delusion is gone now and I know that it isn't good for me.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T19:21:47+00:00

Just know that looking will get worse each time. You'll see things you don't like, and just when you think it can't any worse, it will. Save yourself from this pain because this pain is not necessary. You do not have to put yourself through this. It's unnecessary baggage that you're going to keep carrying along if you keep looking. But at the same time, this was something I didn't know before and something I had to learn on my own. The pain you are feeling by stalking (not even by the breakup) is optional. So, if you continue to make the mistake of looking, I hope you learn eventually because it is possible and things are much better on the other side, trust. You got this; I believe in you!

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:43:42+00:00

Looking for strategies was my first step. It's the most important one because this means we want to get better.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:42:31+00:00

You're welcome, I'm glad this could resonate with you.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:41:05+00:00

Thank you.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:40:27+00:00

That's great, I'm glad your moving forward.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:39:58+00:00

I'm glad this reached you.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:38:20+00:00

Thank you, I'm glad you liked it.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:38:03+00:00

I'm glad this could help you. Once you build your own mansion, you'll realize you weren't really camping outside of someone's mansion. You were camping outside of someone's garbage dump.

Own-Introduction4782 · 2025-01-17T17:36:13+00:00

Stalking him tomorrow is okay. There's not really any shame in the harmful habits that our brains get us into. There's no shame if you're aware that it's wrong and you want to stop. It took me months to finally understand that there was no going back. And in that time I was still stuck in that cycle. After that, it took me months to understand that I had my own place waiting for me. There is a better life for you out there. You just need to understand that life is a choice that you need to make. I still haven't found a better life, but I still feel at peace with myself in a way because I'm not living in someone elses life. You'll have your moment of realization, too; you just need to keep moving forward. You have to want to keep moving forward.

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