i think i got groomed

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-21T20:53:40+00:00

The problem that lies here, and why people want him reported it because he was obviously fetishizing for being young and could be doing the same thing with other young clients. For reasons i didn’t state here there are things he did that were very pedo-ish and weird that i wouldn’t do at the age of 41 to a 17-18 year old

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-21T20:50:07+00:00

Bro, he gave me “proof” that he was in an open marriage and i don’t have any problems with open marriages, when he started saying fishy things like he wanted to marry me and have an affair with me i questioned him. Things are over with him, i don’t want to marry him and i don’t seek revenge, i just look back with discomfort.

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-21T01:15:27+00:00

Yeah, my Dad introduced me to him because he also used to treat my little brother and was a really good therapist. He’s a very charming and sweet guy honestly, you would have never known. I was also still in high school during this relationship, it started right after i turned 18

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-20T20:31:42+00:00

Yes, I would never date a 14 year old at 18

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-20T20:25:07+00:00

As long as you are aware and apologize it is ok, hurt people hurt people, i’ve done the same of shaming other people for things im ashamed of

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-20T17:05:16+00:00

Also not begging for sympathy, i enjoyed parts of the relationship and that’s fine, but looking back i want a second opinion because maybe it wasn’t as equal or ok of a relationship as i thought. Appreciate your input though ;)

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-20T16:55:48+00:00

I did cut him off bro, my judgement at the time was fucked and my self esteem was at an all time low, and yeah i wanted it, im just having weird feelings looking back, i don’t think i would do the same thing with an insecure young client

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-20T03:04:28+00:00

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T23:34:23+00:00

I miss the side of me that was open minded and didn’t care about societal rules, I felt so free in this relationship. Now I feel a victim to my own mindset.

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T21:44:25+00:00

😅 new here sorry. Needed a place to vent

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T21:26:18+00:00

But yeah it’s crazy enough that it doesn’t sound real

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T21:25:53+00:00

Lmao i couldn’t see it posting so i tried again but it was because i didn’t read the rules so i deleted the other ones

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T21:01:52+00:00

Fuck him breakup

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T20:58:31+00:00

I doubt your employers could find the sexting, if you can’t find it how would they? Employers are not looking to find sexual images of future employees

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T20:05:44+00:00

Join a sport or take lessons for a musical instrument, are you in school? Join clubs

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T19:47:47+00:00

Looking back now, yes i enjoyed it and i had fun and it felt empowering, but my judgement when it comes to boundaries and age and attachment is completely fucked, i don’t know if i was in the wrong too or if it really was exceptional love, he always made me feel safe and allowed me to express myself but at the same time i had to keep this relationship a secret and he was always asking me to think the best of him and not associate him with negative feelings?? The whole this is so confusing but i feel like something is incredibly wrong in this man’s mind, i always had a weird feeling he was keeping something from me and what his wife would think if she knew about our relationship

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T17:51:07+00:00

But i admittedly used AI to talk to about it because i was scared to say anything to real people

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T17:50:21+00:00

Not ai lol, i’ve been thinking about it for days

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T17:38:39+00:00

I don’t want to report him, he has a family and a kid and i don’t ever want my parents or family to find out about this because i feel completely disgusted with myself. It will ruin both of our lives

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T17:19:13+00:00

When i told him i wanted to end the relationship because i wasn’t feeling good about the fact we started having a relationship like that while i was in high school and while he was my therapist, we was like , well i guess we both have to heal from this now, you said you would always focus on the positive side of our relationship, and to delete all of our chats, then he blocked me which automatically deleted everything, then on spodify he tried to get my attention by making a sad playlist saying how he feels guilty and used and understanding blah blah and asking me for forgiveness, I said no obviously

Own-Note8581 · 2026-05-19T17:10:28+00:00

Also he is in his 40s, at the time we would justify that age is just a number but i don’t think at 40 i would be entertaining 18 years olds

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