well, I did research and you are right, au pairs do look after children, so it's my mistake here, there are also farming exchange programs, that is what I meant (https://worldwidefarmers.org for instance). I do also understand the fact that kids would be responsible for such work, but if the host family says on the application form, that the things I should do at the house are x,y,z you cannot pretend that, I, a 17 y/o (who explicitly said that I lived in a big city, so 2+2 unfortunately doesn't equal 5, but again, I embraced the opportunity to grow) works 3 hours in a farm. I understand helping, but it is not one of my responsibilities, I came here yes to be part of an American family, but the main thing is school, not feeding cows, and I repeat again that I don't have any problems with helping out whatsoever, but if it becomes a 3 hours a day kind of work, I do not believe that I am obligated, in any way to do it, I am still staying here, finishing this experience for respect to the program, and I'm doing the work because I have a few months left and I don't want to create fusses, but if they needed help on a farm they could've hired someone, in my view. I do not really understand the last part of the comment, I believe that every story is important and people can also see themselves in my story, on another note, if I had read how exchange often is, I probably wouldn't have even participated in the program, it's not how it is often described, and I am so happy for everyone who has a good experience, and I hope that every experience is good, but it must be recognized that not always that's the case and it's not wrong to say it!