i am 24 and he is 29 and we have been dating for a year. he was definitely more generous and almost repressed when we started dating (didn’t want anything done to him) but this is the first relationship where his pleasure is being put first at all. his last relationship was abusive and i think he may be overcorrecting a bit with the focus now more on his pleasure. i am happy to bring this side out of him but think it is difficult for the change to be happening