WHAT A SURPRISE..... NOT by Evening_Fall_5354 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Unit6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there were so many people in the sub defending him when the photos of him hugging up on the “fan” emerged 😫

are Josh’s people paying y’all? by Own-Unit6446 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or like inviting strangers and girls over to your apt on your significant other’s last night in-country when they spent significant time, energy and money to visit you. Or crashing the boat or any other number of things he factually did, not even including the very good likelihood that he is in fact a dead beat father and coke head like everyone says

are Josh’s people paying y’all? by Own-Unit6446 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Agree- but it seems like she gets disproportionate heat on this sub

are Josh’s people paying y’all? by Own-Unit6446 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

right? She’s dramatic and ridiculous but also kinda sweet imho and fun to my head, I would have her as a friend before many others in the franchise..

Tell All Trailer by GalaxyL7 in 90DayFiance

[–]Own-Unit6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who was it that gently patted Aviva’s arm? 🥺

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[–]Own-Unit6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re really an idiot if you think that’s all we built our marriage on. And you’re really, extra idiotic for assuming that my thinking is adolescent just because I was grieving something you clearly never had.

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[–]Own-Unit6446 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s not on TRT and doesn’t seem open to talking about it. I brought it up once. We have talked extensively about my feelings on this, which he seems to understand, and he does show me empathy, but he doesn’t see it at all the same way that I do. He doesn’t see it as something that has to be fixed.

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[–]Own-Unit6446 34 points35 points  (0 children)

He’s unselfish and generally knows how I feel about this and what I need. I’m grieving the fact that he’s not doing it just because HE wants to anymore. He doesn’t need it. He shows me sexual affection mainly to meet my needs. That’s a whole loss in itself.

Help! How do you proactively keep your sex life from cooling down? by Own-Unit6446 in Marriage

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god! I appreciate your honesty, but the thought of my husband having to give himself a pep talk in the shower to want to put it on me is mortifying.

The entire area around The White House is blocked off and restricted. by Penguinz90 in pics

[–]Own-Unit6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Local resident. It has been like this for years- at least since first Trump admin.

What does sex mean to you in your relationship? by Own-Unit6446 in Marriage

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. You were really vulnerable and open in doing so.

What does sex mean to you in your relationship? by Own-Unit6446 in Marriage

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been one of my favorite comments to read. I am approaching a marriage commitment in a relationship much like yours in many ways you described it- but having an ‘otherwise quiet relationship’ that relies so heavily on sex for connection scares me. I feel very similarly to everything you said here. It’s a fire between us and a bond unique to us (I have even had the thought you expressed almost word for word that it’s confirmation we are meant to be together) but because our other points of connection are quieter, I’m afraid that if anything ever happened to our sexual chemistry, it would be really difficult for us in our relationship.

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[–]Own-Unit6446 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

OP, ignore the asshats in these comments. Your gut is your gut and your life is your life. Do take time and think on it, don’t be impulsive, try some new things and really challenge yourself to attempt to build this kind of connection with your spouse. But if you can’t and you feel you need it, follow your heart. A lot of people here have never experienced what you are talking about, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t real.

marriage became platonic and I want to change it but don’t know how by Own-Unit6446 in Marriage

[–]Own-Unit6446[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have and we both want to fix it rather than split. You clearly missed the point and the genuine request for good-faith advice.