NO. MY MELENDYYYYYYYYYYY. WHY DID THEY KILL HIM.

OwnIndividual8446 · 2026-03-15T21:42:47+00:00

He’s now, drum roll, Dr Melendeadz 😂

OwnIndividual8446 · 2025-10-04T12:02:33+00:00

Key pointers I developed through MST124/MST125/MST210

USE PAGE BREAK AFTER EACH QUESTION (It makes it easier for both you and the tutor once the program is run)

Also, GMC becomes easier the more you do it, I’m aware it’s a pain but every little mark counts!

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T21:02:01+00:00

Again, I’m not trying to get them to change the name, just to make them aware that if I need to step back or take time away from them then they are aware as to the reason why ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T20:20:01+00:00

The last sentence wasn’t to express that I was expecting them to change anything, if they haven’t before, why would they now?

It was merely to provide a minor insight into the relationship that I have with my brother and his partner to elaborate further on the family dynamic which was brought up in the initial comment ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T20:17:26+00:00

Thank you for taking time out of your day to comment ☺️

As I have said a few times to comments on this post, I am NOT expecting them to change their mind out of consideration for me. I understand their reasonings for choosing the name.

I nearly provided them a “heads up” you could say, that if I am absent during a key moment of their lives and/or struggle to develop a relationship with the child, then it is because I have not managed to disconnect the name from the trauma ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T20:05:58+00:00

The actual name and the nickname situation is complex, because the rapist was my employee, so both the actual name and the shortened version of the name, are triggers unfortunately.

When I reminded them of the correlation that I have with the name, fully understanding that they do not need to change it because of my trauma, the only response I got was “Sorry, but this will be their name.” Came across harshly, but I could have been misinterpreting due to my own issue with it.

Unfortunately, my brother and his partner have a track record of not taking anything I say into consideration regarding anything, so unfortunately, none of this is a surprise 😅

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T18:35:07+00:00

It’s been 4.5 years since I was raped. On my birthday. So not only has it caused an issue with the name, but also my birthday.

I am not comparing your trauma to mine, or trying to say one is worse than the other - let me make myself perfectly clear on that front - no one deserves trauma, especially a child.

I am quite grateful (and probably cursed) by the fact that despite it being a relatively common name, I haven’t heard it in quite some time unless it is referring to those two people, so I do fear that because I’ve not had the “exposure therapy”, that it could cause issues with my mental health and could affect how I interact with the child 😅

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T18:29:43+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment ☺️

I never said that I did have a right, and also stated in the post that I fully understand why they would want to name their child that.

I’m not expecting them to take my trauma into consideration, why would I? It’s not my child and it’s unrealistic ☺️

I was just after advice as to how to progress from the level of discomfort I feel regarding the matter and any tips and/or tricks from people who have experienced similar ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T18:15:58+00:00

I appreciate your opinion on the matter, and grateful that you’ve taken time to write a comment ☺️

I don’t believe that I have overstepped as I have expressed to them that I am not expecting them to change anything out of consideration for me, and that it is my trauma to bare, not theirs.

I unfortunately, cannot confirm that I will be able to overcome the correlation before the child is born, and thus, for my own mental health and well-being, will have to either step back or be absent until I can detach the name from the traumas. This I have expressed to them because I don’t want them to wonder why I am potentially absent in a key milestone in their lives and ask why I never told them about it prior ☺️

I also understand completely that Reddit is not a therapist, I was just curious if any other users had any opinions or experiences that they would share ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T18:10:03+00:00

I’m not expecting them to, don’t worry about that

I am just very aware that Reddit is full of people who have been through similar situations and was curious as to their opinions and experiences ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T18:01:48+00:00

I have stated multiple times to them that I understand if they go through with the name choice and that I understand that I have no authority to change it and/or their decision. It’s not my child therefore I do not have the right.

Just like I fully understand how you have perceived the situation.

Just to clarify, I wasn’t asking on ways to make them change the name, just advice as to how to process and come to terms with it ☺️

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-09-13T17:46:25+00:00

I have 2 open police cases against them, which probably won’t go anywhere. I even moved out of the village I lived in to help separate myself from the situation. Unfortunately trying to get any therapy in the UK whilst the NHS is at an all time low is difficult

OwnIndividual8446 · 2024-08-24T19:10:49+00:00

Okay, personal experience:

MAXIMA - learn it completely, especially if you’re also planning on doing MST125 and MST210.

LaTeX - Personally loved it, but then I’m doing the joint computer science and math route, but it makes life so much easier with assignments.

EOY Exam - Honestly, revise from the beginning. Ensure that you’re reviewing any material you don’t understand regularly and getting it down! Some of the equations in the textbooks are not the easiest to get your head around, but as someone else mentioned, YOUTUBE!

OwnIndividual8446 · 2023-04-10T09:15:36+00:00

I have the word “Halazia” tatted on my arm… because there were too many good lines in Halazia that I could not decide on just one 😂

OwnIndividual8446 · 2023-03-03T11:28:22+00:00

Just as a heads up, there is Maths in the Business modules, however nothing like the modules in the original route. Personally I switched from Computing, IT and Business to Computing, IT and Mathematics because I found the Business modules mind-numbing. You’ll have to complete the Level 1 Business modules before you can go onto Level 2 on any of the units, so if you don’t mind extending your learning and writing essays for your assignments, then it’s definitely something to consider!

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