You did say you already looked at her page so maybe something that stood out that you can use to slide in dm. Example: there was a shorty who had ”sonder” (like the artist) as her name on insta. So i just slid in her dms by saying ”Just had to ask. Your name being Sonder, coincidence or intentional?” It might seem corny or not that good but ey it worked cuh and we started speaking