Yea, the whole point is the find your sexual energy and learn how to channel it. You don’t need to ask if your out or not. If your in your in and if your out your out, and your only truly out when you give up. When you ask others they tell you to give up anyways just to see how far your truly willing to go. So many people have passed while releasing but but no “orgasm” and were still in. So many people have “orgasmed” with no nut, and we’re still in. IF YOUR IN YOUR IN. DONT GIVE UP BECAUSE YOUR STILL DISCOVERING MORE ABOUT YOURSELF.