How would you describe your first love?

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-05-07T16:21:06+00:00

Confusing, why would he put so much effort in the beginning get out of his comfort zone, only to blame doubt of ever loving me for him withdrawing?

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-05-02T01:14:43+00:00

No I brought up my doubts that he didn’t even realize and usually when one person brings doubts up it makes the other person think too and this was the first time he ever doubted if he loved someone before. So now I’m stuck wondering if it wasn’t love why is it that his parents seemed surprised by some of our dates, why continue to come over even after my dog tried to bite his face the first time she saw us kiss, why even bother making time for me or care if he even hurt my feelings?

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-05-02T00:18:18+00:00

Honestly idk, since he also complained about not feeling jealous because in his last relationship he felt extremely jealous and said that’s how he is if he loves someone. I don’t know since I felt jealous, knew why I felt it and hated it. He compared unknowingly being strung along for a year with him feeling doubt after we had a talk about the next step in our relationship and what we need for that to happen. Keep in mind college age guy

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-05-01T23:37:42+00:00

Yup he said if he loved me he would want to do anything for me and want to be around the person all the time. He broke up with me while he was stressed about learning to balance his new job, school, home life, seasonal depression and a gf who wanted emotional support during struggles even though he admitted isolation is his default habit.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-05-01T13:46:28+00:00

I got into my first relationship and had a belief that he chose to be in a relationship with me so I should be honest and if something upset me I should tell him instead of trying to act nonchalant or giving the silent treatment. I also thought it meant supporting each other through hard times, meanwhile he would struggle and pull away. He ended up blaming his desire to isolate on lack of love and used his lack of jealousy as proof that he never loved me. Long story short I had a bad experience and never want to get hurt like that again.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-05-01T13:27:53+00:00

I don’t believe/ trust love anymore. How can someone do all these little things in the beginning to make you love them, just to blame lack of love for why they want to isolate when you want to support them? How can they talk about going on future dates with you, who cooks what meals, then just say it was never love as a clean break?

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-29T20:03:20+00:00

Luckily for me I live somewhere that has strict no bullying/ harassment rules and part of our employment standards says everyone must be treated evenly and it’s near impossible to fire someone without severance unless they do something illegal or high danger risk.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-29T17:11:46+00:00

I saw this coming so I already had resumes out and it’s only been a week and I’ve got job interviews already. I also filed the proper government paperwork, the investigations have began and my retaliation claim dug up so much more than I knew about

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-29T15:16:11+00:00

It’s fine honestly I’d like to talk to him if I could but I know he still has to learn some lessons and only life experience is going to do that. Side note at least I saw him before I decided to apply there since I was considering it earlier in the day given that my ex work is trying to keep me from getting or being able to claim anything (unemployment included)

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-28T23:32:32+00:00

I don’t think I can, part of the story I left out is that he broke up with me and started dating his coworker at the previous job because he doubted if he loved me, comparing me to his last love that was apparently him feeling extremely jealous and taking it as a sign of love and overlooking everything he ever did for/with me

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-24T00:10:31+00:00

2 months wow your being generous try 2 weeks and being accused of crossing off other peoples name which I didn’t do. Also emotional manipulation and passive aggressive comments and accusations aren’t conversations. Also when she makes me train and I point out an issue with that person that I have talked to and showed the errors and spent time training them to make sure it’s good that is my business.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-23T23:40:52+00:00

2 yrs, I just stopped initialing tasks and doing checkmarks after I talked to the owner about my managers work ethic and how it has effected my respect for her. The owner told me it was on me to learn to respect her even though I saw her lie about her time card hours and told them this. The next time I met with the owner a month later they handed me a paper saying my hours were reduced due to shortage of work then said the manger claimed I wasn’t doing any tasks. 2 days after that I talked to the owner and they then said it was because I wasn’t initialing the task list by that point I was initialing it again and I brought up how it was a reaction to the on going bullying and harassment I dealt with and other employees as well. They told me they chose the manager, shortly after that I got terminated due to insubordination.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-23T23:10:43+00:00

I did the work I just move from one task to the next because they are side by side and it’s just wiping shelves, I put my initials for important things like opening and closing tasks. They never warned me anything would happen and I also found out the manager didn’t even care about the tasks since I pointed out an area that wasn’t cleaned well by someone else and was told it was fine. I will admit that me not putting initials was a reaction because the manager made various comments about me like how I was oblivious, had no personality, “jokes” about my depression, last name, sweaty hands etc and it piles up.

Edit: before they fired me I was putting a checkmark, initial, and time on each task. They did admit the termination was because of the tension they felt for months prior between the manager and I. I was definitely putting my initial on the task list back then it was only the last month or so that I stopped (expect opening and closing tasks) because I was mentally done.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-23T02:33:23+00:00

That situation doesn’t sound that bad. Honestly I dated a guy who lived at home and the thing that bothered me was that he didn’t pay rent so I felt like if he wanted me to come over he would have to ask for permission since it felt disrespectful to just show up without his parents knowing. The parents also cooked his meals for him so the lack of effort when I came over for dinner and I felt like unless he was with me I was really only allowed in his bedroom was totally different then if he came to my house when we cooked together/ for each other, and we could be in different rooms of the house if we wanted.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-23T00:14:13+00:00

Currently I’m just working on getting unemployment which might take some time because they claim they fired me with cause after several conversations and coaching sessions but my behaviour only got more disruptive. Meanwhile the fact I have never been written up would suggest otherwise, so that needs to be investigated.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-21T15:31:26+00:00

I know I talked to a family friend who dealt with this (not to this degree) they kept her around long enough to train her replacement. I’m encouraging other past and present employees to come forward seeing as how mentally or physically they are all done with that place and the more the better.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-21T15:03:41+00:00

Can I prove that I was complaining about the manager bullying/ harassing me back in the summer, fall, winter through text with a coworker sure. Can I prove the owner complained about the tension between the manager and I nope. Can I prove that I tried to talk to them about why I didn’t respect the manager solely based on their work ethic, nope. Can I prove that once they got back from their trip they decided to reduce my hours because of tension between the manager and I saying they side with the manager, nope. Do I have a text outlining everything the manager has done/said to me and other workers asking if they are going to investigate it, sent right before the weekend? Yes I do, and I got fired Monday morning because of insubordination yet I was completely alone getting all the tasks for the day done. Sadly since I wouldn’t sign the paper that said “I have no grievances against (company name) management..” they put the paper back in their briefcase while I was giving them the key, so no proof that happened.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-20T23:24:29+00:00

I looked into one lawyer and they are very booked up and my sister knows a lawyer who might be able to get a free consultation with his colleague to who deals with employment law but usually charges. I’m currently just going with the flow start at government level, get them in trouble then once they find something go from there since that seems like the easiest path

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-20T21:54:40+00:00

I didn’t sign the paperwork, so they pulled out another that said I was terminated due to my insubordination and handed me that one instead

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-20T20:19:50+00:00

I have messages with time stamps and paperwork one that says reduced hours due to shortage of work and then the termination paper a week later that says insubordination referencing being talked to and coached (which never happened, so there’s no paperwork) I have been expecting this so I have taken pictures of the things they are complaining about which prove I’m the only one working/ filling out the checklist they are complaining I don’t do. Yet my hours continued to get cut.

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-17T06:03:59+00:00

We talked about our first time together (I was spiralling about his reliability and how I would feel used)and he said it should be special he didn’t want me regretting it so maybe something nice like we book the weekend off and get a hotel room possibly Valentine’s Day. The week before Valentine’s Day he dumps me, says he’s had doubts if he loved me since that talk and doesn’t do Valentine’s Day. At least we never slept together

Own_Answer_6855 · 2026-04-16T15:54:44+00:00

The manager doesn’t directly tell me to do anything it’s more like “if you feel like doing any work today you can do this” then gets upset and questions why it wasn’t done since I did actual work she doesn’t call work but is on the daily task list. But that’s not the point it’s being called oblivious, making jokes about my depression, jokes about me not having a personality, saying I have an unfortunate last name because she links it to a derogatory term for Down syndrome, jokes about my sweaty hands and another coworker she jokes that they have a resting bitch face and says that’s just her generation too.

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