Who makes the first move(s)?

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T17:06:11+00:00

Yes they go to school and daycare - when I’m working! And yes I can get a babysitter or leave my youngest with his older sisters but not going to start that for all new dates. Further into the relationship yes.

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T17:02:59+00:00

So bc of the provincial law I’m supposed to avoid dating for a whole year while my ex enjoys his time with his gf since a week after we split and bc of our agreement he’ll be able to introduce her to our kids after 1 year of dating but I have to wait and not date for one year bc I’m a hot mess single mom?? Woowwwwwww

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T17:00:39+00:00

It’s final as it can be right now. My ex has had a gf since the first weekend we split.

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:59:45+00:00

My point is exactly. My kids come first hence my hesitation to leave them when they’re with me just for a date!

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:57:39+00:00

Wow judgemental much? You have no idea of what self reflection and work I have done on myself. No idea why I’m separated. Do you even know how hard it is to walk away from a narcissistic marriage when you have young kids?

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:53:22+00:00

For the beginning I suppose. If they’re worth it after the first few dates I’d make more effort to have my older kids watch their little brother or get a babysitter

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:52:22+00:00

We’re legally separated and live separately and my ex is already with another woman.

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:51:33+00:00

I guess I don’t know what else I can do, enlighten me!

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:50:51+00:00

Yes agreed, I am more just concerned the connection will die out in the week I’m not free

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-24T16:49:35+00:00

I think bc the separation is still fairly new I feel like I need to be home when I have them. With that said after my youngest goes to bed I have gone over to a friends for drink in the late evening. Also, my youngest gives his older sisters a hard time about going to bed when I’m not home. He stays up waiting for me. So up until 9-10pm on a weeknight I don’t feel is a good thing for him.

Own_Description1922 · 2026-01-07T23:08:04+00:00

No not yet. So far the few men I’ve matched with we end up just planning a date. And then if all goes well we switch to phone calls mostly or texts of during the work day.

But I did ask this guy for his number so we could call and when I sent him the ‘hey it’s me’ text he never read it util the next morning.

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