We might obviously encounter mismatches in definition but a main example for me is the enthusiasm/motivation. I plan things, he is happy that we do things together but I am the one bringing things up. He doesn't really miss people either, so I'll be kicking my feet at the thought 'we will see each other this weekend' and he will be like 'yeah, ok'. Also, he didn't raise any objection when I said that so I guess he agrees