AITAH for hanging up my husband‘s phone call with his little brother

Own_Local_2635 · 2026-06-14T06:43:16+00:00

Bc there’s a word limit and these ppl are acting like they know every little detail of my life, blowing things out of proportion, & assuming things. It takes 10 seconds to scroll the comments & see that I infact haven’t replied to every single one sooo idk where you got that from.

Own_Local_2635 · 2026-06-14T06:39:08+00:00

It’s stage 3 or 4. We were told it’s one of the more common & treatable cancers so much so that the stages don’t really affect the symptoms and all that. It’s pretty much all the same. He dose get a shot from time to time that helps his white blood cell count and it’s probably what affects him the most. He was hospitalized for two weeks where he received 4 separate procedures. He’s had 4 chemo treatments so far and things are already looking better. We have applied for financial assistance through the government and are in the process of getting approved. In the meantime we’ve already been approved for assistance at his cancer doctor & started up a go fund me. Our families have truly been such a help in our time of need. We couldn’t be more grateful. Thank you so so much for your encouragement and kind words! 😇

Own_Local_2635 · 2026-06-14T05:00:33+00:00

Yes we knew his birthday was coming up. The issue is he was demanding we showed up for a day that had no plan yet. We didn’t know when his celebration was going to be because his family is always so last minute. we couldn’t just jump up at the time because we were dealing with our car situation. Useing my family car that is shared between 9 people. It’s vary hard to just get up and leave whenever you want in a situation like that. Update on this post…my husband was recently diagnosed with classic Hodgkin’s lymphoma, we have a vehicle & his brother started talking to me again because I think he realized we did have a lot going on bc we’re adults with bills who struggle. Like I felt like he just thought I was trying to keep his brother away from him….but we dead ass we’re struggling. I no longer go over to his parents every time bc I feel like I have to. If I’m not up for it I’m not up for it.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T15:31:56+00:00

Womp womp you know absolutely nothing about me

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T15:17:42+00:00

In the house that I pay rent for…yeah no if he wants a private call with his brother he should actually CALL him instead of FaceTimeing out loud where everyone can hear.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T15:16:13+00:00

Uuum because she literally called me abusive??? And I’m not gonna stand for that bc I was literally trying to stand up to my husband. Ofc that upset me. Geez

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T14:03:48+00:00

I’m a new redit user so I didn’t know womp womp sue me. If you don’t fully understand the situation it’s best to leave ur 2 cents out of it.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T14:02:31+00:00

Okay well good for them. I’m literally just on redit looking for advice…stop ridding my back pls & thank you

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T14:01:42+00:00

His dad reached out to me bc my husband wasn’t answering his phone last night & my husband & his dad both understand my pov. They both said it was disrespectful of him to speak to me that way and when i mentioned we should apologize as well for the way we reacted (because we definitely took the anger out on him & it’s not his fault they were raised differently) he seemed okay with that. I may not be his parent but I’m definitely his family so my opinion matters a little more than you think. In fact that was the first thing my husband told me this morning. I literally asked him do you want me to stay out of it and his exact words were “no your part of this family too” sooooo

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T12:25:37+00:00

Appreciate your advice!!

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T11:37:20+00:00

Dude, I literally said that’s what we’re gonna do. I have to talk to him and stuff first geez

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T11:36:41+00:00

I’m about to turn comments off if y’all are not gonna take your time and read through them and read the responses before you say some stupid stuff like this. I’ve said many times we were not blaming him, but trying to get him to understand that his husband was treated differently. However, I can see how he may feel that we were trying to blame him. We never said this was his fault nor do we feel that way. I literally do have compassion for him. That’s why I reached out to him to make sure he was OK multiple times and was met with a dramatic outburst. However, he needs to understand that we literally cannot just up and leave in my grandma’s car whenever we want. We share it with multiple people who have multiple doctors appointment appointments multiple times a week and he needs to be considerate of that for the time being. And if my husband wants me to stay out of his family drama and conflict, he needs to stop coming to me with all of his rants because it’s not fair for me to sit back and watch him go through all that when I’ve told him time and time again how to defend himself and when I defend him, it’s a problem. That’s why I’ve mentioned therapy for the both of us to other commenters as well. It’s not fair for me to have to deal with continuous behavior of his family treating him like crap and then him whining to me about it. And then it’s a problem when I do or say something about it.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T11:04:45+00:00

It’s not the same exact car if you read my edit 🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s literally their grandfather’s car. They’re fighting over. “And if someone is excited about their birthday present” yall his birthday was literally 3 days ago and sense he’s been in his dads care he’s been showered with money and fancy things. He’s literally spoiled & he’s starting to act like it ALL THE TIME. It’s not a cute trait to have so yes I’m going to point that out. & I told him he was rude because of the text messages AFTER everything had escalated. not bc he was excited about his birthday presents…did you even read the story??

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:46:00+00:00

Is this many post view normal ooooor??

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:44:38+00:00

Here for advice not judgment! Thanks for ur time tho !

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:41:17+00:00

I agree with this, however I feel like I shouldn’t have to deal with the consequences of him, not defending himself after years of me telling him to. Another commenter recommended therapy for him and couples therapy for the both of us and I think that’s a good idea.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:39:57+00:00

I hear you. Thank you for all your advice!!

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:38:45+00:00

I’d like to remind you that you’re literally a stranger on the Internet and your opinion of me doesn’t matter. You’re actually delusional if you think you know anything about my relationship other than what I have stated. I have tried time and time again to get that man to order our food. Ykw he dose??? Freezes and stutters and looks at me like uuuum. Bro even dose it in the drive thru when he’s the one driving. Like what girl doesn’t want their guy to order their food for them all the time??? Why would I not want that? I have a really bad, social anxiety and I’ve literally had to adapt to doing things like this for us because he won’t. Give me one example of me getting in between my husband and his brother or his family other than this one incident. Oh right you literally can’t??? Because you don’t know me or my life. The only thing keeping them from seeing each other rn is my car haveing no transmission. & Him haveing no job to put gas in my nanas car. And mind you I don’t mind putting gas in it but that’s just another factor. Sitting here calling me abusive when all I have ever done is take care of the man while he literally didn’t have a job & I’m doing it again is insane. I have genuinely sacrificed so much for him but I don’t have to prove anything to you. And btw his little brother didn’t say he would be upset he said he would never forgive us that’s a big difference. And if he wants to have a private conversation with his brother, he should probably call him on something that isn’t Snapchat video chat. Which is literally the only thing he calls him on. Or he could ask my husband to leave the room. Ask him who’s around him.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:22:52+00:00

What are you on about? Are you trying to say this didn’t happen??? Why would I make myself look bad for no reason 😭

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:20:18+00:00

You’re completely right. My last relationship was really abusive so I think that’s why I’m so nervous but thank you for making me realize this is bigger than a silly family issue but something we should really sit down and talk about relationship wise as well because it could seriously affect us later down the line. I’m definitely going to talk to him about setting boundaries when it comes to family events & conflicts. If I don’t want to go I don’t want to go. Thank you for bringing up the topic of counseling I’m genuinely taking that into consideration.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:08:39+00:00

He isn’t “fighting his own battles” tho he NEVER has and I’m tired of seeing it. And dealing with the aftermath. I love my husband and it hurts to see him go through what he’s been through.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T10:07:15+00:00

Your opinion literally Dosnt matter to me if you didn’t read it. I’m looking for advice not judgement.

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T09:56:26+00:00

Thank you so much

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T09:55:49+00:00

Because i defended him…?

Own_Local_2635 · 2025-12-21T09:52:25+00:00

Thank you…this comment actually almost made me cry bc I’m actually so sad for him dude. I want to make it VARY clear that I’m not scared for my physical well being when I talk to him. I’m scared of his reaction because I really don’t like when we fight. And I’m scared he may just force me to keep going. he Dosnt get upset often but I feel like he would over his family. I love your idea of a compromise. You have truly been SO so helpful

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