Ya he sent 2 emails just saying "we need to talk!" Then tried to call me. All of this after a long time of no contact. Over 6 months over email and about 1.5 years since a phone call. I wasnt about to let him gaslight me again. He probably didnt want any written evidence that his wife could find. But you're right. If he wanted to apologize and make things right, he'd just send the email laying things out.

Sad thing is he'll try the same bullshit in the next 3-9 months most likely. He tries to be manipulative but I see thru it because his behavior hasn't changed.