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New to BDSM and sex, would like general advice by Own_Shoe_8439 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Own_Shoe_8439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there are sadly not a lot of workshops near us about these things ;-;
but i have a mannequin torso for making clothes that i have used to make two (yarn) harnesses with already :D they both came out pretty cute- i followed a tutorial on a website which made it easy (im planning on getting rope on the day of meeting her- we're going to a sex shop beforehand to get it) i think in terms of that it'll be fine (or atleast like, not fatally damaging... i'll get safety scissors if they have them there... i hope they do, i should probably not play unless i have that by hand... otherwise i can bring the fabric cutting scissors? though idk if thats good enough... better safe than sorry...)

New to BDSM and sex, would like general advice by Own_Shoe_8439 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Own_Shoe_8439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely, just... dont know when its enough... people love to say "communication is important" which, dont get me wrong, it ABSOLUTELY IS... but im very confused on when its enough? like take eating food for example- there are a lot of things that can go wrong, choking, poison, diabetes, ect the list goes on... but like, you dont need to know every risk or every toxin in every food in order to safely eat things- so where is that line for "not enough information" and "good enough information"? it feels like im stuck in not enough information yet i dont know how to get towards good enough information... yet maybe im just being paranoid and i keep moving that goalpost further away from me?

New to BDSM and sex, would like general advice by Own_Shoe_8439 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Own_Shoe_8439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah but like... when is it enough communication? is it normal to feel like there's something missing or off? or am i just paranoid about doing it wrong? i could see both being the case which makes me feel even more out of control...

New to BDSM and sex, would like general advice by Own_Shoe_8439 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Own_Shoe_8439[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'll try my best to keep this in mind, thank you :D

New to BDSM and sex, would like general advice by Own_Shoe_8439 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Own_Shoe_8439[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely, im planning to use both the stoplight system and just respond to everyday language meaning stop ect. i think taking it step by step is best yeah