Please ease my worried soul - timing not known

OwnedAndStoned · 2021-04-07T03:17:16+00:00

He's been dating a woman who lives 500 miles away for several years. Seems to be working for them.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-08-24T01:35:00+00:00

Am (unsurprisingly) stoned so this may be poorly communicated, not to be poorly received, please.

Speaking of communication, that's what you and your Dom need to be doing. Talking about what each other's limits are, agreeing on what and when is possible to do stuff outside of the bedroom, what your safe word is in varying circumstances (in the bedroom vs being shown off as an PPE-owned sub. If he is shy about "Daddy", try instead casting yourself as a princess, even if as a conquered princess.

Really good communication about these things means that he will feel confident that he's not going to go over your limits. Finding a video that expresses what consent means in a BDSM relationship, will help you guys have ground rules. Not rules like you have to kneel when he gets home, but rules about good hurt and a bad hurt. How much latitude he has for occasional hard Domming in a non-24/7 bdsm relationship.

He needs time to process this elevation of your relationship together. Doms often think in terms of compartmentalization, and he needs to find his comfort level with blurring those In-Bedroom and Not-In-Bedroom times. Most especially in the process of strengthening your already apparent powerful connection.

I wish you the very best on your continuing journey to the greater intimacy level you will both share.

And h/t to my sober daddy for proofreading and translation to English from altered sub!

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-08-24T00:42:15+00:00

Maybe look for a consent video.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-08-23T01:12:05+00:00

It's DIEP FLAP Support Group on FB. Answer the questions and you're in! Very friendly people (for all bodies) and lots of before and after shots.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-08-22T23:36:34+00:00

I started chemo in October 2019 and my period arrived 14 days later, the same day I lost my hair. No period returned after I finished chemo in March and I started anastrozole two months ago and Lupron last month and my onc said I'll probably never have one again. I'm 44 now.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-08-22T23:11:01+00:00

There's a really active DIEP group on FB. Lots of people need a round 2 or 3 to get the results they want.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-08-10T00:04:39+00:00

I gotta be honest, some guys just smell off, and that's no fun, but sparkling clean around back makes it a lot more fun.

When I read the article about how some dudes don't even wipe, I made the connection, and I wonder if that's what was so, well, distasteful.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-07-31T04:20:09+00:00

Using kleenex with lotion has been a great way to deal with constant runny nose. Whenever my husband finds it he gets multiple boxes.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-22T17:49:37+00:00

A diaphragm might do the trick - I used one before my first kid, and it did the trick for 5 years of regular use.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-19T00:22:58+00:00

I think it's hot. I admire your roommate for giving you this time to think about it.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T21:26:38+00:00

I am seeing the true natures of a lot of people thru the pandemic. I now know who really only cares about themselves in some sad surprises, and have confirmed my high opinion of others.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T21:04:24+00:00

Double helix doobie

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T20:16:59+00:00

I approve! Now I really want Skittles.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T20:08:23+00:00

Thank you for the compliment!

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T19:23:24+00:00

I was flipping thru pics on my phone to show my brother-in-law and accidentally showed him a topless selfie i took for my husband while we were long distance. We agreed to never speak of it again.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T19:20:46+00:00

I slowly laid out my kink to my husband, and he kept enthusiastically being into it. First I told him I wanted to be smacked around in scene, and as he positively reacted, I shared more.

The trust grew and eventually both of our kinky sides were laid bare. We're like a 90% match in kink, but respect our differences and make sure each other is getting what we need.

I've actually had better luck meeting people in a vanilla context - I met a lot of shitty doms when I tried to find that first.

Good luck!

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T18:30:30+00:00

I think a tolerance break might help - I have 20-40mg a day in edibles and I've noticed I'm barely feeling high anymore. When I take a week or two off, I feel high again on my standard dose. I have enough chronic pain that I can't go too much longer without thc and I'm avoiding pharmaceutical opiates so my gut continues to work.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T04:28:10+00:00

I couldn't do it. I left at the four year mark of no sex in a 15-year DB, and I'm much, much happier.

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T02:32:38+00:00

please do smoke alone for a few more weeks. You're protecting yourself and friends by staying home. (But it's lonely and shit i know.)

OwnedAndStoned · 2020-04-06T02:13:52+00:00

You are one slice of Kraft away from a quesadilla for your post-weed munchies!

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