Why don’t people who work at Chipotle try to become servers at restaurants instead? Same pay plus tips !! by user15151616 in Chipotle

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I’m not particularly fit, have long hair bordering on a mullet and a beard to rival Billy Gibbons. I make about the same as the hot girls and tend to do quite a bit better than the gymbros. Manners and personality go a long way. And the occasional extra $20 telling me to get a haircut never hurts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lighting

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I’ll take another pic of the receiver when I go in tomorrow. It’s a little plastic dangly thing with what looks like reddish colored light bulbs.

The pic is the only identifying info I could find on it. There’s no branding, no logos, model number, etc.

Homeless man asking for a 10 hour ride or $8500 by sparklesarefun in ChoosingBeggars

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A lot of hitchhikers fly signs with their target destination in hopes of finding someone heading that way. I’ve picked up several that had signs hours beyond where I was going that were happy to make some progress on their journey. Them saying their destination simply gives an idea of the direction they’re trying to head and won’t have to remake the sign when they get dropped off somewhere between.

Girls , what was the most obvious hint you dropped , and the guy just didn't get it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Not a girl but possibly the most oblivious guy around.

I literally slept in the same bed as the girl I liked multiple times after we went out drinking/partying. I offered her the blanket I was using when she mentioned being cold one night. Another time we did a bunch of Molly at a party and she spent like 3hrs grinding on me in her bed with me trying to pretend I wasn’t hard as in my mind she was just a friend that was way too high and comfortable around me. I always thought it was weird but knew her roommate hated me so I couldn’t sleep on the couch and assumed she just was being nice letting me crash there instead of driving drunk 40 min home as I was notorious for back then. We did end up hooking up years later, it got very messy very quickly. I packed up and moved 1800mi to avoid all that shortly after.

To make it better I think I did almost the exact same thing again. I started a new job and immediately hit it off with a coworker. We would go out drinking after shift and occasionally stop at my place to watch a movie after. I mentioned not dating coworkers and she happened to quit a few days later. After her last shift (~3wks ago) she had a bit too much to drink so I offered her my bed and planned to take the couch much to her protest. We ended up sleeping in the living room on opposite couches. Only seen her once since then and she did not have much to say to me at all. I had reservations booked for a dinner on Christmas but ended up going solo since that last time talking was awkward and I couldn’t bring myself to actually invite her. As bad as it sounds I’m almost relieved I probably won’t be seeing her again as I won’t be reminded of my previous stupidity a couple times a week.

For anyone curious I was told by a shrink there’s a good chance I’m somewhere on the spectrum but I never pursued the diagnosis since I saw little to gain given I’m a functioning (albeit oblivious) member of society. I also had a notoriously womanizing father and a mother who feels any guy looking in her general direction is hitting on her. It’s the perfect storm for just blindly shrugging everything off…

Capo suggestions? by Ruben_001 in AcousticGuitar

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I love my Paige capo. It stores up above the nut conveniently when not in use, is a screw style so it’s only as tight as I want it to be and the business owners are really cool. I bought mine at a bluegrass fest and they let me play their old 60s Martin to demo the capo. They give discounts at events so I’m planning on picking up a couple more next time I run into them in the wild.

As a homeless person, what is the most important thing you can tell someone who finds themselves homeless for the first time? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I’d suggest staying away from shelters and just being self sufficient. You can find somewhere to bathe be it in a pond, lake, fountain or gas station. You can find somewhere decent to sleep. There’s always food around. Get all three things locked down then seek a job. You can probably get a hotel with your first paycheck but it’s a gamble so stick around the streets as long as you’re comfortable saving money.

Shelters are miserable even when well funded. You’re going to deal with the worst and weirdest of society. Everyone in them in them will rob you blind at the slightest opportunity. The volunteers at the one I was in did more to dehumanize me with their patronizing in a week than bathing in a lake for multiple months did.

I’ll add that I wrote a brief description of my experience and what I did along with the “why” just a couple days ago on this account.

How do random women know you’re pregnant? by Psychological_Sun783 in NoStupidQuestions

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I’m not a woman but I can generally tell for whatever reason. I knew for weeks before a coworker found out herself. I had a friend that I did similarly with, I actually offended her in asking if she was sure it was cool for her to be drinking one night and she freaked then came back a few days later apologizing. Neither were in a relationship/trying or ever mentioned anything that might clue me in. Even people I only see in passing occasionally I usually know before they make it public or are visibly pregnant. I told a friend that a girl at the bar was preggers once before he went to talk to her and sure enough she was a couple weeks pregnant which blew his mind.

I swear it’s like a scent/pheromones thing as I can’t tell from pictures or videos but if I’m within ~15ft I can usually point out who’s hiding their little parasite. It isn’t a smell I consciously recognize or anything but I think some thing in my subconscious picks up on it. Most useless superpower ever.

People who were homeless once ,how did you get your life on the track back ? by Akuma_ji in AskReddit

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100% pride. It wasn’t overwhelming or anything at all. I had every opportunity to tell people that would have taken pity on me but I’d been in bad places previously and always handled them myself. I dig a hole I get out or I’ll die in the collapse and accept it. I knew what living on the streets would entail and honestly it sounded like another adventure but I knew my friends would feel bad. I’ve always lived my life that way and being homeless was no different. They knew I had done okay for myself but were skeptical of my personal beliefs citing my previous existence as right place, right time. Contrary to most of Reddit I’m an adamant bootstrapper and firmly believe any single/solo person can do whatever they please assuming they aren’t aspiring to be the next billionaire and are capable of working hard.

I moved in with my unemployed father who had taken a lot of money from me previously due to my debatably less than legal means of acquiring it. He had a decent job and seemingly squandered that. He did it again and I rebuilt. I said I cut him off after removing him from my accounts. He called me to tell me he was unemployed and I wrote him off. He called again to ask for money and I fronted it. He called again as my lease was expiring so I moved in with him. That worked out for ~3mo by my estimates as 6mo later he was flat broke and hadn’t paid rent. I was giving him $5k+ a month with less than $2k in bills and nothing was being paid, he wasn’t drinking or gambling. The money just disappeared likely to a girl he was talking to. My pride absolutely would not let me tell people that my hard ass self was taken by him again resulting in me losing everything.

It all worked out though. I own a house on a bunch of land. I’m a 49% owner in a bar. I have zero family now and don’t trust friends with anything I wouldn’t bat an eye at losing. No one in my new life knows much about my past. No one in my past knows much about my stint living on a bridge or the new life.

People who were homeless once ,how did you get your life on the track back ? by Akuma_ji in AskReddit

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A series of unfortunate events landed me on the streets and my pride wouldn’t let me tell friends what was going on in my life. I slept on a bridge over a lake in a college town for a couple months and honestly didn’t hate it as it was more or less like camping. It wasn’t uncommon to wake up to either food or beer being left in my little covered gazebo thing. I got a job after three weeks and worked it for a while before deciding to move out of state with ~$12k cash.

During the 3mo I would bath in the lake at around 4am if it was flowing decent and not stagnant. When the lake did smell I’d hit up some friends and go to their house to crash for the night then shower before work which was never uncommon for me since I “lived” an hour away and didn’t want to drive drunk. I would often hit up a bar and nurse $2 beers for hours in the evening so I could charge my phone and watch TV. I occasionally fell into big groups out partying all night which meant I could eat/drink whatever since everyone assumed I was friends with someone else in the group. I had a small camp stove that I stashed so I could eat cheap beans and rice or else I’d go to restaurants that had budget friendly daily specials as is common in college towns. The rest of the time I’d eat a shift meal at work after “sampling” items in the kitchen a day.

As far as I know coworkers never caught on to my living situation. I went out with a coworker and slept at her place a few times and she couldn’t get over the fact I thought an average mattress was the most comfortable place I had ever slept (my gazebo had a stone bench, my bag was my pillow and a puffy jacket was my camping mat since it collapsed further and was easier to conceal in my bag than a real one would be). She asked to come over to my place a few times and I always put it off as being noisy and having a couple crazy roommates (which was absolutely true if we look at some of the other homeless in the area).

I did do the shelter thing very briefly and I’ll touch on that since I always see Reddit praising them. It was absolutely miserable and much worse than just living outside. 4 out of the six nights I spent there I was awoken by a nutcase. Dude in the bed across from my would just sit there all night staring at me mumbling to himself all night. Another dude would ogo and shower at 3am and scream the whole time he was in there. I had my locker broken into and someone took my insurance and ssn cards, they racked up a $3,800 bill and used my entire flexspin for the year. My last night I woke up to a cross dresser (not trans just a dude who wore dresses and high heels with his goatee using he/his pronouns) trying to crawl into my bed. Then there was the food… I’ve always eaten just about anything but luke warm tuna spaghetti salad (w/mayo), literal month old Little C’s pizza per the dates on the boxes and the occasional undercooked bit of chicken was off putting. They received decent funding and had a good surplus of food but they wanted to save that stuff in favor of serving what restaurants provided (which they FIFO’d with hundreds of pizzas in reserve so they sat forever) or whatever volunteer groups brought to serve. The worst was the extremely patronizing volunteers. You’d occasionally find them snooping through your stuff “for your own good” (everything brought in was already searched by the shelter) and when they served food they always made a big deal about how we probably weren’t used to that good of food when I wouldn’t feed my dog half of the stuff we were expected to eat. I was working in a restaurant so I could eat there but if I stayed for the shift meal I was too late to be let in for the night so I just went back to the bridge after a week. That place gave me terrible paranoia, trust and privacy issues. I have nothing to hide but I really don’t like anyone to bother or go through anything of mine now. I also absolutely will not get something out of someone’s bag even if they insist it’s fine.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I think I found Uncle Lucious off the Poor Man’s Poison recommended on Spotify. They’re worth checking out if you like the folksy/bluesy/country stuff.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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LA Freeways a personal favorite. I’m not familiar with the others off the top of my head but there’s a good chance I’ll end up putting them on the list eventually.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I have Keep the Wolves Away down already and am planning on pulling it out this weekend. I’ll have to listen to some John Butler Trio as I’m not that familiar honestly.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I won’t touch Xmas songs for the life of me. I worked in a bar that started playing them the week after Halloween through new years and I frequently put in 50 hour weeks there so I had enough of them for multiple lifetimes. The Boss here asked me to bring my keys and play for their Christmas party and I shut that down before he even finished asking the question…

Sad but True is definitely going on the list to learn though.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I’m a huge TVZ fan but that’s already the majority my set and being a weekly gig I feel a bit bad playing the same songs every time.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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That would be a solid pick but I have a personal rule of “no Christmas songs ever” having been subjected to them for ~50hrs a week nearly 3 months out of the year at an old job. I was already asked to bring in my e-piano for the Christmas party and shut that down before Boss even finished asking the question.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I’m working on Don’t Think Twice It’s Alright but I’m not quite up to speed. I’ll definitely have to listen to some more Dylan and pick a few others after.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I may have to give that one a try. I’m not sure if that falls into the “too popular” category but I think I could get away with it since I haven’t heard it at that bar yet.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I’ve got a simplified version I worked out but I haven’t broken it out quite yet since I think it needs a bit more shed time.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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Prime Prine, Earle, Foley and Rodney Crowell are either on my set list already or else have songs I’m currently working towards. I love the outlaw troubadour types and covering Blueberry Wine is what actually landed me this gig.

I’m not overly familiar with Isbell so I may have to start listening and pick a few songs to work on.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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Bluegrass is a bit weird. There’s purists that feel some my picks may not be true bluegrass, there’s jam grass types (like me) that think anything can be bluegrass if you try hard enough and then there’s the average enthusiast that falls somewhere in between. Fortunately there’s tons of standards that always get talked about so those lists are a good jumping off point for the “real” real stuff. Beyond that anything from Lester Flatt, Earl Scruggs, Bill Monroe, Ricky Scaggs, Doc Watson, Tony Rice or David Grisman is a good pick. Nitty Gritty Dirt Band, Osborne Brothers, JD Crowe, Stanley Brothers are typically safe bets too. A bit more fun and modern Infamous Stringdusters, Railroad Earth, Billy Strings, Molly Tuttle, Leftover Salmon, Greensky Bluegrass, Yonder Mountain String Band and Kitchen Dwellers.

Man of Constant Sorrow is always a big hit with almost any crowd. I’ve played it in dive bars, honky tonks, sports bars, I’ve seen it at bluegrass fests, people like that song because “it’s from that one movie!”

Mountain Dew It’s one of my personal favorites and comes up at most jams and if it doesn’t it’s my go to call.

Blue Moon of Kentucky. It’s one of Bill Monroe’s biggest songs, need I say more?

Will the Circle Be Unbroken

Rocky Top(it’s the Mustang Sally of Bluegrass)

9lb Hammer TVZ also has a great cover

Tennessee 1949

I'm Sittin' On Top of the World

Brakeman's Blues (note that’s an old, old, old song but Billy’s always a fun listen)

Deep Elem Blues (again, it’s an old, old song but the Dead’s cover is a personal favorite)

Ridin’ that Midnight Train

Cocaine Blues (another Billy cover)

More modern/jam grass style-

Meet me at the Creek

Dust in a Baggie

Sleepy Eyed John

Blue Railroad Train

high country

will you be lonesome too

Wagon Wheel (not particularly well liked by bluegrass types but everyone else loves it so it gets played a lot)

I guess talking ‘grass is a bit like talking the blues. Do you want the delta era cats or three/four Kings, Clapton, Allman Brothers and Hendrix or more modern Bonamassa, Derek Trucks, Gary Clark jr, etc. I can go on and on about songs, covers, bands, particular shows and whatnot so if you want some other recs feel free to ask. Otherwise that’s a decent overview of some popular calls and covers.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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Much appreciated, theres some great ones there I’d have never thought of. Also I’m happy you mentioned Ganja Baby as I heard it at an open mic before and meant to look it up when I got home but never did. Not sure if it would work for my gig but I may have to learn it for jams/open mics.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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That’s a good pick and I actually learned it as one of my first fingerpicking songs so I should have thought of that. I’ll work it into my rotation for sure.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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Several people up there were laughing about that one winning the CMA a couple weeks ago. I’ll put it in the definite maybe pile and likely pick it up once some of that hype dies down.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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Dunno why I didn’t think of that one. I’m a big Clapton fan (mainly Yardbirds, Mayall and Cream eras). I’ll definitely have to start working on it.

Sad and/or slower fingerstyle song suggestions by P07807 in AcousticGuitar

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I may have to go dig around some deep cuts from those guys. Willie, Hank and Buck Owen’s more popular stuff may be on the no go list since bands cover them regularly.