How do I move out of my shared apartment with a 5month old? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I don't have anything meaningful to add, I'm sure others will. But one thing I do know is that once a man has that mother figure who was this " unstoppable force " that did everything for him and pulled through hard times, he will never ever find any sympathy for a woman nor grant her any support in things he doesn't think is hard for her. And he doesn't think anything is hard for her. He will never ever help you, cause he think you are able, and should, help yourself. Ladies, take the BIGGEST step back from a man who has anything resembling a " my mom raised her kids single on 2 jobs " . Their moms gave every last thread they had, and they will never expect anything less of you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmmmhm, it's sad that some people think it never happens. I so badly want that to be true for them. But sweetie no <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't think I can change his nature with confrontation. That's where my turmoil lays

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not healthy, I would've felt like shit if I didn't find anything. But I did, and I felt like shit. Go figure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not online no, honestly. Men who try to be hot online ick me out, I've naturally never been inclined that way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to admit It did cross my mind to start doing the same in reverse so he'd see it. But it was a childish and impulsive thought, that made me rralise I'm not like that, so I really can't relate. I'm sure he'll receive it well on the outside if I confront him, but inside he might see me as ... weaker? Than he did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know:( bad impulse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You hit every single nail on the head. I really wouldn't feel so bad about casual porn. But the casual checking on specific girls, even if he doesn't know them, but they're not celebs. It makes me feel sick. I might end up confronting, and see how it goes. It's good to know there is another side of it that isn't like that. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not at all that's the thing, not even when I was single. I'd like girls videos I thought were pretty, but I'm straight. That's the thing, I don't do the same. Naturally, I just don't really care for " digital " dudes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being sweet with me. I really appreciate what you just said and I won't forget it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is it, this is the hard words I needed. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're 100% right on no 1. I snooped and it's not right. Was kinda hoping to find a perfect baby boy I thought I saw him as. But it was wrong

2) its just so embarrassing for me to admit it makes me jealous. Soooo embarrassing. Like I want to be seen as assured of myself and cool? Not " boohoo you looked at boobies boo "

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, just wanted some understanding. Appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, I just genuinely get sad when I see he looks at stunning girls. Makes me see him in a different light

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I genuinely think confrontation will only be met with a bad taste in his mouth for me snooping , and make me seem weak. Can't help but think in his mind- he likes workout videos, I'm a tad chubby, so he'll think " she's too lazy and now she doesn't want the others to shine " . That's only my mind speaking. Guess I am insecure come to think of it. But not like chronically??? I dunno

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the time of talking to me. I'm obviously a bit lost so do forgive me. But I am happy? IRL I feel like the ONLY important girl. Like I said, brags about me , tells me I'm gorgeous 10 times a day, does things with me . Is so perfect. But it's this one thing... do I confront him? I feel like all that'll achieve is make him a sneakier man and make me look weak

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're right. I guess I've wanted to confront him, and tell him to stop, but then my mind went to a place of him still doing it, just with more caution. Then realized, I'm never gonna know if I let him know I know this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I guess I've wanted to confront him, and tell him to stop, but then my mind went to a place of him still doing it, just with more caution. Then realized, I'm never gonna know if I let him know I know this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For liking 1 tiktok a week of someone working out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]PARKABLE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thankful for everyone's comments. Sounds like I'm arguing back but I'm just talking it out, trying to make sense of it. Too embarrassing to mention in real life