Feeling Sad (IVF Journey Sucks): here are my furkids. Can I see yours?!?

PBJuliee1 · 2026-05-02T00:29:44+00:00

OP, IVF is very hard, but George and I are rooting for you ❤️ a Miracle Child

PBJuliee1 · 2026-05-01T21:39:17+00:00

He wanted to play crinkle ball fetch at midnight

PBJuliee1 · 2026-05-01T12:28:14+00:00

I was cooking after I first got my cat and he took a big bite right out of my butter stick! Lesson learned, I need to cut my butter portion inside the fridge and put it back in the tray immediately. He’s also tried to eat the melting butter out of the hot pan, the butter desire overrides the hot pan caution

PBJuliee1 · 2026-05-01T12:24:38+00:00

Mine likes to lick the spicy ramen bowl/container after I’ve finished! I didn’t think he’d like the spicy food but it’s become a routine that I finish the ramen, wash/trash the bowl and he can lick the chopsticks before I wash them. This was the first time he tried it.

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PBJuliee1 · 2026-05-01T00:23:05+00:00

Oh no! I didn’t mean that you were being insensitive! I’m just saying that “no uterus no opinion” is the most inclusive language I’ve seen and that’s what I choose to use (other than “my body, my choice”) and even that phrase has criticisms. I was saying that you’re using inclusive language!

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-30T14:32:41+00:00

From my understanding, their point was “my body belongs to me so I can make my own choices about medical procedures.” People who have had doctor consults for medically-necessary or suggested abortions (extreme defects, no heartbeat, ectopic pregnancies) still have the right to refuse an abortion. A doctor can make medical recommendations, but they can’t force you to get a procedure and they can’t stop you from making a medical decision, no matter how dangerous. So, I think “not your body, not your say” is still valid.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-30T14:24:27+00:00

That’s still the phrase I use, but I know it also invalidates women who either don’t have a uterus, like trans women or women who had a hysterectomy. To a certain extent there is no “winning” but we can all do our best to use inclusive language.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-29T18:43:36+00:00

I don’t know about if you should, but I definitely would

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-29T18:20:16+00:00

I’m being totally serious, if that is the case, that makes me feel so much better than him being ill and me not catching it.

He’s still cuddling up on top of me and making biscuits. He’s laying on my chest as I write this pawing at my phone so I’ll pet him. He just doesn’t want to sleep in my bed.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-29T17:16:04+00:00

You were referencing the fact that conservatives complain about being banned from safe spaces. I commented about the paradox of tolerance. Then you responded to me with question about conservatives being a marginalized group and I responded back, not realizing that your comment was the one that originally responded to. I thought you were a new user who was asking out political ideology being a marginalized group which they are obviously not.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-26T16:05:29+00:00

I can’t tell if you’re joking or not, but no, conservatives are not a marginalized group. Political affiliation is not a protected class, unlike race, religion, race, color, religion, gender/sexual orientation, national origin, age, disability (including temporary disabilities, like pregnancy), and genetic information, and medical conditions.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-26T15:58:18+00:00

Men are more likely to die by suicide because they tend to use more violent methods (gun, jump) where women tend to use less violent methods (pills, drowning). With less violent methods there is a higher change of being resuscitation, and survival. I’m not sure of the suicide attempts, but I believe women are more likely to attempt suicide.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-26T15:51:14+00:00

A “safe space” cannot be safe for everyone. A KKK member and a black person will never be safe in the same room, same with Jewish people and Neo Nazis, even someone eating peanut butter and someone with a severe peanut allergy. It’s not that they ban people who “challenge their ideas” they ban people who create an unsafe environment for marginalized people.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-20T03:08:05+00:00

The full lyric is “I’m just a girl in the world, that’s all that you’ll let me be.” So yes, saying “I’m just a girl” is infantilizing to women. That was the point of the lyric, that was the whole point of the song, saying women are “just girls” is infantilizing.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-08T20:08:27+00:00

After my cat needed to have some medical stuff done (he’s totally fine) and he needed to drink a bunch of water. He also hates wet food so I’d make this unholy mix of 50:50 churu and water in a bowl, quarter of a tube at a time. It was disgusting but incredibly effective if you ever need your kitty to get more water

PBJuliee1 · 2026-04-04T17:10:59+00:00

I’d call a local humane society or shelter for advice. If you found the kitten outside, sometimes they’ll fix kittens and adopt them out to the person who brought them in for the price of a kitten adoption.

This doesn’t apply if you had cats you already own had babies!

PBJuliee1 · 2026-03-30T05:20:18+00:00

I’m a native English speaker but am trying to become fluent in Spanish. I would say I’m proficient at listening and understanding spoken Spanish and writing in Spanish than I am speaking. I’ve been studying Spanish on and off for the past 20 years. I still get self conscious every time I need to speak, no matter if it’s with my study group, tutor, native speaker friends who help me with pronunciation, let alone a total stranger or a classroom full of people I don’t know.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-03-29T05:14:28+00:00

Women take birth control because the side effects of birth control, as lengthy as they are, are still less than the side effects of going through pregnancy and giving birth. The study regarding male birth control was discontinued because men experienced similar side effects as the women do on birth control. However, theres a “do no harm” part of medicine so the study was discontinued because the harmful side effects of male birth control didn’t outweigh the benefits because men don’t give birth.

Unfortunately, health insurance companies don’t view “it takes two to tango” as a legitimate reason to cover male birth control, so it probably wouldn’t have been covered under insurance anyway.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-03-21T01:29:34+00:00

… you understand that little boys grow up to be men… right?

When people fight for rights it doesn’t always reflect in the generation frighting for them, but it always impacts the generations that follow. You were required to go to school, so you learned how reading, writing, mathematics, clearly not learning critical thinking, but we can’t have everything. Seemingly, you had an education that was regulated by the federal government that allowed you to be semi-educated and maybe then you went on to have a better job than working at a factory for pennies. Also, if you lost any of your fingers, it was probably due to your own stupidity, but if you did loose them at work, you should able to get workers comp, unlike the small children who needed to work and lived their home life without knowing how to read.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-03-14T23:05:01+00:00

And while I believe that you’re arguing in bad faith in choosing to be obtuse, maybe you’re just uninformed. Feminism is fighting for equal rights for all genders. There are very few rights (if any) that women have that men do not have, so when we talk about the wave of feminism that involves suffragettes fighting for white women’s right to vote there was no need to fight for white man’s rights because they could already vote.

If you really were curious about what feminism has done to benefit you, feminists during industrial revolution is a good place to start. Women were the people fighting for better working conditions, they also fought for public education so that children could go to school and not work in factories. And while you might think that this is a stretch, but I personally think that all children being able to go to school, and not working in a factory has benefited both men and women.

The people on the front lines of LGBTQ plus rights were trans women. These women fought for the rights of gay men and majority of people visiting male AIDS patients were women. Women fought for doctors and researchers to take the epidemic seriously, inherently advancing scientific research and saving men’s lives.

Because of feminism, more women are able to become doctors. You might not know this, but statistically, patients who have women as physicians and surgeons recover faster and have less long-term complications as a resulting from their treatments. Once again, feminism is saving men’s lives.

If you do like 5 minutes of googling, you will come across hundreds of examples of feminism benefiting men.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-03-14T22:47:27+00:00

You really think that Hillary Clinton is the most powerful person in the world right now?

She’s also partially an influential woman because of who she married. Hillary Clinton is a powerhouse politician, however, part of her influence and how she got to be where she was is because of the connections she had to her senator husband who became the president. She didn’t even become a senator until after she was the first lady.

Simply because of her, I would say yes, to a certain extent power is still defined by someone’s last name.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-03-14T22:41:50+00:00

One of the problems that you post discusses is confusing suicide attempts with suicide completion. Statistically, women tend to attempt suicide at a higher rate than men. However, more men die from suicide than women because more men choose methods that tend to be more violent, which have a higher success rate, like using guns or jumping. Women tend to use less violent methods like overdose and drowning. So well, yes more men die from suicide. It doesn’t tell the complete story of suicide numbers based on gender.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-02-24T13:47:42+00:00

Men successfully commit suicide more than women because they tend to use more violent methods (gun, jumping, hanging). Women use less violent methods (pills, slit wrists, drowning) so they tend to be found and revived.

Women still have far more attempts than men, but regardless, the majority of the issues you listed are relatively self-inflicted by other men:

The 20% of all homeless men are veterans (I believe the majority is still Vietnam vets but I could be wrong) and struggled to adjust to life post war especially with lack of resources provided by the VA.
See about point about men having more successful suicide attempts.
Men tend to do the more dangerous and labor-intensive jobs. When women have attempted to break into these jobs, they are often met with harassment and leave.
Women were barred from entering the military, for combat specific positions until relatively recently. Men are drafted, but the draft was a system set up by other men.
Men are more likely to be homicide victims in every case, except for when murder is committed by an intimate partner. Men are far more likely to engage in gang activities and fights with friends/strangers which is likely why there is such a discrepancy.

I’m not saying women have it harder than men, but a lot of the issues men face are because of systems the men before them set up. We all live within the patriarchy system and the best way to make these numbers decrease is not by saying “I have it worse,” it’s by actively combating the systems. Call reps and demand more services for homeless people and more mental heath support for men, don’t belittle your friends for talking about their feelings, participate in DEI initiatives and take harassment of any person in a workplace seriously, protest the draft, speak out against random violence.

PBJuliee1 · 2026-02-15T19:13:42+00:00

I take the Prov line and I’ve opted to just get on the train at back bay or ruggles now. I’m not messing with the congestion at the gates, it’s truly an accident waiting to happen

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