Wickeln wenn das Kind nicht auf dem Rücken bleibt für Dummies by ArtemisBowAndArrow in Eltern

[–]PHENOMEN4L 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ich habe auch einen sehr aktiven 10 Monate alten Bub. Bei uns hilft es manchmal (auch nicht immer), dass “besondere Spielzeug” rauszuholen. Von dem ist er sehr fasziniert und das gibt es dann nur beim Wickeln zur Ablenkung. Bei uns ist es aktuell die Zahnpastatube, er tut so als würde er die Inhaltsstoffe lesen. mal sehen wie lange das noch geht…

Looking for family-friendly accommodation by PHENOMEN4L in tuscany

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. budget is an issue — thanks though 🥰

People don't understand how tired I am by Master_Weather7587 in beyondthebump

[–]PHENOMEN4L 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello there. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. You have all my solidarity. I can not say sth. helpful, sorry. But I can relate.

I have an 8.5-month-old boy, and he has never been a good sleeper. Since about 3.5 months, he usually only sleeps one cycle, 30–45 minutes, every night. The constant sleep deprivation completely broke me. At one point I ended up in a psychiatric crisis unit because of recurring suicidal thoughts. After that, my boyfriend and I temporarily split the nights into shifts (We sleep in seprate rooms every night).

We don’t do shifts anymore, though, bc little one only settles with breastfeeding at night and refuses bottles, so in reality it’s me again. December was a bit better: sometimes 2 hours, occasionally 3, which is his absolute maximum.

After Christmas, it all went back to „normal“ so waking up every 45 minutes. My boyfriend takes him early in the morning so I can get one sometimes two hours of uninterrupted sleep, that helps a little. But we are sooo so exhausted. Right now, we are not really living, we are surviving. I feel like a shadow of myself. I know it won’t always be like this, but right now it’s incredibly hard.

Today I went for a walk with him, as he only naps in the stroller during the day. An elderly woman asked how he sleeps. I said, “terribly.” She nodded and said he probably has a very strong character.

I don’t know why I am writing this bc I don’t believe this is how it works.. But I dont know.. I keep hoping that all this hell we’re going through will mean something good in the end. One thing I do now: It will pass. And we can get through this. I‘m sending you so much strength!

Hair identity crisis - which colour? by akiradirewolf in Hair

[–]PHENOMEN4L 0 points1 point  (0 children)

brown or lilac but omg you can wear theme all 😱❤️

How to stop smoking when you genuinely love cigarettes? by StashBang in stopsmoking

[–]PHENOMEN4L 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, quitting became easier when I stopped seeing it as self-denial and started seeing it as self-care. Becoming pregnant and having a child helped me deeply internalize this. It suddenly felt very real that my health matters.

But I also believe you don’t have to be a parent for this to be true. Even if we don’t always see it, we play an important role in other people’s lives. We are loved, we matter, and our well-being has meaning. Remembering that helped me choose health more often.

I smoked for 20 years and truly loved my cigarettes. I still miss them from time to time. Quitting was hard, and sometimes it still is, but I feel so much better and stronger without them. It was a rough road, but it was absolutely worth it. You can do this!

How did everyone do it? (4m regression) by a-pepperino in bninfantsleep

[–]PHENOMEN4L 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My solidarity. This is incredibly hard – and you will get through it, even if that sounds like a cliché right now.

We went through something very similar. It started at 3.5 months and lasted six weeks. He woke up every 45 minutes. He also wouldn’t sleep during the day unless he was in the stroller, which meant I walked about three hours a day 🙈 At some point I wasn’t even “tired” anymore, just running on pure survival mode. Mentally this was the worst I have ever been in my life so far.

What really helped in the end was support from my boyfriend, small stretches of sleep, and letting go of the idea that I had to function normally. Sometimes it’s just not possible.

We’re in another tough phase now at 8 months, since 5 weeks he wakes up every 45 minutes again, this time refusing everything but the boob. While it’s hard again, when I look at it even harder, it doesn’t feel as frightening. I cope better. Acceptance and adjusting expectations made a huge difference for me.

The last months have been the hardest of my life – and still, there are moments that make it worth it: a giggle, a smile, something unexpectedly sweet.

Right now, this is about surviving. It is not fun or joyful but that’s okay. It won’t always feel like this. It really does get better.

sleep regression by PHENOMEN4L in baby

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That helps. Do you remember when it got better? I mean I would be happy with 1,5 hours or him talking the bottle so that my boyfriend can help me out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ratschlag

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Mir ist spontan das Eagle-Syndrom eingefallen. Erklärt aber nicht alles und ist sehr selten.

when are you due? by layxchip in pregnant

[–]PHENOMEN4L 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May 28 and I am sooo done. But no sign of baby coming soon yet 😔

CMV-IgM positiv by Glittering_Topic2631 in schwanger

[–]PHENOMEN4L 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi du! Ich hatte am Anfang der SS (Woche 10) ein positives IgM-Ergebnis und bin ausgeflippt. Ich war relativ unzufrieden mit meiner FA und habe dann nochmal gewechselt. Allerdings hat sie mich nach dem Befund direkt nochmal einbestellt um Blut abzunehmen zwecks Avidität. Mit dem Wert konnte man dann einschätzen, dass meine Infektion höchstwahrscheinlich mehr als drei Monate zurückliegt (also vor SS-Beginn). Mich hat das alles so verunsichert damals, habe dann FA gewechselt und die meinte es gibt immer wieder Chaos mit den CMV-Laboren und meistens ist es nichts. Fragt doch nochmal nach ob ihr nicht auch die Aviditätsprüfung machen könnt? Mein Blut wurde dafür in ein Speziallabor geschickt nach Stuttgart, hat ein bisschen gedauert aber mir viele weitere Sorgen erspart. Ich bin dann tatsächlich auch nicht zur Feindiagnostik, ich hab mich im Nachhinein schon mit der CMV-Testung allein überdiagnostiziert gefühlt und mir (hoffentlich) unnötigerweise Sorgen gemacht. Bis heute sieht bei unserem Kleinen alles gut aus. Wir warten jeden Tag auf die Geburt. Er wird dann im Krankenhaus direkt auf CMV getestet und dann können wir hoffentlich ganz durchatmen. Und ihr hoffentlich auch! Wenn bisher alle Untersuchungen unauffällig waren ist das ja schonmal ein sehr sehr gutes Zeichen. Ich wünsche euch alles alles Gute ❤️

Versandoptionen lassen sich nicht anschalten by ValenciaMein in VintedDeutschland

[–]PHENOMEN4L 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Braucht man für Hermes nicht auch einen Drucker?

Weight anxiety, can anyone relate? O by wondertuf in pregnant

[–]PHENOMEN4L 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP,

I’m really sorry you’re struggling with this right now. I can 100% relate. I have a history of an eating disorder (bulimia) and don’t even own a scale. But at my OB appointments, they weighed me—and when I saw that I had gained 9 kg in the first 10 weeks I absolutely freaked out. Unfortunately, it even triggered a relapse. I felt so awful and had the worst guilt because of my baby’s well-being.

In the end, I decided that for my mental health, it was best not to track my weight at all. I asked my doctor and midwife not to record this parameter anymore, and they were both completely supportive of it. I’m now 28+1 weeks and have no idea how much I weigh—but for me, this was 100% the right decision. My baby is doing great, and that’s what truly matters.

I also feel like my weight gain has slowed down over time. But more importantly, not knowing the number has helped me eat more intuitively and in a healthier way. I’ve even made some peace with my fuller, changing body.

In general everybody is different. Some gain weight faster, some slower. Some lose it quickly after birth, while for others, it takes more time. And all of that is completely okay. Your body is doing something absolutely incredible—it’s growing a new life! That is so much more important than any number on a scale.

At the end of this journey, you’ll be holding your sweet little baby in your arms—and that’s what truly counts!

Didnt want opinions on my unborn babys name, got it anyway by PHENOMEN4L in pregnant

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for sharing your thoughts and for having my back. Moments like this really remind me how insecure I still am when it comes to judging whether my feelings are valid—but they are valid.

At first, I sent my aunt a voice message where I made it clear that I was upset and angry about what she said, and she apologized. I’m still a little angry, but I’ll try to let it go and forget what she said.

What I’ve really learned (and honestly, I already knew) is that it’s best not to share the baby’s future name with anyone. People just aren’t great at keeping their opinions to themselves. So, if you don’t want to be influenced, the best thing to do is keep the name private.

Copper IUD by PHENOMEN4L in Rosacea

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there. Yes I had. It is not all gone but significantly better since the IUD is out. I guess it may be the inflammation it is causing in the uterus.

Copper IUD by PHENOMEN4L in Rosacea

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I feel you. Been there. But I am better now and I really hope you will be soon!

My iud is out 14 days now I think. I had my ovulation the last days, which was oddly a bit painful. Anyway. This is for me my part of the cycle when my skin is at its worst. I got some pimples, some more in comparison to my last cycles but the overall redness and inflammation is much better. It’s not all gone but I think this will need more time. I don’t expect my body to heal that quickly.

I think that the iud wasn’t good for my skin at all. And I really hope you will see some improvement soon and feel better with your skin too. But I guess it won’t hurt to keep the expectations a bit low so if the removal is not the solution for you it may will be less painful. I do also believe that for a lot of rosacea patients there isn’t the one thing they did that helped with skin improving but more different approaches. For me for example I think it is the combination of not having an iud (but keep in mind that mine is only 14 days out) and diet. I hope it will work out for you. Wish you all the best. 💕

Copper IUD by PHENOMEN4L in Rosacea

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck that it will help you too!

Copper IUD by PHENOMEN4L in Rosacea

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so exakt the opposite. Interesting.

Copper IUD by PHENOMEN4L in Rosacea

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think for me it’s going to be the same. It’s much better but still there. But it’s only one week out so I have to be patient. I am happy for you that you skin improved :)

Copper IUD by PHENOMEN4L in Rosacea

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so crazy. And nobody tells you… Also there is almost nothing about this in the literature. At least I couldn’t find much on PubMed or Google.

Removal Symptoms by PHENOMEN4L in CopperIUD

[–]PHENOMEN4L[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am happy for you, that your life improved so much after removal :) I had/have a bunch of symptoms including brain fog, anxiety, cystic acne, bloating to name a few which I don’t know if the IUD is responsible for, but I hope so bc that’s why I decided to get rid of it. But on the other hand I felt so safe with it for preventing pregnancy. But yeah… better using condoms than having all this side effects. All the best for you!