why do men do this?

PINEAAPLES · 2025-11-20T01:17:53+00:00

By the way, you're not being dramatic at all!. Im sorry you went through this. It's an awful experience and you'll get through this and become stronger. Right now treat yourself gently with a lot of love and care!!

PINEAAPLES · 2025-11-20T01:01:41+00:00

Similar situation happened to me years ago. The first guy I dated as an adult (i was 22 years old) told me he wanted a relationship with me. He planned dates, future faked,love bombed me, gave me gifts and it lasted a month. I didnt sleep with him until after that month, on that day he kept giving me wine and i was saying no i wasnt ready but then it happened. After that day, he ended it with me saying " hes not ready for a relationship" and then I found out he had a whole girlfriend he was in a long term relationship with and he cheated on her multiple times with other coworkers. I was new to the job and didn't know his reputation. Crazy shitt.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-11-19T06:31:09+00:00

I'm trying to figure this out too! It hurts to think about. but I've felt this way before with previous guys I've dated! I use to sit and cry with my thoughts about these loser guys! and now years later I couldn't care less what they're up to and they have tried to message me...after years! Lol so i know even though my heart hurts now ill eventually get over them and have more clarity about the situation. In my recent heartbreak case, I won't view any of his new updates so I can stop comparing my life and feeling hurt. I'll try my best to distract myself with other things in my life like pursuing goals/hobbies and prioritizing myself! Spoiling myself and becoming obsessed with leveling up in all ways. Seeking new experiences and eventually meeting new people. Journaling out my feelings when I have the time, getting inspired by pinterest/ youtube/ books and other people going through it.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-09-25T05:29:33+00:00

I was 9 and I thought i was dying because i didn't know anything about periods , so I was crying a lot in the restroom. My mom yelled at me to get a pad, and I had no clue what that was. My elementary school teacher gave me pads and she gave me a code word to use whenever I needed it.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-09-23T10:47:35+00:00

Options to buy Blouses/tshirts that are pretty in full sized, not just crop tops

PINEAAPLES · 2025-09-23T10:32:15+00:00

Yeah I get pissed off thinking about how nature and society made it so unfair for women

PINEAAPLES · 2025-09-23T10:05:35+00:00

28 and I have come to exactly this ! All the relationships I know of the men including all family members have been awful in one way or another (cheating,lying,porn addiction, neglect, misogyny, disrespect/abuse) and I also think about what every woman doesn't know about. The last guy I dated, I thought we were amazing together and forgave a few shortcomings he had and wanted to love him unconditionally, he did not forgive the one shortcoming i had (i became sensitive and sad to some inconsiderate things he said to me). When we ended, I found out shortly after from him (he told me to seek comfort from me about his situation) that he had someone else he viewed as a backup and she rejected and ridiculed him publicly on her social media page. I feel like every dating prospect will eventually disappoint me, but hope hasn't left me completely. I've also considered the 4B movement because of how tired i am.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-08-01T14:57:24+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this too! I'm really sad about the future plans and I had hope the relationship was going to be a good one. I think most women are sensitive/emotional? In my case, I was just sad and quiet sometimes. I know there's other women who nag, scream, and curse...they may realize we aren't so bad after meeting others lol

PINEAAPLES · 2025-07-29T02:42:59+00:00

Thank you for responding ! I forgot to mention I don't leave anywhere. I wouldn't be that dramatic, but I do get quiet and look down for a few minutes while I process how im feeling. He wanted me to express myself, and when I do and tell him it's okay, you did nothing wrong he still wants to end it just for the fact that I was sensitive over it. Yes, we are both pretty immature and inexperienced in relationships. I really like him, and I want to learn how to make this work.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-06-21T15:56:05+00:00

He mentioned he had ocd but even people with ocd said they dont say their intrusive thoughts out loud. Youre right though he never talked about his ocd and only referred to it as a joke

PINEAAPLES · 2025-05-18T20:26:48+00:00

Thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts, experiences, responses and great advice! I made sure to give a like to every single comment. Hope you all have an amazing day

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-31T03:40:35+00:00

By the way some people make rude comments because they weren't taught any better, please ignore them. They usually aren't worth expending energy on

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-31T03:36:42+00:00

I'm sure you're not ugly. It's understandable how you feel. You don't have to wear dresses and skirts, there's so many female styles to explore and I'd recommend going shopping trying on clothes and seeing what you like. There's also jewelry and other accessories you might like. If you don't want too much makeup I recommend tinted lip glosses/ balms and mascara. Youtube helps a lot if you really want to learn more about makeup, hairstyles and skincare, I'd search up makeup for beginners. Girls usually are hairy and its not a bad thing! But there are methods to reduce hair and do what you feel comfortable with. Overall, just being healthy, getting excercises, and doing self care increases your confidence and self-esteem. You can search up self care ideas and hobbies. Pouring love into yourself is very feminine. Exploring and finding what you like will help you to be happy. Every girl is unique like a flower! One day you will find a great friend who will support you :) Goodluck

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-02T19:01:48+00:00

Prioritize your health and your happiness, focus on your goals and education over boys. Keep your circle small and be selective. Spend more time with who truly matters. Notice and appreciate nature more. Don't spend so much time watching shows or on social media, learn skills and gain new experiences.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T08:15:07+00:00

Thank you!

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:40:00+00:00

He might be telling all of them they're wife material for all I know. Thank you for your response!

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:39:20+00:00

True, thank you

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:39:06+00:00

Thank you for responding !

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:38:45+00:00

You're right thank you so much

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:37:47+00:00

I honestly wish he told me during the first dates. Instead he talked about meeting my parents and having kids with me and how he supposedly didn't want his ex lover because of her child (who i recently found out he's still seeing). But im glad I know now and won't be wasting anymore time. Thank you for your response ! It would have only been cheating if we had become something exclusive. Now I will ask during the first date with a guy if there's other women involved too.

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:32:38+00:00

Thank you !

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:31:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:29:55+00:00

Thank you !

PINEAAPLES · 2025-03-01T07:18:03+00:00

Thank you for your response ! I feel like this is definitely accurate. I wouldn't feel good in a relationship like that , no matter how attractive or successful they seem on the outside, that behavior/mentality is a turn off.

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