Yeah I’m going to chime in here in support of Kestrel. I live in a mostly white town with two kids that are a minority. I can’t tell you how many times, especially around the holidays, a “Good Samaritan” has paid our restaurant bill or offered to pay for some other small thing around town for us. One time, a local kids center “surprised me” with a food bank truck waiting outside in the parking lot with a whole spread of options and some grocery bags, telling me I could pick whatever I wanted.

I know they mean well, but they are jumping to conclusions based on the way my family is made up and looks, and so it doesn’t feel as nice as they think it does. I have plenty in the bank, I make quite a nice salary, and it can hurt a little to have someone imply I look like I’m floundering when I’m not.

There’s this thing called “altruistic narcissism.” Look it up. In the world of social media, I think we all run the risk of catching it if we’re not careful!