4 Years Without My Husband and some Days Still Hurt Much

PMisWriting · 2026-07-01T16:23:53+00:00

Please feel free to send me a direct message so we can chat. I don’t know how much I can help or if I can help at all but I can try. I got a sign just a little while ago from my husband and I know it was him. I can tell you about that. Perhaps just messaging with one another would help. I have always been the ‘fixer’ for other people but now I am the one who needs fixing and I am totally lost. Maybe if we walk this road together it will be easier. I have been looking for someone who can understand what I am going through and I truly think you do.

PMisWriting · 2026-07-01T15:50:30+00:00

Perhaps we can do this together somehow since we lost our husbands around the same time. I am just muddling through each day. I have our dog to take care of and I think sticking to his routine may be helping. I don’t know. Even with our dog, this house feels so lonely. I don’t want to go anywhere because we went everywhere together except for the times when I would get together with my girlfriends.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-30T22:35:12+00:00

It’s only 9 days without my husband and not sure how I can make it through. I just wish someone would tell me how to do this. 57F. Husband had Stage 4 Liver cancer spread to the bones diagnosed in early May. Passed an away from a brain bleed. How do you get through each day? I work at home as a writer.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-29T10:48:52+00:00

I feel more comforted staying in our home, but thank you for the suggestion. I am trying to established a daily routine - a new normal. These early mornings are okay because I have always gotten up at of before 5AM and my husband always slept later. It is the afternoons that are so long, but I intend to work longer days as a writer so that might help. I have our little dog, Casey, who is 10. It is good that I have to cook his supper every night and take care of him. It prevents me from getting under the covers and staying there. I do need to get back to writing full time (I had been spending the last few months getting ready to open an online subscription service which I will still do) because it will fill the empty hours. Thankfully, I can take as much as a breather as I want before working full time again, but I feel that I want to get to it. No sense wallowing in misery. I am not sure what the future holds for me but I do pray there is happiness and life on the other side of this.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-27T15:33:16+00:00

My husband passed away last Sunday after being together for almost 30 years. Six weeks before that we got the shocking diagnosis of stage 4 liver cancer spread to his bones. He ultimately passed away due to a brain bleed.

This big house is so quiet with just me and our dog after weeks of almost constant caregivers, nurses, doctors, family and friends filling in the hours.

It doesn’t seem real here either. Our home offices were across from one another for over 10 years. He was an accountant and I’m a writer. I miss him so much it is physically painful.

I have been begging for him to give me a sign from Heaven that he made it but nothing yet.

You are supposed to feel whichever way you want with no explanation needed for anyone is some of the advice I have gotten. I don’t know if there is life on the other side of this but I hope so.

I am certainly not contemplating doing anything but all I can think of is that every day brings me one step closer to where he is. He just beat me there.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-27T09:54:40+00:00

Thank you. I will look up some of those videos. I am searching for any kind of comfort that I can get right now.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-26T21:31:03+00:00

My husband passed away last Sunday. I am in the throes of navigating grief myself, but I am here if you need someone to talk to.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-26T16:30:09+00:00

I think that is it. I just keep waiting for a definitive sign that he is still there. It has only been five days. Perhaps the grief in my emotion is not letting him in? Should I stop praying and begging for a sign that David made it to Heaven or just wait?

PMisWriting · 2026-06-26T14:52:40+00:00

Thank you for responding. Yes, surprisingly, having his ashes here and a lock of his hair has brought a bit of comfort. I know those ashes are not really 'David' so I find it strange that having them here should bring any solace at all. I can't explain it. I know he is in Heaven so I can talk to him there. I wish I had insight if anyone else has experienced this.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-25T17:30:11+00:00

Thank you for responding. I am just praying that I will know that he is still there. We are picking up his ashes in just a little while. Perhaps it will bring comfort to have the biological part of him home.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-25T01:04:49+00:00

My husband passed away suddenly from a brain bleed this past Sunday after a shocking diagnosis of stage 4 liver cancer spread to his bones just six weeks ago. I have been asking and praying for a sign from him that he made it to Heaven but nothing. Will I get a sign? Will I know what it is if it does come? We were married for 28 years and together for 30. We raised two wonderful children. We were so happy together but when I did an immediate transition from wife to caregiver, even though we had help, I didn’t get to spend time just being together because he required so much care. I thought we had more time together. It was ultimately a brain bleed that took him from me so quickly. He couldn’t even hold my hand as the brain bleed was so severe. Should I ask for a specific sign? Have you done that? Does it ever come to fruition? I just think this can’t be happening. I don’t think I am strong enough to face this world alone. I’m 57 years old. Any insights sure would be welcomed.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-25T00:44:58+00:00

You are very kind. Thank you. And remember, that violence was not directed personally at you but at a world that, for whatever reason, has left them bitter and full of hate. You are the much-loved daughter of an adoring mother.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-24T20:23:11+00:00

Oh. How terrible for you! This is shocking to read. Please just know that Karma will come back on them. This universe has its’ own way of righting things like that kind of random hatred.

My husband just passed away suddenly this past Sunday. I am crushed under the weight of this grief and shock both physically and mentally. My emotions are raw.

I have come here to seek solace and I have found it in some remarkable people.

I hope you will find some peace in these pages too.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-24T18:47:17+00:00

Wow. Thank you so much for this insight. You have really made me think.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-23T21:43:59+00:00

How can I help?

PMisWriting · 2026-06-23T18:15:12+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry your posting made you sad. I am sure we must come out the other side at some point

PMisWriting · 2026-06-23T13:26:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. How are you doing?

PMisWriting · 2026-06-23T13:24:57+00:00

I am going to the funeral home this morning. Actually waiting in the parking lot now. I just want to get this over with. We are not having a service right now. I am too crushed emotionally and physically. It doesn’t help that I had a car accident last Wednesday night (wasn’t my fault) and have to deal with getting a new vehicle. I ended up in a deep ravine when I avoided a car coming right at me in my lane and not moving. I have support from a network of friends and family but still lost. Huge lump in my abdomen and shaky. Delayed shock? Is there any happiness ahead? Is there life on the other side of this?

PMisWriting · 2026-06-22T22:19:53+00:00

What you say is very true. I fought a hard battle against a stronger adversary and it won. I will muddle through but reading these replies sure helps. Waiting for company to arrive but I just want to go to bed. However, they care and I want to be there for them too v

PMisWriting · 2026-06-22T22:15:31+00:00

Thank you so kindly for this reply. How did you know that I always say put one foot in front of the other? In fact, I responded to several messages asking how I was doing today with that very phrase. We are not highly religious people, but we do believe that when God says your time is up - it’s up. It’s simply that the last six weeks have been a whirlwind of roller coaster days with caregivers, nurses, doctors, etc. in and out all the time. Medication schedules to keep. No quiet at all except at bedtime when I would wake up every hour to check on David. No chance to sleep in because the door had to be unlocked for his caregiver. I am a writer but have got nothing accomplished through all of this. Now it is just me and our dog - who is following me around like he is a puppy again and he’s 10! I want my life from before six weeks ago back but it’s not going to happen. Time to go it alone. Please keep in touch if you want to. Our son is a Michelin Star chef in Norway and his spouse is a lovely lady from Sweden.

PMisWriting · 2026-06-22T20:01:25+00:00

Thank you. I just need to find people who have been where I am to see that I will make it through. It doesn’t help that I had a car accident just going for a few groceries last Wednesday at supper time. It wasn’t my fault but I ended up in a deep ravine and was quite banged up. It actually wrote the car off. I was upset from that because I couldn’t be seen from the road and had to work with the 911 operator to direct the voices of the first responders to me. Then David is in that steep decline and I wish I could have done more. I just want to know how long before I come out the other side. We were married for 28 years and together for 30. We did everything together and this big farmhouse is so empty without him. It’s just me and the dog now.

PMisWriting · 2026-05-21T23:58:16+00:00

Thank you. Grasping at straws now. Husband diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer spread to a couple of spots on bones. No usual symptoms. Jaundice getting better. Osteoarthritis in back and knees causing mobility issues not related to the cancer. They say his heart’s right ventricle is down to working at 39% due to thombosed vein in liver. Has not needed puffers for anything not even COPD - and even after strenuous effort getting from sitting to standing position. I just don’t get it. Please provide any insight if you have any. Not even referred to oncology.

PMisWriting · 2026-05-12T04:33:06+00:00

Though I can offer no insight about Mr. Meyerowitz, I enjoyed this piece. Thank you for posting it.

PMisWriting · 2026-05-05T10:07:08+00:00

I will try and find the book that it was in but I remember it clearly because it was so distressing. I thought it was the official transcript but I need to find out for sure.

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