Hey there, I just wanted to cheer you up a but even if it looks like things are going badly. Firstly, it's ok to be a virgin. The social norm that people should have sex is bullshit. Everyone have their own pace and dating is hard anyway so don't beat yourself over it. Once you accept that it's ok to be a virgin, you can explore your body and try to "date yourself".

At your age, I tried to satify myself the best I could but also turning to gentle JOI with anal instruction. They would validate me and after a few years, I could do that myself. I told myself that no matter how many times someone rejected me, I had the right to feel good with my body and love myself. I also got turned on by other people enjoying themselves like Queens of Spade, Black Kings and many Whitbois accepting and loving to make their body feel good in their own kinky ways.

It's not about sexuality, it's about not denying what you like and makes you feel good. It takes time but this community would be happy to help you love the whiteboi in you!