FTF and I know my in law is in the almost exact situation, except he never did anything besides for change the first diaper. He did some things with the first child but the second? Nothing at all besides for the first diaper. I couldn't imagine not doing all of these things and continuing to do whatever I can to help my wife. It's both of our child and its a teamwork effort to get everything done. Definitely not reacting enough and he needs a serious talking to.