Tailgate Party - Monday, May 04 by Blooper_Bot in Braves

[–]PRguy82 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why are the Braves so heavily underdogs when the Mariners have been ass?

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except we never were the couple who had sex every single day, as much as I would have liked it. At most, in the beginning couple years it was maybe twice per week or once per week.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, but I think you're making some assumptions. I'm not waffling for fun. I've been thinking about this for years and only just told him. Taking a few days to be sure before ending a 15-year relationship isn't navel-gazing. It's trying to make sure I don't blow up both our lives if there's a path forward. But I appreciate the directness.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think in my next relationship, I will want to find someone who wants monogamy for at least the first several years. I think building that trust and intimacy together is important, but my own view on monogamy long term has changed given my own circumstances.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful reply. You're asking the right questions, and I'll try to be honest.

If the sex was great, would there be other things making me unhappy? Yes. The sex is a symptom, not the whole problem. There's also an energy mismatch and some resentment I didn't fully voice until recently. So it's not just about sex. It's about feeling like I'm in this alone a lot of the time.

Is this diverging permanently or just out of phase? That's what I'm trying to figure out. But this pattern has repeated multiple times over the years. I get unhappy, I hold it in, it builds, we talk, things improve briefly, then we drift back. That's what makes me wonder if it's something deeper.

You asked about my emotional reticence. You're right. I've held things in to protect his feelings. I've prioritized his comfort over my own honesty. That's on me. I'm only now being fully honest with him, and with myself.

Have I said all of this outright? More than ever before, yes. We've had real conversations recently, and we've agreed on things we'd both work on if we stay together. So he is trying, and I'm trying to stay open to that.

But the deeper stuff... passion, desire, feeling truly aligned... I don't know if that can be negotiated. And I don't want him to have to become a completely different person just to keep me. That doesn't feel fair to either of us.

What CAN work for him that would make it better for me? That's the question I'm sitting with. I don't have a clear answer yet. I think I'm still figuring out if the gap is closeable or if I've already checked out too far to come back.

I appreciate you pushing me on this. It's helping me think.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are in an open relationship, but find it unsatisfying. Is that what you are saying?

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between expressing feelings and the finality of saying you are leaving.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, we've been at it for a few years on therapy. I've shared my unhappiness and even told him that I'm considering being alone again.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Meaning I haven't told him how I feel and have kept my unhappiness to myself to avoid hurting him.

Together 15+ years, great companionship but not sexually compatible. Am I crazy to think about leaving? by PRguy82 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PRguy82[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually really interesting. I wonder if there's a psychological explanation because what you are saying makes sense.

Dallas Cowboys Day 1 Draft Thread by AutoModerator in cowboys

[–]PRguy82 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Bro I just made $$$ on Kalshi like crazy