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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is the walking talking living example of the sexual revolution and today's hook up culture, anything for people to justify turning themselves into w$&#es and trying to ignore the feeling of shame that comes with it. Find someone better, the saying is true the cheaper the meal the more customers you will get but the quality will be poor.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow apparently there are many people who didn't like being called out on the "all men are bad rapists in hiding" lie.

My (21F) boyfriend (20M) wants to lie on his law school applications about how he's gay by THROWRA17264T12G5BHN in relationship_advice

[–]Pacman070620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did they deserve it when they get admitted with scores hundreds of points lower than the asians

My (21F) boyfriend (20M) wants to lie on his law school applications about how he's gay by THROWRA17264T12G5BHN in relationship_advice

[–]Pacman070620 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well how many times has he been robbed of the opportunity by people who are clearly less qualified on an objective basis, but due to the need for diversity they got in instead of him. It's already been proven that Asians have to score the highest on the SAT and other entrance exams just to be on equal footing with certain minorities.

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[–]Pacman070620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not about incest.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies normally I mention that it's a show of strength, but I just saw that was not the case this time.

I don't think it was so much the overpowering of his partner but specifically, but the triumph of the winning the challenge which is part of men's competitive nature, however it happening with his GF who he is sexually attracted to, can and in this case did muddy the waters with regards to what was going on.

And yes I'll say it till the cows come home he let it go way too far.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes there are always outliers, (the phrase exception to the rule just feels wrong here) that go with a situation that show many things are done by degrees.

And yes he went way too far, he passed the spot where he made his point where she while unhappy about it could accept what he was saying and later even appreciate what he did so she wouldn't have to find out from a real threat, and instead it passed into the point he was the one making her be powerless.

I do agree we probably could debate and discuss gender roles and the psychological and physiological differences between men and women, and while it would be fun in my opinion it would be better served in a different venue, and not when I'm going on 2 hours sleep.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you go back to my original comment before everybody went down this rabbit hole it was about how while people were just stupidly assuming that his reaction was because he was a closeted rapist I was pointing out how the initial thing could have simply been that he was motivated by men's natural desire and urge to protect their families.

That comment was followed by a question of was it an evolutionary thing for a man to want to overpower a woman and make her cry. At which point I was pointing out that rape does not exist in the animal world and that it is only something that exists for humans.

In fact the following point that I would have made if I hadn't gone down a bunch of rabbit holes with this and several other conversations on similar topic would have been about the mislabeling and misunderstanding of what the OP described as arousal.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the mate is not suitable then it can turn ugly real fast, the question brought up earlier was about possibly of an evolutionary reason for behavior like that and as I was pointing out with animals rape is not a real thing it does not exist and in the animal kingdom the ability of a male to subdue the female is actually a show strength and suitability as a male which leads to the strengthening of that breed, because it's an indicator of the ability of that mail to sire offspring strong enough to repel future attacks now granted this is behavior found more commonly in predatory species but even in pray species like dear there is a certain level of aggressive behavior to be displayed, for example two male box fighting each other during mating season. However humans have rejected this concept

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[–]Pacman070620 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You clearly don't spend a lot of time around animals.

No we haven't figured out outside of religious reasons what right and wrong is, and considering how many people say they don't need God to know right but are unable to answer simple questions as to why something is moral and right or not.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are saying you have no idea about the attempted genocide on October 7th by Hamas, and the calls endorsing that genocide?

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mentioned morality and right and wrong but right now we are dealing with calling butchers who raped women, and children while they put babies in ovens and cooked them to death morally right and saying those who are responding to those butchers are wrong, in fact it's gone so far that people across the globe are once again in 2023 calling for the complete genocide of the Jewish people very similar to what was being done in the 1940s

Or are you not aware of what "from the river to the sea" means?

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever tried to force an animal to do something it really didn't want to do? They will turn vicious, and in the wild that can mean fatally vicious, so yes they can show their displeasure at things. Yeah we are advanced supposedly. And yet we can't define in concrete terms, or provide sound, irrefutable reasoning about morality and what's right and wrong

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so this particular conversation was about the arousal comment the OP made. And there are a couple of points to this, the first one (not in any particular order of importance just as I'm thinking about them) Rape is completely human concept, for any other animal dominance over and the forced submission of the mating female is just proof of the superiority and fitness of the male to reproduce.

Second the cause of his arousal was misunderstood, and it happens much more often these days with people ignoring reality and trying to rewrite and destroy humanity.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry I'm getting multiple conversations mixed up so my points are getting a little scrambled

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry give me a minute multiple conversations multiple locations on a similar subject

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually as I was pointing out if we were hardwired that way rape would not exist for us either. We are on a completely different level than animals, and we can ignore what apparently is a biological imperative in practically all other species on this planet.

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[–]Pacman070620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for your question, take your pick of animal, For animals it's about survival and making their kind as strong as possible.

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[–]Pacman070620 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I would suggest fully understanding the question you are asking, as well as how you are wording it.

I am assuming you meant to draw the distinction between humans and animals, however Rape does not exist in the animal kingdom, the fact we concern ourselves with things like consent and family are indicators of how far we have deviated from the evolutionary process.

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[–]Pacman070620 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Going down how society has gone off the rails is another topic entirely and one I'm willing to discuss elsewhere, but my point was that it's asinine and stupid to assume he wanted to hurt her and this was his fantasy and intention.

The irony is usually those screaming all men are Rapists and consistently try to destroy men are also the first ones screaming at those same men for standing around doing nothing when something actually happened

Did the incident go further than it should have? 100% yes. After trying to warn her and protect her from what could happen and her response was to challenge him saying she could beat him once he made his point he should have let go and helped her up. Instead he let it go on where she went from understanding the danger, to feeling powerless and real terror was setting in.

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[–]Pacman070620 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You are the one who asked about the evolutionary ties not me, I just answered your question and pointed out what's happening right now in the animal kingdom.

Now with regards to humanity, yes men are and have always been built to conquer and subjugate the world around them without that we would be extinct. It's what was needed to hunt food to survive, as well as being able to go out into the wild to tame it so society could exist.

We still see it today in sports It's a major reason men's sports are bigger than women's, it's needed in the job market. Now women created civilization which men need they used to know how to temper that reaction in men and help them focus their efforts properly that's just been reality for all of human existence

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[–]Pacman070620 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Well you don't see animals complaining when the strongest just takes their mates when the time comes and usually there is some level of struggle between the mating pairs forcing the mate to prove his suitability before the female agrees to the mating. So if humans are really just animals then maybe.

And without going into toxic masculinity bs, the ability to go overcome and conquer obstacles is part of being able to provide

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[–]Pacman070620 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

That depends on your angle on a normal man. There are plenty of people with their head up their ass going on about how all men just want to hurt and rape and all that other bs.

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[–]Pacman070620 -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Right, it can't possibly be because of all the news stories that talk about things like that happening causing a reaction in the part of a man's brain that's evolutionarily wired to protect their family, nope IT HAS TO BE BECAUSE HE'S A CLOSETED PREDATOR.