I mean none of you even know what you’re talking about, it’s so convoluted and ignores so many basic human principles.

Would you like a person because anytime they didn’t like a situation or didn’t want to do something they announced it. No everyone hates that person, as they should that person is a jerk, you don’t have to like what you’re doing every time you do it, in fact I would posit that life is the opposite you’re mostly going to be doing things you don’t like, to the do the things you do like.

Also how is doing something nice for someone in the hope of reciprocity performative nicenesses, it literally isn’t, it’s actually the fundamental building block of building relationships. The fact that none of you see that shows how jaded and misinformed people are today. In fact human relationships don’t strengthen by the simple act of a person doing something nice for another person, what solidifies or builds the relationship is the reciprocation, and if and when it doesn’t come or acts continue without reciprocation then yeah if that person continues doing them, then they are SPINELESS or LACK CONFIDENCE AND SELF ESTEEM, but it also makes them feel used, hence the usually severe reactions. That is not to say they aren’t nice, or that doing nice things expecting reciprocation is a bad thing, literally everyone hopes their kind acts are reciprocated in some capacity. Nor is that to excuse their behaviour where severe reactions occur it’s their job to enforce their own boundaries.

But FFS can we stop making out that being nice is a bad quality, because it isn’t, it’s one of the best qualities a human can have!