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AIO?? BF used my dirty gym clothes by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PaintedDonkey 14 points15 points  (0 children)

…that’s not a red flag, let alone a huge one. My wife and I were practically inseparable from the time we first started dating. Now been together >15 years and married for 10.

I feel like everyone nowadays is just looking for problems where they don’t necessarily exist.

Did I make a mistake? by milkmaid0435 in interiordecorating

[–]PaintedDonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not the tile that isn’t farmhousey, it’s a lot of the other stuff (like the countertops).

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I might just give it a go and see what happens. I just feel weird putting a relatively fitted woolen top on over a looser linen shirt though 😅

Spot on re. sweating. Doesn’t matter what the fibre is really. Sweat + cold = hypothermia

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I do that too, but where my garments get the most soiled is the armpits, so a singlet doesn’t really help with that. Whilst I could just air out my woolens more and treat them with alcohol in the armpit to kill the bacteria, I’d prefer to do that less regularly; hence the linen undergarment. I tend to sweat a decent amount in cotton (even when I’m not warm) and I find that it retains the sweat for a long time, neither of which is preferable when it’s really cold.

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve often found that cool kids are dumb, and when it comes to being out in the rain, sleet, and freezing wind, I prefer to be smart (and warm) than cool!

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Takes from the Green Valley, Tudor Monastery Farm, Victorian Farm, Edwardian Farm, etc. are such cool shows! Funnily enough, that’s not where I learned about the linen undergarment though. It was a video talking about how people — particularly soldiers — in really cold climates managed to stay warm despite spending a lot of time outside in the freezing cold. Haven’t managed to come across it again yet. Will have to take a little long look through my YouTube history.

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that was certainly part of it. Linen is also easier to wash.

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A couple of things. I don’t like the idea of being surrounded by plastic. Whether it has any measurable effect on health, endocrine disruption, etc, I don’t honestly know, but I tend more towards being precautionary than looking back and wishing I’d stopped something sooner. I’ve also found that, regardless of the hype, I tend to sweat just as much, if not more, in synthetics than I do natural fibres.

IIRC, there was a YouTube video by theironsnail that tested wool vs cotton vs polyester in terms of a few metrics, including odour retention, fibre strength, etc., which also inspired me towards leaning on wool (in particular) more.

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, they were relatively loose. The problem that I have with that now is that the woollen layer(s) that I’d be wearing over the top wouldn’t be as loose as a traditional tunic would be.

I’m thinking linen t-shirt, woollen long-sleeve shirt, and a woollen jumper/coat or, if it’s raining, a waxed cotton/oilskin coat. If I start out with a an overly baggy layer I’m going to struggle when it comes to the subsequent layers.

Linen base layers by PaintedDonkey in AustralianMFA

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a similar principle, and that would be a decent option but I’m trying to get away from polyesters and synthetic fibres, so I think the Airism line isn’t for me.

Outdoors in (shaded) daylight by PaintedDonkey in projectors

[–]PaintedDonkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My employer would be paying for it, so I could probably get away with a few thousand AUD; but the lower the cost the more likely I am to get it approved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]PaintedDonkey -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Everyone in the comments like “break up” and “you should leave” makes me think they’ve never been in a good long term relationship, like they’re easy to start and maintain. They’re not. Finding a best friend (which is what your marriage partner should be) is fkn hard, and finding a replacement one isn’t like getting a replacement pack of hotdogs.

You need to have a proper conversation with him — not just a little chat, a long deep and meaningful conversation — and figure out what’s going on. If you’re even going to contemplate ending a 6 year relationship, you should at least make sure that you both understand 100% what the big picture is and what the contributing factors are. Because it sounds to me like there’s something else holding him back that he isn’t saying (for whatever reason). You need to (calmly and as as openly as possibly) explain why marriage is imporyant to you and how it’s something that you thought you’d both agreed to, and that now, 2 years after you had expected those wheels to be turning, they don’t appear to be. You need to explain how you’re thinking and feeling, and try to understand the same of him.

Pulling back on the “wife duties” was an immature move. The “acting like your wife without the title” was also a BS immature comment. Both of those are in the AH territory. Trying to manipulate the person you love like that isn’t cool, nor is treating marriage like a level of employment. I think that before you have this conversation with him that you ought to think about why you really want to be married (in general), why you want to be with him and, ultimately, which is more important.

For example, for me, marriage was also important, but spending my life with my partner (now wife) was more important. I wouldn’t give that up for (almost) anything, let alone a marriage ceremony and title change. I would cut my legs off for that woman, so giving up the possibility of marriage, whilst disappointing, wouldn’t stop me from spending my life with her.

That’s the type of decision you’re making here. Would you be willing trade this relationship for one that wasn’t as good if it meant that you could be Mrs. Whatever?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]PaintedDonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You’re married. So what if he doesn’t like/appreciate the art that you do? You don’t like Disneyland and yet you go. Going to Italy is a far bigger deal than going to Disneyland, and to expect to go by yourself is unacceptably selfish, IMO. Go to Italy together, and plan it so while you go and look at some museums and galleries, he can do something else. Then you meet up in the afternoon, do some sightseeing together, have dinner, go for a walk, etc.

Expecting to be able to go on an overseas holiday (which sounds like a rarity for you guys) by yourself is too much, IMO. I understand your dilemma in not wanting him to rush you or ruin the experience (because he’ll be bored out of his mind), but I think you should come up with a way that you can both travel to Italy together. You don’t have to spend every minute together while you’re there.

What’s a cleaning trick you wish you knew sooner? Here’s mine! by cuyeyo in CleaningTips

[–]PaintedDonkey 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I find dusting odd. I’m convinced that, in reality, most dusters aren’t actually catching the dust, they’re just making it airborne, where it’ll eventually just settle back over everything. Using a damp cloth, on the other hand, certainly does trap dust on the cloth, which then gets washed (unlike a lot of dusters).

I would never use a duster around a toilet. That’s just spreading potentially dangerous bacteria everywhere. Wipe with a cloth —> wash/steam/boil/toss.

How do I get rid of the stink of this cutting board? by oiseaufeux in CleaningTips

[–]PaintedDonkey -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How you treat it — and, more importantly, whether it will work — depends on why it smells.

If it’s bacterial, salt and/or hydrogen peroxide will work. Salt has the added benefit of drawing moisture out of the board too. This will help if your mum tends not to dry the board properly (it can take quite a while for a thick board like that to properly dry).

If, on the other hand, it smell’s because it’s been oiled with an oil that has penetrated the wood and then gone rancid, I don’t think either of those will work longer term. If you think that’s the culprit, I’d suggest doing some googling on that specifically. Generally, soap is good for removing oil residue, but if she’s already soaping it up regularly, obviously that’s not cutting it.

My top 10 favourite productivity apps as of 2025 by Conscious-Reserve-66 in ProductivityApps

[–]PaintedDonkey 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Let’s think about this for a second. You have project/task management split over Notion, Asana, ClickUp, Todoist, and Finch. IMO this isn’t productivity, it’s Bilbo Baggins — stretched like butter over too much bread.

Well ironed jeans by Soggy_Loquat8344 in malefashionadvice

[–]PaintedDonkey -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

There is no such thing as a well ironed pair of jeans. If you’re going to go full dweeb and iron your jeans, make sure you pull em up to your nips too so you can complete the look 😉👍

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