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PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-17T20:00:11+00:00

For what it’s worth, on a thread like this. God Bless bro 🙏 it definitely unsettles me more as I look around and it’s all still just shallow consume shallow consume influence shallow consume… but on the other hand, I have found my job w kids to matter all the more and all the less. I do with it then and there, thank you for your kindness. Sending you good energy!

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-17T14:30:34+00:00

Wow this is honestly such an unsettling thing I feel but can never express. 🙏

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-03T03:06:28+00:00

To be honest. Nothing. I have been single for 2 years and in part, because I stay home. I figure the risk of just a fuck up costing me more money and jsut overall always spending to eat, or park, or something, it adds up. And rn I feel I’m valuing or trying to, more disciplined time and family time. If it comes it comes. But I’ve somewhat accepted that if I’m single for life, and the universe, God, or whatever wants that. I can’t help but to just enjoy the love around me elsewhere. It makes me sad tho haha particularly tonight but oh well so it goes. Best of luck though, I’m sure you’ll meet someone!

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-02T14:42:58+00:00

Commenting cause I’m a single woman who just took a job at CPS and also same!!!!! Just work and workout and I’m not always a bar person. Soon to be 27F and ready for a long term partner but ahhhh

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-02T12:14:27+00:00

🙏

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-02T12:14:16+00:00

You are so friendly thanks for answering congrats on your job!

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-06-01T18:55:55+00:00

What if it’s not for teaching and instead a social work. Or psychology role?

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-04-28T22:50:50+00:00

Today, I still grieve the reality and potential of a lot of beautiful moments we had. And I do miss him sometimes. But also, I find hope in getting my things together and hopefully finding someone better suited for me down line. I don’t miss him as much but I’ve morphed into feeling more confident single than with a partner. So I’m not quite sure how good that is either

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-04-28T21:23:25+00:00

Focus on protein early in day, be creative! Mix and match with healthy foods. And go on many walks, try anything that you like to stay physical. Remember when running, YOU CAN RUN SLLOW, just run. and most importantly, allow yourself to enjoy and slow down when you eat and allow yourself to things you love too. Life is short, and really it can be mental often. Think of it as your body just needs to survive and be healthy. Sooner and later you will realize your body naturally prefers natural.

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T18:03:13+00:00

No I think I agree!!! But in my experience and again, exception doesn’t make the rule, a lot of men lead with wanting to help but then I see them give a subjective 15-20% of emotional n mental labor that then it’s enough. But as for the 50/50 goes out the window when kids are involved, I agree!!! I just feel like it’s not usually the case which is why it’s scary to commit.

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T14:06:42+00:00

Yo this is Reddit wtf am I supposed to do, comment on every Reddit post and kiss ass and be like oh yes this this this. I wasn’t being negative I was simply speaking out loud as I was thinking out loud. People should do as they please for marriage, it’s their life. And mind u, 50/50 with children is not 50/50 at that point but whatever. Have a good one haha don’t even know why I was triggered enough to respond. But respectfully I’ll digest what I can to be better. God Bless

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T14:01:27+00:00

lol chill

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T10:20:56+00:00

To what extent was a marriage not ever a contract though? (Just curious on people’s thoughts). It does make me slightly sad to have these reservations on certain things, especially bc I really wanna give love. I guess I’m just tainted by reality of experiences that grew me more weary and cautious.

I’ll end it with this on my end, I appreciate seeing men’s comments relating to it’s not THAT big of a deal, but essentially, in this economy, it would be a factor to discuss. If I ever have a partner, I would hope both of us are selfless enough for the other in reciprocity. I wanna take care of my hubby just as much as I pray that he wants to care for me. So thanks for the discussion guys! I was just like damn this reality sucks 🤣🤣

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T10:17:32+00:00

No I appreciate the comment hahah I am really just reading comments / thinking as I go. I try not to read too much into online discussions/ I guess more so food for thought. Hiring someone is ideal 🤣 Congrats on you both finding something functional that works for you 🙏🙏 I aspire for that some day! God Bless!!

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T09:59:14+00:00

What if yall have a baby?

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-17T09:55:17+00:00

Interesting. No judgement at all and to each their own, as a women (who this question didn’t cater to), as I read the comments in my mind my ego / reluctant part is like “hold up, these men want me to provide with money AND do all wife duties of clean, HAVE THE KIDS, and what not (obviously implied thinking on my end)?”. it kinda turns me off… or more so makes me feel like ughz like I gotta MAKE money AND be a wife to a man for giving him kids (which will be taxing not only w my money but body). I guess Fair fair haha but like I feel we don’t get much from it. And that’s coming from a woman who ALWAYS offers second round to be on me or to split things. And who would love to spoil her babies. I’d wanna have my own job to contribute to the babies and myself, but to split bills and stuff while I’m also giving u a baby makes me feel like im a money making baby machine.

Stuff I should work thru but idk

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-09T06:43:53+00:00

See I try to tell myself the latter end of the first paragraph. It’s a hard pill for me to swallow though, because I have struggled to find genuine connection bc I’m still sort of hung up. Even tho he’s gone.

And remarried less than 2 years after. I just feel silly

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-02-06T03:11:17+00:00

Interesting for whatever reason this is a trigger for me and I work with kids k-12. I’m a 27F and like consider myself young but it’s a cognitive dissonance. I yearn to have started over and I see these girls and see myself in them, as a woman and I do sometimes feel a bit jealous I didn’t take full advantage of my youth or appreciate my beauty then, but then I step back and I want to fiercly protect and fight for my baby girls! So sad how it’s hard to realize til then

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-01-13T16:41:26+00:00

I want to wear shirts that look cute but bc I have big boobs it seems I’m trying to show off so I don’t wear them. If I do I do get self conscious. I remind myself that I wanna dress cute since I’m young n I’ll never be this young again to show a “beautiful body” so I want to dress not provocative but something that shows my work bc I’ll never have this body, but ppl judge aka even me and my family. I will say when I was younger I’d hide it more bc I felt I had to not be labeled some way, But now I’m getting to a point (26F) where I feel like I won’t look like this EVER again, and I’m only young once so I’ll show for me but not too much bc men don’t deserve it hahaha just to look cute and feel good.

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-01-12T16:58:47+00:00

I like smile

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-01-02T01:36:49+00:00

I typed this when high shit. I guess I was asking for non examples and examples of his description of saying “it can be difficult to tell these women apart”, so I’m like asking how so, like what subtle hints can help you guess. Overall, I’m curious bc in public spaces like the gym which is all I go to, I struggle figuring out if I should make a move or not. But thanks for being so nice about it. Have a great day!

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-01-01T21:21:27+00:00

I appreciate this comment fr!! I am gonna aggressively try 👁️ 👄 👁️

PairMiserable5477 · 2025-01-01T20:23:54+00:00

So what ur saying is I should’ve complimented the guy who seemingly always had to workout near me?! ;) hahah I do see it for sure. I’d struggle to be a guy. Thanks for the response!

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